What you are feeling is the inevitable chemical rush of jealousy that results from living in a competitive sexual environment. Learn to control it. It is never a good thing
(A) You are showing her that she can get a rise out of you by flirting with other guys. From now on she will preemptively use jealousy as a tool to get more attention or condition you.
(B) Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, by displaying it you simply lower attraction. The key to keeping a girl faithful is to increase her interest level, you will NEVER be able to prevent a girl from cheating by being over-protective. A girl does not cheat on a dominant Alpha Male she is highly attracted to because it is in her nature NOT to. If he is an Alpha Male, then there is no biological payoff to cheat, she is not inclined to do so. Men are different because there is ALWAYS an increased pay-off for cheating (hence why sometimes men cheat even when they are in love, simply for variety).
(C) You are starting your relationship based on fear. You are creating a fertile breeding ground for psychological dependency i e; a bad case of Oneitis. The other route is that you won't get Oneitis and you'll simply foster a resentment against her. Either ways, it is not going to end up well.
Quote: I looked at her facebook and it seems she has some guy friends talking about taking shots this n that. And that makes me go WTF! They talking about hanging out on the weekend too....
In General, it's a good idea not to go on any girls facebook and look through her wall posts. It's AFC / stalkerish behavior and only has potential to harm your chances unless you use the material on her facebook profile to cultivate a cosmic level of Jedi Game that she has no chance of resisting
Quote: Can girls just be friends with guys?
Girls love to have guy "friends," it is the greatest female social convention ever invented. A Guy "friend" is essentially a guy who fulfills her needs in a male-female dynamic (nourishment, protection, attention, affection) without asking for sex. Allows her to maximize utility while saving sex for someone more Alpha.
Quote: I almost want to tell her something but I also have many girls as friends that always post on my wall asking to hangout this n that.
If you tell her something, you will enter a submissive state. As a result, if you ever flirt with another girl, she will flirt with other guys for retribution. On the other hand, if you enter in a dominant Alpha State, then flirting with other girls will simply raise her interest level in you. There is nothing more ego-gratifying to a woman than seeing other women want her man.
Quote: Anyways.... Should I be concerned?? Confused
You should be extremely concerned. Not over her talking to other guys, but over your case of jealousy. Insecurities have a parasitic mind-warping effect on Men, you must exterminate them mercilessly.
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