Hi everyone,
This is my first post, but already quite a practical one.
Hope I am at the right place
I have gone into a stalmate with a HB9 that used to work with me for tha last 1,5 year (she quitted and is now at home)
The summary of our relationship so far:
During this period of working together, we used to hang out as a coworkers during the working time and for about a year nothing was going on really. Than at one point we were hooked together on one project outside the state where I noticed that she started to build attraction towards me (my alpha male attitude and humour with the client contributed this) in a very subtle way. Anyway, I never tried something as I did not want to jeopardize our professional relation and I was ina a 10-year old relationship with another girl. Anyway I always treated her like a little bratty sister and we would occassionally flirt in the office. Nothing serious.
Things started to escalate when we meet up in a club one time (we were both drunk) - she started hugging me, dancing with me, dragging me all around the place, leaving her friends for me, etc. No makeout still as I did not kino too much back.
But it was obvious that she was attarcted to me.
After that we started to hang out a little more, going out with friends in the club and in coffe shops for a few times.
Than, cca 2 mths ago (she already quitted the job) we meet up at her place with some friends, started some flirting and got reall drunk, than went out to this club together and finally started to make out as I was following her home in the morning. This was a standard drunk kind of make out, but with our history it was much more and i could feel it from her reactions that she was really enjoying this. She complained sth. like "Oh, I dont do this with my coworkers, Oh what would your girlfriend say".... bla bla
Anyway,
I emailed her the day after tomorrow telling her that i hope this will not jeopardize our friendship and that we will keep going to coffees together and similar (hoping to to counter possible buyers remorse). I did not wanted to leave the impression of neediness so I did not press her too much during the following month or so. I would email/call her once a week to try to get her for a coffee or to hang out to the club together like we used to, but soon I noticed that she is rejecting me for some reason (although she sounds really polite and like she really has a reason for not meeting this time).
Why?
Is this a classic case of buyers remorse?
Caused by the fact that i am in a relationship with another girl (although I already told her before that I am not happy and that i will bail out soon)?
Cause I sure had a lot attraction and comfort already built...
What can I do?
How do I close her?
I wanted to show her that i was interested in her and yet not so needy but this did not work...
I was hoping to run into her when going out, but this also did not happen so far, calling her for coffee meakes no sense anymore, so i just tease her once in a while like i used to.
She is really a gorgeous and intelligent babe, but 7-8 years younger, a cluber type. She hangs out and parties with her girlfriends all the time and i noticed she has problems with expressing emotions and finding the right guy. I noticed guys trying to game all the time her but she just rejects them always. In 2 years she did not have a boyfriend.