I've got a success story for you. Mind you, it's pretty lengthy:
Let me start by saying that in my opinion (and I've read this in articles on this site, seen videos of PUAs speaking of this, and it is tried and true in my own experience), Pick Up is not a set of lines you use to make a girl want to sleep with you or magic tricks to up your "value" at its core but it is a life style. It's something you become and it shines through in ever aspect of your life. It's how you talk, how you walk, it's what you wear, where you go, and even what you think. I am not proclaiming that I am a great PUA or even that I know the tip of the iceberg in many instances, all I am saying is that THIS STUFF WORKS because i've seen it in my own life. You just have to want it.
In high school, about 8 years ago, I was a small, skinny, and uber white band nerd who was for the most part very introverted, except when around close friends. There was this girl in band that I really liked and wanted but she already had a boyfriend. It took me a whole year to even talk to her (and only because she initiated the conversation). I became her "best friend" in that she would vent to me about her boyfriend and how she thought my best friend was cute and blah blah blah. Long story short, I eventually hooked up with her behind her boyfriends back. I wanted her so bad, I didn't care about whether it was right or wrong. After months of continuing to hook up with her, she broke up with him and she became my girlfriend. I should have known from the beginning that this relationship was going to fail... She ended up doing the same thing to me.. Multiple times.. Now because of lack of self esteem, I never thought I really deserved her and never thought I could get anyone I really wanted. Even though I knew she was cheating on my left and right I couldn't grow the balls to break up with her because something was better than nothing!
One day I was surfing through the iBook store and stumbled upon a book called "How to Get Hot Women Into Bed" (I think). I read the whole thing in one sitting in AWE of the supposed possibility to get any girl I wanted. The book was very enlightening but what really opened the door to my success were the website links in the back of the book. The one site that I foind most beneficial was 'fastseduction.com'(FS) and this forum (PUAf). FS layed out a plan to take you from a novice to a full blown artist which I tried to follow diligently. I learned about the "eye experiment" (very interesting), body language (Carlos Xuma), negging, etc. I also continued on to other books such as "The Game" and "Without Embarassment" as well as "Body Language", "How to Win Friends and Influence People", "The Guide to Getting it On", and even "50 Shades of Grey" (Yes.. I know -_-). I learned ALOT about social interaction and about being confident with yourself without shame. I'll list some of the things I found to be most beneficial to me later.
So I stayed with that mess of a relationship for 3 whole years before I was finally sick of it.. I was willing to have that nothing and be alone than that horrible something! So I broke up with her (which I had done many times before, but this time I MEANT IT). I now had a basis for where I could at least TRY to find another girl, bit my main goal was to use this Pick Up information to work on myself.
IT WAS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS I'D EVER DONE. I was so comfortable with that relationship and I was so scared to be alone. I'd say she was my best friend at the time (despite her fucking me over every chance she got) and I thought I loved. But it was time.. and I did it.
I began working out alot and continued to learn more about Pick Up and social interaction, and was implementinf it as best I could, mostly to failure. I didn't have any success for at least 6 months! I would have given up if it werent for something Tyler Durden talks about in his videos and in which i've experiences before: HAVING FUN (this is very important). At first I would go out, be scared as FUCK, and then attempt to talk to girl and then shit all over myself and then be butt hurt about it for the rest of the day (why didn't she like ne, what a bitch, meh meh meh ;(((( But then I started to look at it from a different perspective.. That it was FUNNY to fuck up. It allowed me to not be so nervous, do some BALLZY shit, fuck up, and then laugh about it and tell funny stories to my close buddies. I was down to do ANYTHING and put myself in ANY situation for the fun of it.. For the fuck of it.. and for the learning experience. Eventually I had been in so many stupid funny situations that I had a feel for how things would go down.. I started to be a little more serious about it and VOILA. For the next 2 years I would continue to find and hook up with 9 girls (a little amount, yes. But like I said, i'm no master, far from it.. But I would NEVER be able to this before.. And I'm more of a long term guy anyway, i'll tell more later).
I discovered a new confidence in myself and in my new ability and I was so proud of myself! But... I was still unhappy, and still lonely deep down. Neil Strauss said that men were into Pick Up to proove aomething to themselves and others and to fill a void, not because they really wanted to just fuck a bunch of women constantly (though there really are people like that). I realized this. You see, dating in my eyes is a game. Pick Up in it's raw is a Game and I was a player. 8/9 of the people I hooked up with were just players and nothing deeper was to ever come out of it. Many of them were hooking up with other people too! It wasn't my goal to just fuck people, I wanted to love and be loved.. Alot of these girls I loved (or so I though) because I wanted to love, but they were just players and eventually I found my heart in shatters time and time again. THAT part.. wasn't fun. I saw that this wasn't what I was looking for anymore. I decided that I had the minimum necessary skills to get a girl if I REALLY liked her, and that was enough for me. So I was done.. It was time to move on. As Neil Strauss says in "The Game": 'To win the Game was to leave it"
Bruce Lee said that when it comes down to the real moment of action, do not worry about remembering your training.. It will come through you naturally without conscious thought (or something along those lines). Within a few days of me 'quitting' pick up, I ran into a girl at a Jazz bar (7 months ago). I thought she was very attractive and gave her some attention. Without trying much, I was invited back to her and her roomates house we ended up hooking up that night. I thought it was nothing, just really lucky, and founs it pretty cool that as soon as I stop trying I get my biggest catch. She ends up hitting me up and I start coming over 3 times a week.
I am now in a relationship with a GREAT girl for what has now been 7 months. I've moved into that house with her and roomate and have a WHOLE new set of friends and family because of this stuff. I went from being a small, nerdy, white band kid with bad social skills, few friends, and living at home, to a fit white rock drummer (not band nerd
with good body language, social skills, and a shit ton of friends, living in a house with my bigh quality girlfriend and her crazy roomates who throw kickbacks and parties ever other night in the house.
I can't express enough exactly how much has changed for me sice i've began this stuff. I hope you see a glimpse of that change.. But as I said earlier, i'll list some important things I found really beneficial to my success:
-Eye Experiment (try it out)
-Body Language (says ALOT)/ Voice Tonality
-Having fun (Gives you ballz, and makes you THAT much more attractive)
-Peacocking (grabs attention, but you got to be ready for it)
- Fashion (I suck at this.. But it's important.. Try radically different styles)
- Negging (I didn't know how to flirt at first.. This is a good start and works well in general)
- Be Genuine (if your going for relationships) because how long can you put on a fake face? Pick Up has ultimately developed and helped me to understand myself, to accept myself (but push to excel and to be my BEST self) and use THAT to attract women.
- Mind Set. This is hugely important too. You have to be a positive person and trust me, it's a choice.
There's SOOO much more than just that.. But that's for you to figure out. I'm just telling yo
THIS SHIT WORKS. It just takes time. But just HAVE FUN and be proud when yo see yourself grow and defeat the obstacles ahead of you.
Final note: I want to also say that long term relationships are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT ball games.. It's very hard but very rewarding to be in one. I've learned soo much about myself and my girl has pushed me to do things I thought I'd never do or become who I never thought I could. I've grown the most being with her. And I am IN LOVE with this girl. I thought I had known love before, but not like this.
There's hope in this dark tunnel