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Author:  youngstallion [ Wed Dec 15, 2010 10:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Girlfriend says I always hurt her feelings.

I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. The thing is though she says I 'm always mean and hurt her feelings. For example she says "I'm gonna take a class with 40 guys in it and I say cool I'm gonna take dance with all the girls in it in cocky funny manner. She then went and started a fight and ignores me saying "are you ready to be nice yet? "every time I tried to talk to her. I've tried to ignore her and it makes things worst with. Given she does this kinda of thing like 4 times a week or more. Then I usually don't apologize and she gets over by like 15 mins when shes in her next class.
Also anytime I say something cocky funny reply to her question like Would you risk yourself if I'm falling off a cliff now she says" you would do that to your girlfriend? Fine you don't get anything now". Anytime she doesn't get her way she walks off or backs away from and waits for me to say something .So any advice on these shit test would helpful and she does these everytime I'm with her now?

Note: She will try to bring her friends into something about what i did that was mean and they are her best friends they will agree me everytime that I didn't mean it like that.

Author:  new2game [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 2:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend says I always hurt her feelings.

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I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. The thing is though she says I 'm always mean and hurt her feelings. For example she says "I'm gonna take a class with 40 guys in it and I say cool I'm gonna take dance with all the girls in it in cocky funny manner. She then went and started a fight and ignores me saying "are you ready to be nice yet? "every time I tried to talk to her. I've tried to ignore her and it makes things worst with. Given she does this kinda of thing like 4 times a week or more. Then I usually don't apologize and she gets over by like 15 mins when shes in her next class.
Also anytime I say something cocky funny reply to her question like Would you risk yourself if I'm falling off a cliff now she says" you would do that to your girlfriend? Fine you don't get anything now". Anytime she doesn't get her way she walks off or backs away from and waits for me to say something .So any advice on these shit test would helpful and she does these everytime I'm with her now?

Note: She will try to bring her friends into something about what i did that was mean and they are her best friends they will agree me everytime that I didn't mean it like that.
From my point of view you have 2 options.

Option 1 - be the MAN and ignore her shit tests. Ie, when she said she would dance with 40 guys or watever, ignore that,

Option 2- Ease up on the C&F. Odds are if she is getting angry at you after you did some C&F, you aren't being C&F, your being a jerk.
You don't have to be C&F 24/7, try being REAL with her.

Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 10:19 am ]
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Sounds to me like you're not fucking her right.

Are you taking the time out of your busy schedule to really fuck the shit out of her from behind, while slapping her ass and calling her your dirty little bitch? Are you giving her clitoral and g and deep spot orgasms after 15-20 minutes of foreplay before even penetrating her? Because a girl you're giving that to doesn't usually pick stupid fights all the time, not after just 3 months.

Author:  KristallNachte [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 12:18 pm ]
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sounds to me like a perfect example of Bitches be crazy!

Author:  Mind Hacker [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 12:22 pm ]
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sounds to me like a perfect example of Bitches be crazy!
LOL
Agree.

I got a girl exactly like this these days. She creates shit tests like this, I pass the tests with C&F and she can't take that I passed the tests and wants control back and starts getting mad and creating fights. Then she says it was all my fault and plays the victim.

Some bitches are crazy. :lol:

Author:  FlabbaJabba [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 1:13 pm ]
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Sounds like a psycho bitch. Dump her sorry ass and move on to one of her friends.

Author:  tieen [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 2:53 pm ]
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This chick is eating your energy. Dump it or do what blondguy sad, hes right if you would do the thing right she wouldnt be like that.

Author:  kasabi [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 4:34 pm ]
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Blondguy's on the right track but it doesn't necessarily have to be about sex.

Think about it carefully. Does the immature idiot act make you feel better? You already know that it doesn't make her feel better. Then what's the point of a relationship if every interaction leads both parties to feel WORSE? Your girl is STARVING for love. Will better sex do it? Maybe . . . but if you like/love this girl and you want to stick with her for a while, you're going to have to figure out way(s) to communicate your feelings to her. And if you do not like her, cut if off now. Why spend more days of pissing each other off?

I think too many guys have a completely wrong idea of C/F. The idea isn't to be a fucking douche bag. The idea is to keep her on her toes. If she's frowning and turning her back to you, the "funny" part of C/F ain't working. There is NOTHING wrong with acts of kindness and displays of affection to the person YOU ARE DATING! Why so many guys treat their girlfriends worse than some random dude he sees on the bus once in a while is beyond me.

Here's my version of "EAT this, NOT that."

* Gift Giving: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because the typical AFC buys expensive gifts ALL THE TIME as leverage for vagina. Do this instead: Yank a flower from a neighbor's yard and tell her, "I broke the law . . . I am a criminal now . . . but I did it all for you. . . (big hug) . . . Get going . . . we've got 5 minutes before the cops arrive."

* "I love you": Gets a bad rap from PUA's because 1. You probably don't really love her. 2. 3. 4. (Too many reasons to list.) Until you REALLY love her, Do this instead: Affirm your feelings for her through verbal exchanges but continue to be funny.
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I'm gonna take dance with all the girls in it
This response does not at all acknowledge her needs. Why not something like:

"Oh My God . . . 40 guys? (Pull her in and kiss her) Now listen to me . . . I'm afraid I'm going to have to slap a Sticky to your forehead that reads, "_____'s boyfriend" every time you go to that class. 35 guys in a class is the cut off. After that . . .Sticky . . . forehead . . . Fess up now, how many other classes you have with more than 35 guys?!?!" - Shows her she's being an idiot + Shows you have feelings for her + shows you have good humor + feeds her a dose of love.

*Doing shit for her: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because guys will change oil in her car, fix her kitchen sink, run errands for her, remodel her bathroom, thinking she will fuck him. Do this instead: Take one ludicrous act of 'service' out of the blue, without her asking for it . . .and do it. You see her coming out of class and you tell her, "Today, I'm going to prove to you that I'm a gentleman. Your books, in my hands, NOW! Don't you make me shake those books out of your hands! . . ."

* Spending all your time with her: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because guys will cling to a girl 24/7. Do this instead: Improve the QUALITY of the time that you are with her. Plan it, call places up, make it special. Make her STARVE for another 'date'.

Author:  Chelios [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 5:52 pm ]
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Well said Kasabi.

It's about being different, and making her wanting her more than you want her, in a sense anyway.

Kasabi put it best by saying, make her starve for another date or the next time to see you.

Humor, independence will make you go a long way with women.

Don't rise to her shit tests, most of the time, ignore it, of course it's hard but you can, also, if you do reply, make it look as if you don't care and laugh it off.

Author:  minsok [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 3:14 am ]
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Oh my god. You guys are probably ALL wrong. You say you do cocky funny, but maybe you're just doing it wrong. People can't tell when I'm being sarcastic because my tonality is too subtle for anything but dogs to detect. Do this. Record yourself being cocky funny with your girlfriend and when you upset her, play back how you said what you said that set her off. Good chance you sounded like a douche and she was totally right. Shit, post it on here and we'll tell you for sure who was wrong.

Author:  Chelios [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 9:28 am ]
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Oh my god. You guys are probably ALL wrong. You say you do cocky funny, but maybe you're just doing it wrong. People can't tell when I'm being sarcastic because my tonality is too subtle for anything but dogs to detect. Do this. Record yourself being cocky funny with your girlfriend and when you upset her, play back how you said what you said that set her off. Good chance you sounded like a douche and she was totally right. Shit, post it on here and we'll tell you for sure who was wrong.
I do agree to an extent, that's why, in a serious LTR, it's sometimes how you show care, not what you say. Tone says a lot more than actual words, even at the best of times.

Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 10:58 am ]
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Blondguy's on the right track but it doesn't necessarily have to be about sex.

Think about it carefully. Does the immature idiot act make you feel better? You already know that it doesn't make her feel better. Then what's the point of a relationship if every interaction leads both parties to feel WORSE? Your girl is STARVING for love. Will better sex do it? Maybe . . . but if you like/love this girl and you want to stick with her for a while, you're going to have to figure out way(s) to communicate your feelings to her. And if you do not like her, cut if off now. Why spend more days of pissing each other off?

I think too many guys have a completely wrong idea of C/F. The idea isn't to be a fucking douche bag. The idea is to keep her on her toes. If she's frowning and turning her back to you, the "funny" part of C/F ain't working. There is NOTHING wrong with acts of kindness and displays of affection to the person YOU ARE DATING! Why so many guys treat their girlfriends worse than some random dude he sees on the bus once in a while is beyond me.

Here's my version of "EAT this, NOT that."

* Gift Giving: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because the typical AFC buys expensive gifts ALL THE TIME as leverage for vagina. Do this instead: Yank a flower from a neighbor's yard and tell her, "I broke the law . . . I am a criminal now . . . but I did it all for you. . . (big hug) . . . Get going . . . we've got 5 minutes before the cops arrive."

* "I love you": Gets a bad rap from PUA's because 1. You probably don't really love her. 2. 3. 4. (Too many reasons to list.) Until you REALLY love her, Do this instead: Affirm your feelings for her through verbal exchanges but continue to be funny.
Quote:
I'm gonna take dance with all the girls in it
This response does not at all acknowledge her needs. Why not something like:

"Oh My God . . . 40 guys? (Pull her in and kiss her) Now listen to me . . . I'm afraid I'm going to have to slap a Sticky to your forehead that reads, "_____'s boyfriend" every time you go to that class. 35 guys in a class is the cut off. After that . . .Sticky . . . forehead . . . Fess up now, how many other classes you have with more than 35 guys?!?!" - Shows her she's being an idiot + Shows you have feelings for her + shows you have good humor + feeds her a dose of love.

*Doing shit for her: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because guys will change oil in her car, fix her kitchen sink, run errands for her, remodel her bathroom, thinking she will fuck him. Do this instead: Take one ludicrous act of 'service' out of the blue, without her asking for it . . .and do it. You see her coming out of class and you tell her, "Today, I'm going to prove to you that I'm a gentleman. Your books, in my hands, NOW! Don't you make me shake those books out of your hands! . . ."

* Spending all your time with her: Gets a bad rap from PUA's because guys will cling to a girl 24/7. Do this instead: Improve the QUALITY of the time that you are with her. Plan it, call places up, make it special. Make her STARVE for another 'date'.
AWESOME post. All so true.

Author:  KristallNachte [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 12:16 pm ]
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Kasabi....I...i love you....

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