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Author:  PRookie [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 3:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Need advice on talking with girls on the busstop
As I said above I need some advice on how to start to talk to girls on the bus or at the busstop.
I dont know how to start the conversation!
And I dont want to be 2 personal and ask Where they are going, I did it once and she answered "none of your business" :shock:

haha maybe stupid to start with =/ haha So Im asking you guys
How should I start? Some good openers?

Thanks :lol: :D
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 4:43 pm ]
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I'd do it less direct. Maybe they'd have something interested with them you could ask them about. Or maybe ask her where you should get off when you need to go to some street. Or if the bus driver looks funny, ask her something about it. But don't make your opener too direct and/or too personal.
Author:  PRookie [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 5:31 pm ]
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I'd do it less direct.
Ye that sound right, but i really dont know what to say.
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maybe ask her where you should get off when you need to go to some street
I cant say that one because its a small city not many places to go =/

But
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Maybe they'd have something interested with them you could ask them about
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Or if the bus driver looks funny, ask her something about it.
They sound nice, but do you have anymore? =D
Or someone?
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 6:01 pm ]
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Well, I just made them up on the spot. And I'm not that creative, so I'm sure you can think of some others ones yourself.

But, just because I am a good person, I will rack my brain once again. :P

...10 minutes later...

Ask her something about maybe an event in the city/village/neighbourhood that is going on at the moment, or wait I have a better one: start talking about the weather and go from there. It's the most innocent subject you can possibly think of, and since you have already built a little bit of comfort with showing that you're not creepy or anything, you're less likely to get rejected after you ask a question like 'where are you going to?'.

Don't forget that an opener is just meant to open. :)

Hopefully this was helpful for you. :)
Author:  Jav [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 6:03 pm ]
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'this is a bus stop, right?'


or any other simple question
Author:  PRookie [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 11:23 am ]
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I kind of failed but still not! Im not as afraid of approching girls now.I stared to talk to a older women on the bussstop just to get used to talking to girls. The next day i saw a HB7 and she was sitting on the opposite bussstop, so i went there and asked her which bus went to my neighbourhood, then she said

"You know its the one on the otherside of the road, you always take it, because ive seen you fooling around with your friends"

When she said that, i just froze, i didnt know what to say, it was like "um...."
Then i said
" haha okey you got me i just wanted a reason to talk to you but now when you got me embarrassed, im never going to approach a girl again Thx..." And i started to walk away
and i thought (come on start laughing or Im sooo screwed..)
Then she started to laugh and said
"I didnt mean to embarrass you, i just wanted you to know that it was a stupid question haha"

Then we started to talk, but i didnt #close her because her bus came after 5 min. I thought that it was to early to ask for her nr. Lets Hope she will be there on monday =D. Do you have any suggestions for me? what should i do next time something like this happens? or anything?

Thx for the help guys!

As you maybe can see im new to this, the only way to get better is by starting doing it!
Author:  Red Rider [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 1:55 pm ]
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That was pretty embarrassing, but I would just make a joke out of it. Next time you see her, once again ask her if she knows what bus you should take, while smiling and chuckling a little so she's aware you're not an idiot.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 4:24 pm ]
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You didn't fail at all man, you went out there, took a shot, and actually things went pretty well! The fact that she said she'd seen you before and that she didn't mean to embarrass you are actually IOIs - she probably likes you.

Next time you see her, you can launch right into a DHV story or start any conversation topic you like because you have rapport already, just greet her with a warm smile, use her first name, and remember to KINO.

What I would change about your initial interaction is this - the opener is fine, but don't say "caught me" or that you're embarrassed. You could say "yeah actually I just noticed you over there and you seemed like a cool person so I thought I'd come over and find out something about you." That way you're acknowledging that your opener was just a way of starting a conversation, but you're not displaying that you're unsure of yourself at all. You can actually just use that sentence AS the opener and dispense with the indirect part if you like.
Author:  PRookie [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 6:45 pm ]
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Thx for the advice!
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but don't say "caught me" or that you're embarrassed.
I Know i shouldnt say those tings but they were the only things that went through my head! I think it was better to say something then not to say anyting :P But your "line" is ofc better. I have no problem keep talking to them, but its the beginning part that is so hard i normaly dont know how to open =/, but ill keep reading in here Alot of good Posts in this forum =D

I have another question if you dont mind =/
I know what a DHV Story is but i dont have one? or maybe i do have one but i dont know if its a DHV story?
Can Someone just tell me a DHV Story? so i know what it is? =D

Thanks Alot for the replys =D
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