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Author:  Century100 [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 2:18 am ]
Post subject:  In a relationship. Am I meant to act differently now?
Ive been pushing when with her in person, and pulling when on facebook etc.
(push pull approach)

Now were together. SICK.

But am I expected to stop pulling?
Am I expected to talk to her at least once every day?

My worry is that maybe Ill be too distant for a boyfriend.
Is my best bet to behave exactly how I have been? She does like me a lot.

Sorry guys, ive never been in a relationship before and am a little confused. Any help is greatly appreciated.
Author:  KristallNachte [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 5:16 am ]
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lets see...


change behavior because you've 'won'

or stay with a winning behavior?


did micheal phelps change his training after he won gold medals? HELL FUCKING NO
Author:  MiniMoose [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 5:50 am ]
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Quote:
lets see...


change behavior because you've 'won'

or stay with a winning behavior?


did micheal phelps change his training after he won gold medals? HELL FUCKING NO
While this is definitely true, I dont think thats what he was asking.
Obviously, being new to pick up, the PUA attitude of cocky, funny, etc is mostly faked. Although you're technically being phony and hiding your true shy self, its the only way to make it happen.

Now i dont know the answer, but I think he was asking more along the lines of if he still needs to do all the WORK associated with picking her up in the first place; ie if you have to continue push pulling, cat stringing, DHVing, etc. Can anyone answer that?
Author:  KristallNachte [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 9:08 am ]
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the last thing any girl wants is a guy that changes once he 'has her'.

The main point you brought up is that people are faking their personalities, which is the wrong thing in the first place. Cocky funny shouldn't be a facade you put on, but should become a part of who you are.

When you're always real you never have to worry about being incongruent.
Author:  Legit_ [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 10:49 am ]
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Once you pass all of her shit tests and get into a relationship, another sort of testing begins.

This secondary testing is to actively determine if you're congruent with who you were when you seduced her. If you show that you aren't congruent, she is going to break up with you.

Do the same shit you were doing before. There are a few subtle differences, but you shouldn't worry about that right now.
Author:  Mav- [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 1:59 pm ]
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the last thing any girl wants is a guy that changes once he 'has her'.
Totally agree!
Before I got into all PU stuff I picked my ex girlfriend PERFECTLY according to what I read now. Everything I done was done flawless without me realizing it.
Once we got together I began to be driven by my emotions and that started to pus me away from her.
She likes You for who You were when You guys got to know each other. DON'T CHANGE! Don't change someone she liked.
Author:  darknogo [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 2:09 pm ]
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Did the game really change your true self that much?
sure, when i meet a girl i'm more challenging for her, since i don't know who the F*ck is she, why the hell would i give her special attention like a suitor?!
but when the bitch shield is off, and we get closer, i connect myself to her, showing her my true self with bits of challenging messages..
when you have the girl, stop neg her, don't be rude. but still keep it like you are the reward and not her! that way, you'll keep her close.
Author:  InstantClassic [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 3:47 pm ]
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hey, i myself have been guilty of doing this....changing once you have won....i say stay true to who you have been......if you are wanting to change at all make them small and spread them out over time dont do it all at once dont just become a different person one day cause that is the best way to fail

hope this helps

Carl
Author:  darknogo [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 4:58 pm ]
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couldn't agree more with Carl :)
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