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Author:  Keera [ Tue Nov 30, 2010 6:01 am ]
Post subject:  College Game: Showed Excessive Interest on Day Two
I'm in university, and over the past few weeks a HB7 in one of my classes has been showing me a ton of IOIs. Eye contact, random questions, smiles, etc. Didn't really pay much attention at the beginning, but made my move about 2 weeks ago and #closed her. So far so good.

Day Two
We went out for lunch, and I pretty much spent the entire hour smiling like a goof while she was talking and making jokes (in retrospect, they were lame). I'm aware that you're not suppose to do this, but she was responding well and seemed to be having a good time, so I pretty much played porch monkey the whole time.

Day Three
I call her up for dinner, and she reschedules for lunch the next day. I respond with a text with a just a time and location. Next day, I get semi-flaked. She doesn't show up at the specified time, but texts me about 10 min later(I was already leaving)to tell me that she has to leave and that we should have lunch some other day. Is this even a flake? I mean, she didn't bother to let me know in advance- but it could possibly be that she was afraid I was a no show since my text was somewhat vague.

Day Four
I text her to schedule dinner. She agrees and shows up- but says she can't have dinner. This threw me off and I pretty much went into AFC mode and didn't say/do anything since I didn't have a backup plan. Instead, I took her for a walk that ended with just me waving her away. Weak, I know.

Day Five
I text her telling her we're gonna hang out- no response. Two days later, I call her. No call back.

Did I screw up in the beginning? Should I just ignore her completely and start anew in a couple of weeks? I'm still quite new to this- please let me know what you think!
Author:  Legit_ [ Tue Nov 30, 2010 6:37 am ]
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In not even a single step, from what you describe, do you do anything even remotely "PUA." The entire sequence was AFC.

At least tell me that on your dinner (really?) and lunch dates you didn't pay for her.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Tue Nov 30, 2010 5:16 pm ]
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She doesn't like you. Move on.
Author:  Keera [ Thu Dec 02, 2010 6:09 pm ]
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Thanks for the replies guys! I'm well aware that most of what I did were AFC. It's just that I've never really had any girl give me that many IOI's. I mean, she pretty much initiated conversation with me- and that rattled me because shit like that rarely happens. So I let my guard down and played nice and funny guy because I assumed that there was no need for me to build any more attraction, so it was safe to "just have fun". Wrong move, I know.

Thanks for the input guys- sometimes it takes an external party to call you out on your own bullshit.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Dec 02, 2010 7:26 pm ]
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there was no need for me to build any more attraction, so it was safe to "just have fun".
Think of it this way. A girl cannot say "I want to fuck you." Because of society and all the rest of that bullshit, they can only indicate indirectly that they're interested.

If a girl goes out of her way to throw you a lot of IOIs, and you DON'T escalate, you're basically insulting her. You're saying you're not interested. She will either assume she's not your type, you're a pussy, or you're gay.

You can still "have fun." Hell, this is called GAME - it should be fun! You can still make jokes and make fun of her and all the rest of it - but you have to, at the very least, physically escalate and/or turn the conversation sexual and/or get her to qualify herself and build some comfort, otherwise she'll get bored and frustrated that you're not moving the interaction forwards and will find another guy who WILL.
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