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Author:  PAW [ Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:57 pm ]
Post subject:  went too fast with this HB9?
Hi, (sorry for the long post but I hate it when wanting to help people if they don't even give a good background story!)

To make a longs story short:
Met this HB9, friend of my sister, which is pretty risky I thought.
Ran into her 2 times while at 2 different party's and we talked briefly but I went off every time, just not to give her too much attention. After the first time we met, next day she had add me on facebook.
We talked everyday on facebook, I told her to give me her number and got it.
Now, first message yesterday I sent her (after she gave me her number was):

background info: she had a photo on facebook of her and a friend on a toilet, and I was laughing with it because it's a little immature (we're both 20) and she was qualifying herself. and it was her birthday 2 days ago

ME: Tell me, who was the handsome guy you were just talking to on facebook? You should defenitely go grab a drink with him sometime! :D xx

HB: Oh, yeah! a very anoying guy! I keep giving him signals to leave me alone but he doesn't get it! X

ME: Oh, yeah, I got a situation like that too! She's a friend of my sister and she can't shut up about her birthday! :p xx

HB: Oh, that would totally drive me crazy! There are some strange people on this planet, dude! X

ME: Yeah! Luckily we're both normay people! or anyway, for u that will still come... just don't take toiletpictures and we would be hand and glove! haha xx

HB: that picture belongs to my personality =d x

ME: Okay, then I will buy you a toilet refresher! against smelly pictures! ;) xx

HB: haha, thank you! I appreciate the gesture =d x

ME: I thought so! but i'm going to leave you now! (as you wished for!) ;) xx

HB: haha, i'm going to work for school! -_- x

So that was yesterday, went pretty good.. now, today I think I made a mistake

ME: Hey HB, I had a big problem today! I was shopping and saw the wall with toilet refreshers but I couldn't figure if you prefer lavender, pine tree or the barbie pink scent... :D the last one is good, bought it for myself! ;) xx

(off course I didn't went to the shop, I was just joking, she knows that!

HB: hhmm, I'll go for the last one then! Doesn't sound bad! =d X

and this is the part where I probably fucked up

ME: Ok, will do! I expected that tough, it suits you! ;) there also was a special action with massage oil and with that you get free service from an experienced masseur but he has exams now for 2 weeks so that's a bummer for you! haha xx

she didn't respond to this message so I think I fucked up! I'm not going to send her another text or talk to her if she's on facebook, I hope she will eventually respond! I think I scared her off a little by bringing a massage up too soon

What do you guys think and what would you do? I could really use some help here! It's not like I'm a total noob and I'm pretty good with words but this wasn't a good move!

The worst she can send is: WTF? What are you saying now?

Then I will reply: Haha, so you ARE naive, that's so cute! :D

Would this be a good reply?
Author:  PAW [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:49 pm ]
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So, that evening I was talking about earlier at 10 am she texted back:

HB: haha, thanks! =D i'll be fine without a massage ;) x

ME: no prob! :D would be good if everyone was happy with just some toilet refresher! haha, well i'm going to sleep, studied enough today! sleep tight! xx

She didn't replied on this one (which is not so weird because I stopped the convo), now since she politely declined the 'massage-thing' I don't know what to send her...

Today I didn't text her, but how should I continue from here on?

YOU GUYS COULD REALLY HEMP ME OUT HERE!!!
after a deep friendzone a few months ago I don't want to screw up this one!!!
Author:  BridgeBurner [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 12:03 am ]
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the banter is good...

you need to hang out more and start showing more interest with body language and such......its tough with some girls that are so busy.. cuz like..... they do wanna hang out but since ur new... they dont have much time.. its hard to get a good day and if u ask too many times that kills it.....

as for the texting..... dont be afraid to escalate it a bit more.....take a risk.. esp if its becoming more text and chat then meet and speak....cuz all u have are words.... so when she says "ill be fine without the massage" ..

your friend zoning yourself by de-escalating it.....

you coulda went with "oh wow.. skip the foreplay type of gal eh....i dont think i can make an exception.... well unless you buy me dinner first"

the worst she can say is "...uhm.. no"

so who cares.. but playing it safe will get you friended, if that... most of the time.. at least i find that....

look at it fr your perspective...
1. shes hot
2. shes entertaining to talk to
3. i wanna fuk her cuz i keep thinking about how hot she is...

look at it fr her perspective.....

1. hes entertaining to talk to
2....... well hes still just entertaining

if you cant see her too much in person just yet.... keep sex in the mind... shes probably not thinking about how hot YOU are... shes not a guy.. so she needs something to want to fuk.... talkin about sex playfully shows confidence and comfort in it... but some girls can get offended.. or shielded too.. ... the best thing is to physically hang out more and make sure to escalate it there...even just touching mildly and such...

otherwise the initial momentum dies out and turns to meh....

PS: i dont ever use FB chat.. i only use fb msgs or txts.....

this is cuz both are usually instant to PHONES.... and replies take longer.. so instead of feelin like "we had a couple convos on fb"..... its "we talk ALL the time.." a 30 mins convo can turn into a day or two thru text.. when u know u cant SEE her in person anyway cuz of school/work/exams and what not... prolong it.... time invested usually seeks a reward ...
Author:  PAW [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 12:22 am ]
Post subject: 
Thanks BridgeBurner!

This is some good info! Didn't look at it like that...

It just sucks I will not see her for 2 weeks now, because of my exams!
Also, isn't it better to just text her instead of use FB messages? Texting is much personal I think, otherwise I could become the facebook friend...

Anyway, I'm going to casually send her a message tomorrow but nog text her all the time, she may not get the feeling I'm chasing her! (on the other side I have to make shure she doesn't forget about me if I never text her..)

She gave me some IOI's but she never begins a convo first.... what does that mean? playing hard to get? :)

I will go easy with the sexual messages now, I think she rather is a girl who takes it slow...

Idea for a good opener tomorrow?
Author:  kasabi [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 5:46 am ]
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Where is she that you can't meet up with her in person? Frankly, I don't know much about this new age computer chit chat pick up but to me, it just boils down to chit chat. Even in person, you can't just talk about the weather, stand there 5 feet away, then pounce sexual possibilities between the two of you. Even worse when you play little word games to insinuate that the masseur is in fact you. This is to say, "I'd like to have sex with you but ehm . . . would rather creep you out with a few word games first."

If you want to bring up sexual topics from a distance, it ought to be in the third person. Talk about OTHER people and sexual activities. See if she's into it. . . Then chat about you without her in the story or her without YOU in the story. This would still raise her sexual interests without any weirdness at all. Then you'd close the physical distance and bring yourselves into the story. . .

Stop the unnecessary the chit chat. I say this because you haven't escalated at all. You just chit chatted like you were her 'sister's friend' and pounced on her with sexual topics from left field. Instead, ween her off of this 'sisterly chat' and stir her towards a fun meeting after exams. That's when you'd begin your game.

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