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| Author: | rezrez0 [ Sun Jan 09, 2011 7:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | can't seem to get the right mindset.. |
Ok so I've been learning a lot of technique's lately and been reading a lot of advice on these forums. I've definitely learned a lot but I have a problem. Whenever I actually go out I seem to forget everything, or I choose to ignore it. Last night really made me realize how much I f**ked up. I went to a club and didn't seem to want to do anything. A lot of drunk girls and I didn't even feel like approaching them or anything. I actually didn't even approach a girl who I didn't know, not even once. Not cause I have anxiety or anything, just because I didn't feel like doing it (or maybe it's anxiety in disguise. If someone told me to do it i'd do it but I wouldn't do it just for the hell of it). Maybe it's the fact I had my friend following me around everywhere in the club which did get annoying after a while, because I knew a lot more people than he did there. The thing I can't believe is that I never made the first move anytime the whole time. I held hands/danced with two girls that night (girls that I know from before), but those things didn't happen because I wanted them to, they're the ones who started doing it. We stopped and I didn't even continue to dance with them or increase escalation or anything.. Maybe it's also the fact that my cousin was there and brought all her hot friends who flirt with me sometimes (I feel awkward flirting back in front of my cousin though, because she starts calling me out and shit while she makes out with her ex boyfriend in front of me). So many things I just don't know what to think. I shouldn't have any excuses to not do anything. It frustrates me that I am so invested all this PUA material and it interests the hell of out of me and really wish I could be practicing it, but when I go out I blow it. I barely started reading about all this PUA stuff about a month ago and I'd say I'm becoming a bit smarter about it, but I obviously need A LOT more work done. Did anyone else have similar experiences when they were starting off? I really think i need some help here, some advice. I can't seem to get anything right. thank you. |
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| Author: | $uave [ Mon Jan 10, 2011 5:38 pm ] |
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I don't remember who said this but, "First 1000 approaches don't count, so keep practicing" |
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| Author: | Carmo [ Mon Jan 10, 2011 7:12 pm ] |
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Get out of you head and just have FUN! Seriosuly, just go out and try to actually enjoy yourself instead of worrying about doing your approaches. If youre not approaching then make the most of it by gaming the girls you knew through your social circle and work on generating quality interactions that get the girls attracted to you. |
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| Author: | ThisIsTheTrick [ Mon Jan 10, 2011 7:38 pm ] |
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I myself am new too this. I figure it's all about taking it step be step. Start getting adept to the the first parts of the conversation (approach anxiety, opening, hook point). Once your at the hook point I think that's when you actually start having fun. |
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