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Author:  LoyalThinker [ Fri Nov 19, 2010 10:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Attraction question
After I met a girl and I ask her for a going out, can I assume she is attracted to me therefore I can continue with the Qualification phase OR there is the possibility that the attraction phase has just began but I should continue increasing the attraction?

I have failed too many times I have been with girls that I like but they lose their interest, I keep thinking that I am too shy, timid, boring, slow paced, needy, serious you name it.

I think that I never qualificate a girl I assume that the more straightforward I am showing that I like her the better... according to Magic Bullets... BIG mistake. I agree, nobody cares the free stuff.
Author:  AdamThomas [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 1:00 pm ]
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If a girl is going to meet you for a date then yes you should assume she's attracted to you, she wouldn't be on a date with you otherwise. Spending too much time trying to get a girl attracted will lose them, girls get really annoyed when they like a guy and he still trys to do stuff to get them to like him more. It's try hard.

Your main focus on a date should be to just to have fun, get to know the girl, qualify her and escalate.
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I keep thinking that I am too shy, timid, boring, slow paced, needy, serious you name it.
Maybe. As I said, focus on more fun, qualifying the girl and escalate faster. I used to lose girls all the time because I was so shy, and not escalate.
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I never qualificate a girl I assume that the more straightforward I am showing that I like her the better... according to Magic Bullets... BIG mistake.
That's bullshit. I'm always very direct, very straightforward and honest. The idea of not showing that you like her better is the idea of being non-needy, which some people mistake as having to pretend you don't like her. You can be honest and straightforward about liking her without being needy. Your attitude towards her should be - 50% I like you and 50% I'm screening you/qualifying you to see if you have anything more going for you. When you start to find things you really like about her, then you escalate. Seriously, people overcomplicate things too much (a lot of the time so that they can sell you more of their products).

Hope this helps :)
Author:  LoyalThinker [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 5:51 pm ]
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thanks for your reply. I struggle having fun when I am with a girl that I like, I am trying to learn jokes and tell them, the problem is that I found jokes laughlables only when they refer to sexual/adult situations and I don't talk about these subjects with girls that I like.

Do you have more suggestions for fun activities?
Author:  AdamThomas [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 6:44 pm ]
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thanks for your reply. I struggle having fun when I am with a girl that I like, I am trying to learn jokes and tell them, the problem is that I found jokes laughlables only when they refer to sexual/adult situations and I don't talk about these subjects with girls that I like.
You're welcome :) and why not use sexual jokes? They're my favorite kind lol... As long as you don't do them in a creepy way or use them too much they help to keep the conversation more sexual, which you definately want to do with a girl you like.

You seem like you're intimidated by girls you're attracted to and you like to play it safe. Try not to worry about it so much. If you want to get good you have to be willing to risk losing the girl and try things. That might be the main problem here, it's how I used to be. Stops you having fun, stops you from making a move, then you end up losing the girl.

Fun activities... Bowling, ice skating, crazy golf, amuesments... I don't usually do those until I know a girl well, but you could try them maybe :)
Author:  LoyalThinker [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 11:55 pm ]
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thanks for your reply. I struggle having fun when I am with a girl that I like, I am trying to learn jokes and tell them, the problem is that I found jokes laughlables only when they refer to sexual/adult situations and I don't talk about these subjects with girls that I like.
You're welcome :) and why not use sexual jokes? They're my favorite kind lol... As long as you don't do them in a creepy way or use them too much they help to keep the conversation more sexual, which you definately want to do with a girl you like.

You seem like you're intimidated by girls you're attracted to and you like to play it safe. Try not to worry about it so much. If you want to get good you have to be willing to risk losing the girl and try things. That might be the main problem here, it's how I used to be. Stops you having fun, stops you from making a move, then you end up losing the girl.

Fun activities... Bowling, ice skating, crazy golf, amuesments... I don't usually do those until I know a girl well, but you could try them maybe :)
That is exactly how I feel worried to lose the girl. I will have to work harder to overcome this
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