PUA Forum :: Is it weird that I actually like rejection?

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Rejection is a good thing, its the best way to learn. But it is important that you are being rejected because of the learning curve, and not for some kind of thrill.

Some guys have a self-defeating mindset, in the sense that they go out expecting to be rejected. These guys enjoy being rejected because it proves they were right about their expectations. Unfortunately, these guys tend not to realize that it was the self-defeating attitude that most likely lead to the rejection.

All guys have a certain amount of this self-defeating mindset in some way or form. We allow ourselves to have what we think we deserve. Everyone thinks they deserve a certain level of quality, comparable to their overall self-esteem. If we get more than we think we deserve, we tend to self-sabotage to rid ourselves of that which we don't think we should have. This might be women, it might be a job, it might be money, it might be a family. It doesn't matter what, the mental process is still the same.

I don't know you. This may have nothing to do with you. But it is important to understand this sub-conscious mental process because it tends to limit a lot of guys overall success.

When I take students out, we do some exercises to get into the right frame of mind - which is (i) Having FUN and (ii) Not giving a SHIT. To aid in that process, we spend time doing some retarded shit like saying the WORST chat-up lines ever, or playing the silence game http://www.youtube.com/user/Sashathepua ... 0Qry8p1Ba4

What this does is get the student to realise that

The WORST thing that can possibly happen is the girl says "no" and walks away. And that's if you say the most ridiculous crap EVER!

Even if you're being REALLY WEIRD, the girl will actually often stand there and listen to you! Grab her interest with almost ANYTHING a little out of the ordinary, and she'll be intrigued by you.

=> Imagine what would happen if you came up and had the balls to say something NICE to her in a SINCERE way!

Author:	thinhman [ Sun Jan 23, 2011 3:48 am ]
Post subject:	Is it weird that I actually like rejection?
Like, I really enjoy it. If I get rejected by a girl, I'll literally stay still the second after I'm rejected for about 5 minutes and analyze what went wrong. I mean, I enjoy being successful as well, but I also enjoy being rejected. I was just wondering if that's an uncommon mindset in the game.

Author:	imprint [ Sun Jan 23, 2011 5:34 am ]
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Not wierd, but right mindset. With that you'll improve REALLY fast. You'll definitely go far with that mindset. If it comes naturally, your definitely a natural

Author:	Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Jan 24, 2011 12:27 am ]
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I actually blow myself out intentionally in hilarious ways just for fun and to get myself into a good mood and get in-state. Analysing your blowouts is fine, but remember - a lot of the time, it may have nothing to do with you. She may just not be interested, in a bad mood, or just fucking lame!

Author:	Kalel [ Tue Jan 25, 2011 12:08 pm ]
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Rejection is a good thing, its the best way to learn. But it is important that you are being rejected because of the learning curve, and not for some kind of thrill. Some guys have a self-defeating mindset, in the sense that they go out expecting to be rejected. These guys enjoy being rejected because it proves they were right about their expectations. Unfortunately, these guys tend not to realize that it was the self-defeating attitude that most likely lead to the rejection. All guys have a certain amount of this self-defeating mindset in some way or form. We allow ourselves to have what we think we deserve. Everyone thinks they deserve a certain level of quality, comparable to their overall self-esteem. If we get more than we think we deserve, we tend to self-sabotage to rid ourselves of that which we don't think we should have. This might be women, it might be a job, it might be money, it might be a family. It doesn't matter what, the mental process is still the same. I don't know you. This may have nothing to do with you. But it is important to understand this sub-conscious mental process because it tends to limit a lot of guys overall success.

Author:	Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Tue Jan 25, 2011 12:48 pm ]
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Quote: Rejection is a good thing, its the best way to learn. But it is important that you are being rejected because of the learning curve, and not for some kind of thrill. Some guys have a self-defeating mindset, in the sense that they go out expecting to be rejected. These guys enjoy being rejected because it proves they were right about their expectations. Unfortunately, these guys tend not to realize that it was the self-defeating attitude that most likely lead to the rejection. All guys have a certain amount of this self-defeating mindset in some way or form. We allow ourselves to have what we think we deserve. Everyone thinks they deserve a certain level of quality, comparable to their overall self-esteem. If we get more than we think we deserve, we tend to self-sabotage to rid ourselves of that which we don't think we should have. This might be women, it might be a job, it might be money, it might be a family. It doesn't matter what, the mental process is still the same. I don't know you. This may have nothing to do with you. But it is important to understand this sub-conscious mental process because it tends to limit a lot of guys overall success. When I take students out, we do some exercises to get into the right frame of mind - which is (i) Having FUN and (ii) Not giving a SHIT. To aid in that process, we spend time doing some retarded shit like saying the WORST chat-up lines ever, or playing the silence game http://www.youtube.com/user/Sashathepua ... 0Qry8p1Ba4 What this does is get the student to realise that The WORST thing that can possibly happen is the girl says "no" and walks away. And that's if you say the most ridiculous crap EVER! Even if you're being REALLY WEIRD, the girl will actually often stand there and listen to you! Grab her interest with almost ANYTHING a little out of the ordinary, and she'll be intrigued by you. => Imagine what would happen if you came up and had the balls to say something NICE to her in a SINCERE way!

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Author:	Kalel [ Mon Jan 31, 2011 9:50 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Rejection is a good thing, its the best way to learn. But it is important that you are being rejected because of the learning curve, and not for some kind of thrill. Some guys have a self-defeating mindset, in the sense that they go out expecting to be rejected. These guys enjoy being rejected because it proves they were right about their expectations. Unfortunately, these guys tend not to realize that it was the self-defeating attitude that most likely lead to the rejection. All guys have a certain amount of this self-defeating mindset in some way or form. We allow ourselves to have what we think we deserve. Everyone thinks they deserve a certain level of quality, comparable to their overall self-esteem. If we get more than we think we deserve, we tend to self-sabotage to rid ourselves of that which we don't think we should have. This might be women, it might be a job, it might be money, it might be a family. It doesn't matter what, the mental process is still the same. I don't know you. This may have nothing to do with you. But it is important to understand this sub-conscious mental process because it tends to limit a lot of guys overall success. When I take students out, we do some exercises to get into the right frame of mind - which is (i) Having FUN and (ii) Not giving a SHIT. To aid in that process, we spend time doing some retarded shit like saying the WORST chat-up lines ever, or playing the silence game http://www.youtube.com/user/Sashathepua ... 0Qry8p1Ba4 What this does is get the student to realise that The WORST thing that can possibly happen is the girl says "no" and walks away. And that's if you say the most ridiculous crap EVER! Even if you're being REALLY WEIRD, the girl will actually often stand there and listen to you! Grab her interest with almost ANYTHING a little out of the ordinary, and she'll be intrigued by you. => Imagine what would happen if you came up and had the balls to say something NICE to her in a SINCERE way! Not sure why I was quoted. Is there a question or comment in your post that is directed at me?

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