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Author:  Wise Guy [ Fri Dec 24, 2010 1:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Having trouble getting this girl's attention...

This girl in my technology class is really cute and she seems partially interested in me, but she's also somewhat immature and has the attention span of a squirrel so when i'm talking to her and ANYONE calls her name she'll turn around in the middle of the conversation and completely interrupt it. This girl is hot as hell so everyone ie obviously trying to get with her. Should i keep working at it or is this girl hopeless? I know that normally i should give up but i can tell this girl would be a fucking AMAZING LAY. I could use any tips on how to keep her attention on me. I mean normally i would just tell whoever yelled her name to shut the fuck up but i dont want to scare her or something and think i got anger issues.

Author:  Mav- [ Fri Dec 24, 2010 1:50 pm ]
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I'd say Neg her a bit! Especially if she's attractive (like You've said). You can tell her just straight in a face that line with attention span :P.
She's attractive so she's used to guys hitting on her. You have to tease her so she'd prove You otherwise.
Don't forget kino techniques. Show her that you're just "a touchy guy", that it's normal to You to just touch people and that You're simply not aware of it.

Don't yell at people that are calling for her. Those are nothing more but obstacles, try to befriend them too ;).

Those are my few words as a newbie (yet!) but that's what I'd do.

Anyone more experienced... correct me if I'm wrong 8)

Author:  Nyseto [ Fri Dec 24, 2010 6:51 pm ]
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Use kino on her, but NOT in a flirty/seductive way. For example. If you two are at computers and she needs help or something, go over to her and gently throw her hand off the mouse and work it yourself. You can use kino, you can show interest, but it must not come across as LIKING her. I have noticed that a lot of people going into this PUA stuff begin to think that they must be uneedy, to not show that they like the girl, but they do the opposite! Instead they are even more aggressive with their actions and invade the girl's personal space, try to be all seductive and crap and it just doesn't work.

Don't neg her either, that will work against you. What you need to do is act somewhere between nice and mean. If she looked away from me when someone called her name, I would reach my hand over and snap in her face saying, "Hey" with a raised eyebrow. If she gets pissed off then I would say, "How else was I supposed to get your attention?" In a calm but masculine voice while tilting my head and looking less mean.

Don't put the girl down, and certainly don't compliment. You have to get the "raised eyebrows" attitude and be interesting.

If I were talking to that girl and she began to act all immature and stuff, I wouldn't try harder or confront her about it and by confronting I mean, "I'm talking to you, don't you turn away from me." Instead, I would bring up a point and say, "Having you ever seen the way a squirrel moves and acts?" She'll either say, "Yeah, why?" or, "I don't care." If she says "I don't care", I would tilt my head to the side and bring my eyebrows close together (above the nose) and say, "Mmm...nah, not if you pay attention" with a professor-like tone as if you're going to teach her something. And while you're saying that, you're looking around, you're staying in motion while reverting your focus back onto her. Then after that I would say, "You see, a squirrel is a rodent which means that their hearts beat very fast as if they've had too many red bulls. There are just times when you're exactly like that." With eyebrows raised. Maintain that attitude as if you're giving a presentation to teach people something. If she would then continue to be immature like saying, "And your point is.." I would then say, "I just told you..damn see what I mean.." Start this whole thing off from a distance and move in closer. So when you ask her if she's seen the way squirrels act, say that from a laid back position. Then after that lean in to grab her interest more and say the rest.

Get the point now? It's not being mean, it's being INTERESTING. To be interesting, you must be neither mean (arrogant) or nice (ass kisser). Act like you're slapping her on the wrist, be the TEACHER.

Author:  Wise Guy [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 4:01 am ]
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I like the idea about the kind of sarcastic squirrel thing, I'll try that and see what happens. And for your info she's comfortable with pretty much everyone touching her so i'm not sure how to escalate touch if she doesn't care in the first place?

Author:  Nyseto [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 4:38 am ]
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Everyone that touches her..is not in a sexual way, or it is in a sexual way but it's sarcastic. In order to make the kino count, she must get the idea that it's serious and more than friendship. If you want this girl, you must be mature with her and interesting at the same time. Start the kino normal like touching her on the shoulder, touching her hand, etc. You can even palm read if you want to touch her hand. If you make the kino sexual at first, it will appear as if you're easy to get and it won't seem as serious for her.

YOU must be the one she has to chase after. Show her uneedy behavior. Make her work for your attention instead. While you're taking to her, begin talking to someone else spontaneously leaving her looking at you. You can even say to her, "You're pretty, but beauty is so common these days that beautiful girls aren't that smart." DHVs you, sends her a mixed signal, and also makes her feel as if she has to jump through your hoop.

When she acts all immature and stuff, you can lay a hand on her shoulder and ask her if she's ok, etc.

Give her the space, do not come on to her. Only lean in when you have something important to say. Once you think you've built up the attraction and she's interested in you, play it off by acting uneedy. In a conversation for example when you know you've got her attracted and all, just get up and leave saying she was fun talking to or something like that. Even if you're moving to the other end of the class room or seeing her the next day, she'll think, "What the hell." Separate yourself from everyone else, be original. Make her jump through your hoops.

You can do all sorts of shit. I knew a girl in one of my classes before where I made her a flower out of a napkin and I turned around giving it to her saying, "I made this for you not because I like you or I think you're very pretty, but because you sit really close to me." or it could be, "because you smile a lot/because you ask a lot of questions/because you're funny." I told another girl once, "Here, I made this for you not because you're exceptionally pretty, but because you're pretty." and walked away with a smile..

Author:  Wise Guy [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 4:50 am ]
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The thing that makes it so hard to try to use game is the fact that all these guys suffocate her with attention, when i tell you half the boys in the class come sit by her and try to talk to her at the end of class i'm not kidding. Should i just be alpha and get her attention on me? And how would i accomplish doing so?

Also, she kind of confides in me sometimes, like half of the guys that yell her name and stuff she said they annoy the shit out of her and that she can't stand them, so that tells me that at least she thinks i'm above most of them.

Author:  greycon88 [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 5:49 pm ]
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Push push push, then pull her in when the moment is right. You sound way to desperate. Carry yourself around with confidence and MAKE HER work for YOU.

Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 7:25 pm ]
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Get her out of the situation where she can be distracted.

Catch her on the way out of class, tell her you think she's fun/cute whatever and say you guys should do something (goto the mall, grab a coffee, goto an arcade, etc.) some afternoon (give her a choice of two days).

Say it with the confidence that you're assuming it's happening, ie. "Let's go to XYZ it's awesome you'll love it, I'll see you at 5" or whatever, NOT "um..if you're not busy...uh, would you like to come with me? Please?"

DON'T BE A PUSSY
DO IT.

Author:  Wise Guy [ Sat Dec 25, 2010 9:37 pm ]
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Haha alright, but should i get her number first before i say lets do something?

Author:  Wise Guy [ Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:19 am ]
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And the thing is i have plenty of confidence to approach a girl and say lets chill but im not driving yet and having to get a ride from my parents just makes me lose a lot of confidence to ask a girl to chill, any help in that area too? And yes i have been trying to get my license.

Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:25 pm ]
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Haha alright, but should i get her number first before i say lets do something?
No. Arrange the thing first, then exchange contact info in case one of you is gonna be late.

Get dropped off 30 mins to an hour ahead of time and do some daygame to get in a fun social mood. You have nothing to be unconfident about.

Author:  Wise Guy [ Mon Dec 27, 2010 2:17 pm ]
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Well couldnt i just tell her we should chill sometime and then ask her for her number so i could call her? I cant stand not bein in contact with people

Author:  Wise Guy [ Tue Dec 28, 2010 7:00 am ]
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Not sure how it works in London

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