PUA Forum :: Met a girl at the gym. What next?

I was walking toward the chest flys and I see a HB9 over there who is usually guy friendly who ignores IMs I send her every now and then. I decided to ignore her and not bother because if she ignores me on AIM why would she talk to me in person? Anyway I have bad rapport with her friends so why bother? So as I'm working out she walks toward me and says

HB9: Remember me?
MiMs: To be honest? Not really
HB9: Are you serious?
MiMs: Ya
(this continues for about 30 seconds)
HB9: Its me!!!! **** you don't remember? you call me tease and all that?
MiMs: Ya, but I've only seen you one other time
HB9: So? You IM me a lot
MiMs: I IM you once a week, I doubt thats considered a lot
HB9: Well still you IM me
MiMs: Okay... Who you here with?
HB9: Some friends
MiMs: Who?
HB9: *****
MiMs: Oh ok, I'm gonna get back to my workout now, I'll catchup with you maybe when I finish

I thought it would be a DHV to leave (I already have her number, AIM, FB) but what do I do from here? I would love a K-close

Should I text her that I'm flattered by the fact she stalked me to the gym? And she didn't seem that offended.

What I want to know is what should I do next?

So when it comes to "what is next" because of you showing negative 10 interest I would suggest go really slow, like the next interaction should be really situational and keep building it up over the days.... Because like I said if you show interest she will be like "wtf is wrong with you"

On the other hand if you don't want to slow burn it and like this girl, I would straight up apologize, cut back your ego and all the "alpha" BS and just be like "My bad I kidna acted really cold last time we talked, I was in a really bad mood the whole day, so how about we start again, my name is....". And if you do this I'm sure you can build more connections the next time you see her and already on the 3rd time you see her, you can confidently ask her out.

Cheers

So a "nice to see you last night" is better?

Author:	MiMs277 [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 4:06 am ]
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I was walking toward the chest flys and I see a HB9 over there who is usually guy friendly who ignores IMs I send her every now and then. I decided to ignore her and not bother because if she ignores me on AIM why would she talk to me in person? Anyway I have bad rapport with her friends so why bother? So as I'm working out she walks toward me and says: HB9: Remember me? MiMs: To be honest? Not really HB9: Are you serious? MiMs: Ya (this continues for about 30 seconds) HB9: Its me!!!! ** you don't remember? you call me tease and all that? MiMs: Ya, but I've only seen you one other time HB9: So? You IM me a lot MiMs: I IM you once a week, I doubt thats considered a lot HB9: Well still you IM me MiMs: Okay... Who you here with? HB9: Some friends MiMs: Who? HB9: *** MiMs: Oh ok, I'm gonna get back to my workout now, I'll catchup with you maybe when I finish I thought it would be a DHV to leave (I already have her number, AIM, FB) but what do I do from here? I would love a K-close

Author:	Lucky D [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 5:41 am ]
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r u working towards meeting her 1 on 1? maybe chilling with her or anything? cuz u aint gonna kiss her at the gym lol nor on a txt msg. if her friends arre against u, then keep it downlow

Author:	V3nu [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 6:54 am ]
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Quote: I was walking toward the chest flys and I see a HB9 over there who is usually guy friendly who ignores IMs I send her every now and then. I decided to ignore her and not bother because if she ignores me on AIM why would she talk to me in person? Anyway I have bad rapport with her friends so why bother? So as I'm working out she walks toward me and says I'm lost what are IM and AIM???? Quote: HB9: Remember me? MiMs: To be honest? Not really HB9: Are you serious? MiMs: Ya (this continues for about 30 seconds) HB9: Its me!!!! ** you don't remember? you call me tease and all that? MiMs: Ya, but I've only seen you one other time HB9: So? You IM me a lot MiMs: I IM you once a week, I doubt thats considered a lot HB9: Well still you IM me MiMs: Okay... Who you here with? HB9: Some friends MiMs: Who? HB9: *** MiMs: Oh ok, I'm gonna get back to my workout now, I'll catchup with you maybe when I finish I thought it would be a DHV to leave (I already have her number, AIM, FB) but what do I do from here? I would love a K-close Don't get me wrong but judging from that interaction you sounded like a total "bitch". Like you know there is a level to "disqualification and not showing interest" but man you gotta calibrate. Because from now on if you even show her a little bit of interest she will be like "wtf" Like imagine you talked to a girl who was a total bitch and now she is texting and messaging you, you would be like "what kind of games is she playing" or "is she bi polar or something".... So when it comes to "what is next" because of you showing negative 10 interest I would suggest go really slow, like the next interaction should be really situational and keep building it up over the days.... Because like I said if you show interest she will be like "wtf is wrong with you" On the other hand if you don't want to slow burn it and like this girl, I would straight up apologize, cut back your ego and all the "alpha" BS and just be like "My bad I kidna acted really cold last time we talked, I was in a really bad mood the whole day, so how about we start again, my name is....". And if you do this I'm sure you can build more connections the next time you see her and already on the 3rd time you see her, you can confidently ask her out. Cheers

Author:	MiMs277 [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 3:40 pm ]
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What I want to know is what should I do next? Should I text her that I'm flattered by the fact she stalked me to the gym? And she didn't seem that offended.

Author:	V3nu [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 11:56 pm ]
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Quote: Should I text her that I'm flattered by the fact she stalked me to the gym? And she didn't seem that offended. Tell her you are flattered, and she is stalking you aka tease her and neg her even more? Like you are going even MORE overboard of not showing interest, YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO CALIBRATE!. If you keep doing that, she will think A) You are a jerk or an asshole or B) you are gay and not interested in girls Quote: What I want to know is what should I do next? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------> Quote: So when it comes to "what is next" because of you showing negative 10 interest I would suggest go really slow, like the next interaction should be really situational and keep building it up over the days.... Because like I said if you show interest she will be like "wtf is wrong with you" On the other hand if you don't want to slow burn it and like this girl, I would straight up apologize, cut back your ego and all the "alpha" BS and just be like "My bad I kidna acted really cold last time we talked, I was in a really bad mood the whole day, so how about we start again, my name is....". And if you do this I'm sure you can build more connections the next time you see her and already on the 3rd time you see her, you can confidently ask her out. Cheers

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Author:	MiMs277 [ Fri Oct 22, 2010 1:44 am ]
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So a "nice to see you last night" is better?

Author:	Oneslyfoxx [ Fri Oct 22, 2010 2:13 am ]
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Quote: So a "nice to see you last night" is better? I agree with V3nu, if that is actually what you said then you came off sounding bitchy. Especially if you do im the chic once a week. Personally I would've been like "no not really" when she asked if I remembered her then been like "oh yea! shit hey what's up long time no talk.... you're crystal right? (drop some chick's name you know is wrong). Then when her eyes go wide and she starts to answer say something like "no i'm just messing with you..." ya know, tool her. You sounded like you were bitchy possibly even because she doesn't IM you back. You want to fix things, show her you can be a man by apologizing. Don't straight out say you're sorry but tell her you were in a bad mood and start over, maybe even tell her something shitty that happened to you that she'd be able to relate to. Like "my puppy" ran away (obviously use something that actually happened to you), women love drama so pull her into your shit and get her talking about it. Least that's the way I talk with this one trainer at my gym. She and I have great rapport because we just bs about shit that like that... even better is if you can teach her something at the gym like a good ab exercise (every woman wants to do abs). Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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