INSECURITY, JEALOUSY and NEEDINESS are the top 3. These manifest themselves in a ton of different ways though. Like Fireball said don’t ever whine or complain about anything, don’t get angry or show your anger. Be decisive, this is HUGE. Decision making is like a muscle so start practicing now. Be a challenge, don’t answer all her questions.
For me, having a negative attitude and complaining a lot was a big obstacle. After that it was getting over my insecurities. Finally I figured out that girls only care if you care. Like if you are short, fat, skinny, ugly, etc or whatever your insecurity may be, if it genuinely doesn’t bother you than it won’t bother her either. This will be tested for sure and is a good gauge on whether you have your self-esteem(inner game) handled. The other night a girl that was acting luke warm to me threw me a zinger that was about a past insecurity of mine. When I acted genuine that I really didn’t care I could see her attraction skyrocket and she actually commented to her friend that she “likes this guy”. This was huge for me since I know that maybe a year ago this comment would have killed my state and she would have lost attraction for me so I was pumped to see that ive made a lot of progress.
Neediness is a big one too as it communicates all the wrong things about yourself. Its basically saying that you put a ton of value on her because you don’t know when another girl of her caliber will come along. Don’t do things like call too much or send multiple texts before she responds. Don’t be too focused on the outcome, instead just concentrate on enjoying each interaction and having fun with the girl. Another thing a lot of guys do is they meet a girl at a venue, interaction goes well but then they resort to needy behavior and cling to the girl as if they had already won her over or something. This will send them running for the hills so don’t do it. Instead, if you get a girl attracted and interested do the opposite. Break off from her and continue to do your own thing and the girl will see this non-needy behavior and become even more attracted and usually chase you.
A big challenge that a lot of guys experience is that they can do all the right things and employ all the right behaviors with girls that are moderately attractive or they might be attractive but they are not LTR material. But then when a girl comes along that fits their map as to what their “10” would be they have trouble maintaining these attractive behaviors and revert to all the AFC shit that gave them trouble in the first place. This is a tough one and is different for each person. Good luck!
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