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| Author: | J-Diddy [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 5:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | getting discouraged |
Hey guys, I've not been having much success lately, It seems like every time I try something new I always get shot down. I mean it almost feels like I'm starting to get desperate and take anything I can get. Used to be a lot more selective. I just need to find that drive I once had when I first started... Ever have a plateau when exercising? It kind of feels like that. All this time and energy and not much to show for it. Maybe I've been to negative, but I find myself not wanting to put in the effort if all its going to lead to is a flake out... What do you guys think? |
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| Author: | farismagic [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 6:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: getting discouraged |
I think you should just have fun with it. who cares if you get shot down you don't even know the people. And don't let the pressure from your past that you use to be good but now your not as good bring you down and give you thoughts that are just in your heard. When you do it, have that mind set that you are doing it for fun fail success its a win/win situation. And you sound not confidant you gotta work on your confidence by forgetting that you were good only before and that you are always good at this. try this exercise it helps a lot with ur Approach Ang. and confidence. just you see a girl you are attracted to go talk to her after 3 seconds don't even think about it Just approach. I know it's kinda ballsy but who cares just do it and you will get use to to talking to girls a lot more, it will help you with your confidence and your AA. |
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| Author: | J-Diddy [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 6:35 pm ] |
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Magic, Your right I need to stop thinking about my self and the past. Forget it all, approach and laugh about how funny it is either way. Things are only serious and sad if that's what I focus on. Enjoying the moment is key. |
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| Author: | cerebralassassin [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 6:45 pm ] |
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rather then going with the intent of sarging try going out and just having fun and chilling then if an opportunity with an hb arises take it! when i first started i knew guys that went out with the only intent of picking girls up and then if they got turned down they got depressed their energy went down and surprise they didnt want to sarge, |
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| Author: | J-Diddy [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 7:10 pm ] |
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Gotcha, Its all about filling people up when your talking to them. Giving someone a happy experience rather than trying to take something away. "I don't need anything from you I'm having a great time and if you want to tag along its going to be a wild ride." |
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| Author: | cerebralassassin [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 7:20 pm ] |
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precisely, going out with a intent to just sarge depletes your energy and will drain you down |
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| Author: | SCB [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 7:29 pm ] |
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Easy way to not get discouraged: Don't go out with the sole intent to pick up, go out to have fun and brighten up just one persons day and you will get fufillment in some way. Good Luck and don't give up just yet, keep going, it gets harder before it gets easier, but damn is it worth it. |
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| Author: | fifeguy86 [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 7:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | re |
yeah. deffo SCB, go out to have have fun primarilly and see women as a 'bonus'if you like. the guy having fun is more attractive than the guy constantly scanning the room looking at girls. |
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| Author: | J-Diddy [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:30 pm ] |
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Wow this is great, sometimes all I need is some helpful feedback. I'm feeling better already. I was at this cougar restaurant the other night with an older pick-up friend and it just dawned on me. What ever venue he was at he always had at least two lady friends meet him there. They we're either old friends or someone he met the day before. We would talk to them for a few mins then over to meet someone new then back and forth. It was so funny to see the tension between the two groups of women mainly because they we're older and we're trying to hide their jealously. The first thing he told me was. "Forget what ever your read, Its all about RAPPORT." I think I'm going to concentrate on making female friends for now. |
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