First off, you said something along the lines of "I want to invite her on a date but I'm afraid she'll flake" i.e. "I have a desire and want to act on it but am afraid of failure." The only failure is not trying. Everything else is learning along the way to success.
It does sound like you may have killed the initial attraction levels. Especially as that thanksgiving invite was kind of strange.
1. Wait a week or so without contacting her
2. Send out a text that is random and / or funny and gets her interested, e.g. "so apparently large amounts of alcohol, drunk dancing and a set of hair trimming products dont mix..."
3. She'll likely get back to you, depending on what you say with "omg what happened" or "lol sounds fun!"
4. THEN reply after a while with an invite.
About invites - until you've had sex a few times with a girl, there is no DATE. Do not be thinking dinner or movie or anything like that. It puts her in much more of a pressure situation than she wants to be. This is why your thanksgiving idea was so bad. She doesn't really know you that well and you're inviting her on a journey with some other guy to meet some family and spend hours and hours with you? I wouldn't do this unless I'd be seeing a girl pretty seriously for MONTHS.
Finally, you say you are "too busy" to "practice" because you have COLLEGE? Well, first off, game isn't something you do between the hours of 10-1 on a friday or something. Every time you walk outside to get lunch or shop for some jeans or get on the train, is an opportunity to make a connection with any number of women. All you have to do is talk to them. That's practice right there, on your way somewhere, for 5-10 minutes. Are you telling me you don't have time for THAT?
Secondly, don't think of game as a bunch of tricks that you say "ok I like this women, time to use the tricks now." It should be part of who you are as a person. This is where the inner game part comes in.
Inner game and outer game mutually reinforce each other and should progress together. Outer game is the things you say and do, how you talk, walk, act, dress, etc. Inner game is the beliefs you have about yourself, the world, other people and society. As you gain more success using some outer game techniques, your inner game will improve because you will see yourself as a more confident person who is good with women. When you have an inner game breakthrough that makes you realise you don't need other's validation, then your outer game will improve because you won't need to come up with witty one-liners and instead you will be able to deal with shit tests or AMOGs simply by ignoring them and re-framing the interaction.
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