Quote: Can dressing up nice boost confidence? Can being called acomedian by a girl increase confidence?
I am 16, and have been suffering from great aa, but recently I started aproaching alot of women, and they find me really funny, after I start talking to a girl I have the most amazing confidence a player can hope for, but when it comes to actually aproaching the women I find this huge hesitation, is there away I can get rid of my hesitation of aproaching so I am able to reduce it to a minimum ?
I had the same exact problem as you. When I was introduced to people through friends, it was comfortable and they nearly always loved me and I got/get the "omg you should be a comedian" line almost every weekend.
The problem was approaching people I didnt know, especially if I was alone. If I had at least one friend with me it made it easier because he/she would act as a mental bodyguard.
my advice to you would be to try the newbie challenge, go to a crowded place in your area and just say "hello" or "hi" to anyone you dont know. I put my own spin on this by asking "Hi, can you recommend a good place around here to visit/eat/etc?"
do this for a whole day and see how you feel.
I just did it last week at a large mall in the suburbs where I live (woodfield in chicago) and I felt great afterwards, since a lot of the time I got good responses. Also we look a little alike (I'm Persian) so your appearance isnt an issue, you just have to be a warm confident person.
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