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| Author: | chick MAGNETO [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 4:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | How can a short guy project value through body language? |
I am short and skinny. Only 5 5' tall. I have great confidence and am charming now. But what troubles me is that I cant project enough value through my body language. What I mean is even if have good body language and posture, its hard to notice it, as am tiny. So girls dont think of me as a 'man'. I always feel like a child. Even though i have job and many other achievements, i think people find it hard to associate with me to success and think of me as naive and inexperienced.And i dont know if others ever had this issue, but me being confident, cocky and dominant itself leads to incongruence! People dont expect that from me. So what can I do now? Girls always feel like they r talking to a child when i approach them, so they dont flirt with me. How can I be more manly? are they any short guys who can give me some advice? |
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| Author: | AGDubz [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 5:13 am ] |
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5'6 - 5'7 here. It helped me a lot when i started lifting. i still get short jokes though, just roll with it. if they see it makes you upset, you look like an insecure bitch. one of the most popular, ass getting dude in my school is a 5'5 wrestler. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 5:16 am ] |
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Sounds like your not being dominate enough and not taking up space, nor do you seem to be walking tall. Tho even if you did this, your height will always be going against you and it will be a never ending battle, that is just fact. There is only so much you can do about it really until you look like you are over compensating for it or what have you. |
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| Author: | cedius [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 7:27 am ] |
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Quote: But what troubles me is that I cant project enough value through my body language.
Once you have this mindset...this is exactly what you will project.I'm 5'7"...I was always quiet...no matter the setting, club, gym, school...you name it. Once I got comfortable, then I was "fun". Ask yourself this... What excites you? What gets you motivated? Why are you doing this??? Here is something to consider...When you have a fresh new outfit, how do you feel? Good right...well, do you feel that girls are looking at you because you have new clothes...do you really think they know that..."OMG, look at his clothes...he looks yummy with those new shoes" Honestly, they don't know jack about you or your clothes...but, you radiate that vibe, "yeah girly...I look good, I'll bang you, your mama and any cousin of yours that crosses me, I'm Mag-Diesel...bitch!!!". Hell, you may even have a smile on you face because you know you feel good about you. My point, the clothes didn't do that, they don't have special powers, it's in your head and you control that, you have given yourself permission to feel good. Keep in mind, you are the interesting person, you are the prize and you are doing them the favor of letting them get to know you because you are a great MO-FO but as soon as you convey insecurities, people will pick up on it and you are just another loser trying taking up space and air. It takes work to adjust your mindset to feel good about you, it's not easy but it can be done...be confident about yourself and take it step by step. If you feel you are too thin, hit the gym...but honestly, I have friends that are thin and they HAVE crazy game! |
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| Author: | Fireball [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 12:31 pm ] |
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I'm 5'5"-5'6" ish too. I won't lie to you, I don't think it's an advantage. People don't understand that it is a major hit on your confidence more than anything else.. If you're in the wrong mindset, just walking into a room full of huge guys makes you feel immediately inferior. I went to a couple singles parties and speed dating events and it helped me a lot, because there are so many AFC's there. I just said, hey, these guys are tall but OMG they are so helpless, and I totally got comfortable with all the ladies. (But don't hang out with AFCs too much, it might rub off on you..) Don't look at tall people as big people, just think of them as big goofy guys that don't know what they're doing. |
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