For the past year I have been involved with a girl who is a long-term relationship. I've had friends constantly tell me to stop what I am doing, but I disregarded them because I am a bit hard headed and generally will get the things that I want. Me and her have made out on numerous occasions, and a week ago we slept together (no sex). And anytime we have any sort of intimacy, there are a lot of space between us. I am not obsessing over this girl, I have been controlling my emotions pretty well, but at the same time she knows what I expect from her (dating), which I think gave her too much of an upper hand and is killing me now.

6 months ago, she told me I was a player when she found out about the other girls I have been doing stuff on the side with, but I think I managed to convince her that she is special (... and that other bullshit; most of which I meant).

We have made out on numerous occasions, the last time I tried to stop whatever that is between us. We ended up hooking up again and she told me that she misses what we had. Basically, I need some hardcore advice, which pertains to your view on the situation because I am the most experienced out of all my friends, and I am lost.