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Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Fri Oct 15, 2010 1:04 am ]
Post subject:  Sex with an ex, yes or no?
I was with a girl for a long time. treated her terrible she always came back. Said i wanted to take it seriously she would break it off. Standard.
2 months ago she broke it off without a word and i chased a bit. Only like texts but i told her i was ready to be with her properly and she didnt want it.
So we ended up talking tonight. Turns out she slept with someone in that time. fine , me too. In fact up until tonight i hadnt really been thinking about her much , if at all.

She told me that she has guys all over her. She is stupidly hot tbf. But she is a nympho as well. She is saying the guy she slept with once was terrible, didnt know what he was doing and that all she thinks about is sex and im the only guy that made her cum.

Wierdly enough, it kinda hurts but its just like u get on with it. I didnt get angry or anything, and i told her about women i had been with etc and wasnt needy.

We get off the phone and she sends me a sexy photo through. I ignore it ( good call from me there ) an hour later i get a text saying "Before u leeave i want you to fuck me. You are the only one who can fuck me properly and if you want to i want you to do it"

I havent replied.
On the one hand she is so hot and sex with exes is always amazing. I also want to make her cum , like no one has ever made her cum. One u make a girl cum u win.

BUT. when we were seeing each other, this is exactly what i did. I would break it off, sleep with her, then break it off again. Did it over n over. And all the time she was trying to get me into a relaionship ( when i wanted one she left!)

Ill b honest, a part of me wants to be with this girl. A part of me would like to fuck her and fuck other women, which is on the table i believe.
Another part of me is scared that after sex i will get emotional and want more.
And then another side of me thinks that after sex she will start wanting me again, but only if i do it right.

I know its an ex, and i know ur probly thinking forget about it, but she is smoking hot and we have amazing sex, so i would like to do that again, bigtime.
But i want control of this. If she wants more then i know i wont. The minute she tells me she doesnt want me aside from sex i know i will want her.
Maybe i should fuck her and just play her like any other girl, let her know im seeing other people, make her fight to be number 1 again.

Any thoughts ?
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Fri Oct 15, 2010 2:30 am ]
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i say you should keep your dick in your pants on this one. its obvious that you still have feelings for her, so you are just gonna set yourself up to be hurt by fucking her....if she is soooo damn horny, why dont you let her fuck one other billion or so single men on the planet...
Author:  EddieFews [ Mon Oct 18, 2010 9:30 am ]
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Dude I am in you're shoes 100 %. Same situation

It's usually like this after a break up, you want them when they don't want you vice versa.

My advice:
First, completely forget about being with her in a relationship, I repeat completely forget about having a relationship with her. Erase that idea from you're brain. It's not gonna happen. She's calling you about sex, not to fix an build on the issues you had in your relationship. Because of this sex is all you will get.

However
If you contain enough emotional control you can enjoy good sex with her but please move on emotional. I was also suggest you not fucking her unless you already have a few other girls your fucking. An by the context of wat your saying I'd suggest you don't.

Conclusion

Take the first guys advice.. However if you must please forget about being with her. Convince you're self that it's sex an nothing more
Author:  EddieFews [ Mon Oct 18, 2010 9:32 am ]
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Dude I am in you're shoes 100 %. Same situation

It's usually like this after a break up, you want them when they don't want you vice versa.

My advice:
First, completely forget about being with her in a relationship, I repeat completely forget about having a relationship with her. Erase that idea from you're brain. It's not gonna happen. She's calling you about sex, not to fix an build on the issues you had in your relationship. Because of this sex is all you will get.

However
If you contain enough emotional control you can enjoy good sex with her but please move on emotional. I was also suggest you not fucking her unless you already have a few other girls your fucking. An by the context of wat your saying I'd suggest you don't.

Conclusion

Take the first guys advice.. However if you must please forget about being with her. Convince you're self that it's sex an nothing more
Author:  Winchester [ Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:44 pm ]
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She sounds like a drama queen...the worst kind of girl! I dated one like a year ago, I split with her because she was a little crazy and started 'falling in love with me' after a few weeks...cringe...then a couple weeks later I slept with her, told her it was a mistake, she took this as me saying 'she was a mistake'...for the following 6 months she made my life hell...granted I'm at uni and we bump into each other a fair bit, but she'd make it her sole aid on a night out to piss me off, throw a bottle at my head, handbag be in front of friends and girls I chat to and trash talk me to new fresher cheerleaders (she was a cheerleader), although her trash talking me really made it easier to pull tbh...but anyway, its not worth it man...don't do it!
Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Fri Oct 22, 2010 1:00 am ]
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So here is what i did.
Firstly, i dont want a relationship now. Im fucking 2 other girls already and plan on fucking a lot more. So i wont be after the emotional attachment, but the situation is interesting because as you said, shes is JUST looking for sex.
She wants me to be the player that she followed around and fuck her and fuck her off, thats what she is screaming for. Girls love players.

So although half of me wanted to say fuck you, the other half isnt going to turn down sex.
I waited about 4 days, told her if im going to fuck her hard it wont be til ive done x, y , z
She texts me the next morning when shes masturbating and we keep that going.
Her last text is her begging for my cock etc, so i leave it there and dont reply.

Tonight, 4 days later i sent a text saying the next time she is laying in bed, with her legs open, i want her to imagine blah blah blah, and then text me what im doing next.

So if she bites this then i am in control of the situation, and its just sex.
If she doesnt , fuck it, no sex. boo hoo.

If you are doing this with an ex you have to keep it completely sexual. Im not even going to talk about the weather with her. Its just sex. Eventually she may want the emotional attachment, it wont come. At that point she may chase but ill be knees deep in gash and unbothered.

Ill let you know if she texts back
Author:  Morsmordre [ Thu Oct 28, 2010 12:44 am ]
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I am currently in a friends-with-benefits 'relationship' with my ex. My situation is really complicated, 'cause we live in a house with four of our friends and one of them is in love with her so we have to hide our 'relationship from them. I study in a foreign university so I cannot be with the girl that I've actually fallen for (she's back home) but hey, people have needs ;) If you want to, you could explain your ex that it is totally for the sex. As I'm studying for a lawyer, I twisted the words and now my ex thinks that it is her idea for us just to have sex :D Don't try to make such a big deal of it ;)
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Oct 28, 2010 10:40 am ]
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Yeah just have her as a fuck buddy and don't get emotionally attached, simples.
Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Sat Oct 30, 2010 2:50 am ]
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After me texting her that she never text back, thus leaving me with the emotional fall out and rejection phase of the break up.
i think its always going to be too complicated if you have just broken up. I really wish i would have done what i was telling myself to do , which was say no, i have too much respect , and leave it at that.
BUT the power of the pussy was too strong. It wont happen again
And im fucking a different ex tomorrow , that she hates. So karma is a bitch
x
Author:  cerebralassassin [ Sun Oct 31, 2010 5:23 pm ]
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heres a simple question. do you want to be with her or not? if you do be with her, if not stay away, if you dont and you sleep with her you are purely using her for sex! i ve had sex with exes and it isnt a good thing somebody gets screwed up
Author:  camus154 [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:15 am ]
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The problem is that you can't just "not get emotionally attached" if you're already attached to begin with!

You've already been there/done that. Why go back for more when you can find some new fish?
Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:56 am ]
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When i wrote that on here i was just looking for someone to tell me it was a good idea.
I knew it was a bad fucking idea. Although i think having sex with her would have given me the old frame of me being piss bored of her again , and her chasing, and back to square one.

As it is, sex with an ex is only a good idea if you are fucking 3 or more people, and you are on control.

I lost out on this one because when i said i wanted sex she of course withdrew it lol

On the plus side i had a 3some on saturday and could no longer give a fuck i ever see her vag bag again

I just wish i hadnt bit and told her to fuck off in the first place.

My bad, u live u learn
Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 3:07 am ]
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So im back on this topic lol
2 weeks after i sent that text i got a text saying "Sorry i havent replied, uni has been stressing me out, i wanted to meet up when my assignments are handed in. I understand if you dont want to speak to me again. I want you to know that i will always love you. Im not drunk by the way. Night night x

I never responded and that was 6 weeks ago.
She still thinks i cheated on her but she thought that anyway.
Im leaving the country for a year in bout 3 weeks. I really want to fuck her once more before i go. Im pretty happy about things now, im seeing other women, im sure shes seeing other men, but id like to fuck her again.
I was going to send this text, what do you reckon?

Heya. I thought id spare you a reply to your text as you clearly WERE Drunk lol And we needed to get over it properly.I leave on the fourth. If you want to catch up before i go then cool. Otherwise, no hard feelings and i hope that whatever you end up doing you smash it out of the park! x

Is that going to work? should i try and arouse more curiosity, or be directly sexual?
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