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Author:  r12 [ Sun Oct 31, 2010 5:50 pm ]
Post subject:  how do you make a girl feel comfortable in this situation
HB9 has a boyfriend but likes me. We both like each other.

I'm just not sure how I can make her feel comfortable about making the right decision (being with me) and how I can not come across as a girlfriend stealer. We haven't done anything physical yet bc I am not comfortable with the idea of cheating and neither is she but we haven't verbally talked about this.

What is the best way I can make her feel comfortable and also make myself look good? I know tons of guys here have been in this situation. Hopefully someone can help me out.
Author:  hbsocal [ Mon Nov 01, 2010 5:07 am ]
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Unless you know the boyfriend... who gives a fuck. You don't take girls from people in your inner circle, but everyone else is fair game. Ross Jeffries has some methods for this, but its a lot of memorization and it takes a lot of practice for it not to sound scripted, but...


Chapter 11:
THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER, PART II
When to use this pattern: This pattern is for use when you ask a
woman out and she hits you with that famous line, "I have a
boyfriend". It's purpose is to get her to meet you for coffee
anyway, at which time you can play with her mind using any of
the other patterns we'll give you. It's also another example of
one of my favorite types of patterns: time distortion!!!
Steps/tools used:
1. Trance phrases/time distortion to get past her resistance.
2. Trance phrases to get her imagining already having been
with you and really enjoyed it.
3. Get her to repeat that train of thought.
4. Pitch for coffee date.
You: Well, look, I really enjoyed this, and I'd like to
talk to you again sometime? Can I call you?
Her: Sorry ... I have a boyfriend.
You: You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm
disappointed, I have to respect that you're in a
relationship. But let me ask you a question. How
surprised would you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY
LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME? I
mean maybe to the point where you could IMAGINE US
OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST TIME, and
you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT? As
you THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to
meet like Monday or Tuesday for coffee?
The Boyfriend Destroyer: Part II
Note: Originally, I taught this pattern
brought up the boyfriend objection when you
With all the other patterns I've shown you,
if she brought up the boyfriend as part
to be used if she
first asked her out.
I'd only use it now
of an objection to
getting physical or after you'd been screwing for a few weeks.
Her:
I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have
told you before, but I have a boyfriend.
(or, as you are making out like crazy)
Her: We really shouldn't be doing this. I have a boyfriend
You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's
like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?
Her: Bill
You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point
to your right palm) OK. And you think he's real cool,
and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's
say for whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK
UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm) and you go through
that period of mulling it over, and maybe you NOTICE
THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP
... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT
REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?
However you would JUST DO THAT! I mean it's so weird
how the mind does all this stuff, but what I'm curious
about is, what would it be like for a person if that
entire process that usually takes months, what would
it be like if that entire process were to TAKE PLACE
INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers in her face) in
someone's mind? It'd be like (wave your hand in her
face) YOU COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE ANY MORE IN YOUR
MIND. Every time you tried it'd be like something was
just wiping it right out. And that's how you'd know
that you'd already started to FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO
MAKE HIM LESS IMPORTANT.
Or you know, like, is there someone you used to date,
but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't
even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well
notice as you take your finger and point, where do you
see there picture?
Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you
were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS GUY (hold up your palm,
push it to where she pointed), it'd be like he gets
stuck in the same place. And of course you might think
to yourself, "but I want to put him back".
You might think you might think that ... until you
REALLY NOTICE that from over there, from this
perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him
and about him you don't like ... something that over
time, would really cause you to dump him.
And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also
a nice thing, because it allows you to CREATE AN
OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. (point to yourself) I know
that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to your
dickee!)

Sorry for the formatting but I pasted this right outta a pdf I have.
Author:  Hankzor [ Mon Nov 01, 2010 8:57 pm ]
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It is just wrong to have such a big manuscript in your head for everytime something like that happens to you..
Author:  Jav [ Mon Nov 01, 2010 10:57 pm ]
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I love how you see yourself being the 'right' decision,


Maybe you should try getting a kiss first? As you've gotten nowhere with this girl.
Author:  Pierce 007 [ Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:04 am ]
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This girl probably wouldnt give you the time of day if she was completely happy with her boyfriend. Ive had a few women who had boyfriends, just keep it under your hat.
Author:  hbsocal [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:14 am ]
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Quote:
It is just wrong to have such a big manuscript in your head for everytime something like that happens to you..
The point is to practice it enough that you don't even have to think about it, it just comes naturally. Haven't gotten there yet... but its still an option.
Author:  r12 [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:23 pm ]
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Quote:
I love how you see yourself being the 'right' decision,


Maybe you should try getting a kiss first? As you've gotten nowhere with this girl.
i am the right decision bc im the best

you mad? :lol:

and i already fked her before, when we first met.
Author:  r12 [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:25 pm ]
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Quote:
This girl probably wouldnt give you the time of day if she was completely happy with her boyfriend. Ive had a few women who had boyfriends, just keep it under your hat.
who gives a fuck though? the point is, she is giving me the time of day and i need to do my job.
Author:  biggus [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:40 pm ]
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I did something very similar to this but it was all thinking on my feet with a girl who was over from ireland to visit her cousin(a mates ex but still friends) with friends and sisters. But there was no real NLP involved. We were outside the club were everyone goes to chat and smoke or whatever and I ended up engaging her in conversational silences and eye contact, I had her sitting on my Knee in about 5 mins tops and then I made out with her, she then had instant regret and said she had a boyfriend.

Suppose the key is to take it like it's the least important thing you heard today or something trivial, if you are both really into each other and she displays an issue to the current 'reality' how you react is almost as important as how you deal with it, so trivial reduces it from a mountain into a molehill. Which can be easily flattened :P

Trying to remember what stuff I was saying, it was a disjointed conversation between more and more intense kisses. But yeah asked her to backwards rationalise what was happening as to being unhappy with the relationship, that it was perfectly fine to be into me and trying to remove guilt - few of my mates said it was funny/impressive to watch, but I was winging it and thinking on my feet, wanting to fuck someone is a great motivator haha! f'closed her closeby then tried it on with the sister at the doors lol!

Right I was 'roughly' saying the following with 100% eye contact :

I have a BF - whys that an issue? (uncaring)
:make out:
But I have a BF - women have powerful intuition, you have already subconciously realised that you are unhappy and this is the correct choice.
:make out:
omg we cant do this - Yes we can, Life is made of of intense emotional moments, they make us who we are, they complete us and make us a more unique and allow us to connect with each other profoundly, seize the moments when they come and have no regrets.
:make out:
I dont deserve to be with an amazing guy like you - thats your boyfriend talking, dont let someone else tell you what you do or dont deserve (looking back at this point LMFAO and what am I doing then ??) break free of the chains, all women deserve that perfect moment, this is yours.
:make out:
Lets go somewhere quieter
:V for victory!:

One of my most fun pulls Ive done - especially with people around that I know watching :D

summarize - just talk bollocks and believe it, draw her in, once shes on that rollercoaster ride, she has to wait until it ends to get off :)
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