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Author:  [AFC] Socrates [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:05 am ]
Post subject:  I dont Get iT!? being alpha feeling confident not working?
I dont get this because i feel pretty confident when around girls but i don't get them attracted?

My friend introduces me and my other friend to 2 girls... one of the girls he likes so i dont try to game her, and the other girl is pretty cute so in my mind i want her.

Being alpha i wait for them to come talk to me... ofcourse i feel like the prize and I want them to start talking to me. I ocationally start conversations like small ones with the cute girl... MY other friend also thinks this girl is cute and after class he goes and talks to her... has long conversations with her connects with her.

I dont feel that bad because, it really looks like hes desperate in my opinion and im acting like totaly opposate of desperate playing my cool. Me feeling alpha , im just waiting for htis girl to come talk to me cause i know she has to be attracted to me.

But she never really does come to me, instead my other friend is just talking to her and they build strong friendship or what ever u call it.

I am the prize here, do I have to actually try and put effort to build attraction.... If she comes and talks to me that is when i will see that IOI and show IOI in return and ask her about her self get ot know her.... connect.

Fuck this doesnt make sense, he is getting the girl and he is my friend so i cant even try to get her... i HAVE to play it cool and allow her to do the CHOOSING because we both Choose her.
Author:  Nyseto [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:10 am ]
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I don't know man, I'm in the same god damn situation and it's been happening with tons of girls. All I know is that the other guy is just going to be friend-zoned, so that's a relief for me. But I know what you mean, I don't know why they do that either!
Author:  Nstar [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:13 am ]
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you have to use game bro, being alpha does not mean staying quiet and hoping for good things to come to you.


I recommend looking into mysteries seminars to understand how exactly you should act, and what to say to give the illusion of you being disinterested.
Author:  [AFC] Socrates [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:18 am ]
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ya it seems like my friend is just ganna end up in a friendzone with her... but you never know maybe they will end up building attraction from that friendship.

And I have made fun of her and her friend jokingly.. i asked them why they are short and laughed playfully they did aswel. And the cute girl added me on faceboo ( i dont know how she found out or rememberd my name because i forgot hers) and I asked her via pm "have we met before?"
Author:  SpeXXX [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:27 am ]
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Playing "Mr. Cool" won't get you laid. You think by looking like a rockstar or buddha or whatever will get girls to be attracted you and approach you? youre mistaken, buddy.
Lose the "I'm the Prize" mentality, it is only a mental masturbation that won't get far, if at all.
Unlike you, your friend goes for what he wants and gets it (or will probably get it eventually) - that is manly! (or alpha, the way you call it)

Even though she is attracted to you and sends you a billion "IOI's", that is still isn't enough for her to approach you (unless she has a set of balls, which is rare). YOU gotta make the move. Stop with the acting, go for what you want.

Physical attraction ain't shit. Just be direct with you intentions, and be honest with yourself and her.
Don't create some fake images to yourself if you're not congruent with them.

Show some love.
PEACE
Author:  CHrisBreezie [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 2:13 am ]
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Balls in your court: Spexxx is right on congruency is very important.

If you're getting IOIs up the ass, its time for you to make the move and try to qualify her; this sounds like warm approach so you're going to want to do this at a slower pace if it is.

Just qualify and go off into rapport.
Author:  Who? [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:24 pm ]
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Being alpha doesn't mean being unreachable! Talk to her but keep the illusion that you don't want anything from her. As you said, your the price.

And (in my experience and what i have read here) act comfortable when a conversation takes a pause and silence enters, act "I'm comfortable, i don't have to open another conversation".

Or simply turn away from her talking to another person for a short while before turning back to her.
Author:  Brny Stnsn [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:07 pm ]
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Ignoring her most of the time isn't Alpha, it's called 'ignoring'.

Read what the guys above wrote.
Forget this girl.

NEXT
Author:  jurupa [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:27 pm ]
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Alpha males approach girls and talk to them.
Author:  Little Panda [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:09 pm ]
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This has probably been mentioned in previous replies but: The alpha does not sit around and act as the prize, waiting for women to approach him. What are you, a movie star?

The alpha approaches a woman and then attracts her. The alpha does not apologize for his actions. The alpha takes what he wants. He doesn't wait for it.
Author:  lachose1 [ Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:26 pm ]
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Ignoring her most of the time isn't Alpha, it's called 'ignoring'.

Read what the guys above wrote.
Forget this girl.

NEXT
Sage advice.
Author:  Tundra [ Thu Oct 21, 2010 1:25 am ]
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Have you never seen a natural? Watch them interact with new people they've never met. They don't stand there like a bump on a log. Self talk helps some people, but you're way over doing it and taking it the wrong direction. If you think you're too cool to talk to women, then ok, its bullshit but lets say you get your way. You're too cool to talk to women. Feel better?
Author:  [AFC] Socrates [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 1:38 am ]
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just wanted to update u guys...
so i end up gettin this girl attracted to me. She gives lots of ioi's
But now i feel i dont like her. Her personality is just horrible, she might be cute but im sure most 5's know how to take care of themselves better than her. She acts like a little kid , does not act sexy and cant imagine her acting sexy. Doesnt know how to dress and is too skinny. I think if she dressed properly she wud be datable :)

I look back in this post and wonder why i even wud try for a girl like her...lol.

I guess its true they say, people want wat they cant have!
Author:  andd95 [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 5:40 am ]
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Agreed Alphas take what they want WHEN they want. They get the pick of the litter by going out and getting it not expecting it to be served up on a plate. Don't get me wrong yeah some girls may approach you but you should be putting in work too.
Author:  Angel55 [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:23 am ]
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just wanted to update u guys...
so i end up gettin this girl attracted to me. She gives lots of ioi's
But now i feel i dont like her. Her personality is just horrible, she might be cute but im sure most 5's know how to take care of themselves better than her. She acts like a little kid , does not act sexy and cant imagine her acting sexy. Doesnt know how to dress and is too skinny. I think if she dressed properly she wud be datable :)

I look back in this post and wonder why i even wud try for a girl like her...lol.

I guess its true they say, people want wat they cant have!
LOL my friend you have learn something that women have been doing to us men for the past centuries...playing the game! Mad props to you!

You see how at the begining of this thread you were complaining that the girl did not want you but your friend and you wanted her. Now that the tables have turned, you gamed her and dont want her anymore. My point is when you want them they dont want you but when you dont want them then they want you.
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