PUA Forum :: Getting my Ex-Girlfriend back, or at least having the option

Hey Guys,

Thought it might be a good time to start up and make a post on here. About 3 weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, essentially what happened to me was that I started off as a "good PUA", delivering negs, dhv etc (this was for about 8 months) - I played the game well with her, real well... and somewhere along the line in the relationship, I became the worlds #1 wuss/chump. Excessive compliments, being needy and insecure. This was a product of course with being comfortable with her, but I now know that it isn't really realistic for someone to become like that in a relationship.

It became pretty bad to the point where she lost all respect for me, sex life - dead (Most PUA at this point are probably shuddering... lol).

Anyways, I have learned so much in the past 3 weeks, and grown my balls back. I feel a new sense of confidence, and devoted myself to the teachings of Style, Mystery, Shlade, DD etc and picked up so much valuable information!

I still think about my ex a fair bit, and would love to have the option to "hang-out" with her again, she was a really cool chick, which was really a great friend to me. I have been really good about not contacting her since the breakup, and today, I get this message out of the blue

"I have some stuff of yours to give back to you, and I would like to have my jacket back, can we swap on the weekend".

I responded back saying "Sure, how about sunday" - Giving the impression I am busy all weekend.

Now, I am trying hard not to read too much into this message, but really she mentioned to me that this jacket didn't really matter too much to her (I have had it for 1 year+), and that she really doesn't have anything of worth to give to me.

I would really love the opportunity to "win her back", by perhaps seeing the new me. Do you have any strategies as to how to approach this.?

Any responses would be SUPER appreciated.

Thanks!

Author:	Houseonthehill [ Thu Oct 14, 2010 12:18 am ]
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Hey Guys, Thought it might be a good time to start up and make a post on here. About 3 weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, essentially what happened to me was that I started off as a "good PUA", delivering negs, dhv etc (this was for about 8 months) - I played the game well with her, real well... and somewhere along the line in the relationship, I became the worlds #1 wuss/chump. Excessive compliments, being needy and insecure. This was a product of course with being comfortable with her, but I now know that it isn't really realistic for someone to become like that in a relationship. It became pretty bad to the point where she lost all respect for me, sex life - dead (Most PUA at this point are probably shuddering... lol). Anyways, I have learned so much in the past 3 weeks, and grown my balls back. I feel a new sense of confidence, and devoted myself to the teachings of Style, Mystery, Shlade, DD etc and picked up so much valuable information! I still think about my ex a fair bit, and would love to have the option to "hang-out" with her again, she was a really cool chick, which was really a great friend to me. I have been really good about not contacting her since the breakup, and today, I get this message out of the blue "I have some stuff of yours to give back to you, and I would like to have my jacket back, can we swap on the weekend". I responded back saying "Sure, how about sunday" - Giving the impression I am busy all weekend. Now, I am trying hard not to read too much into this message, but She mentioned in the past that her jacket didn't really matter to her (I have had it for 1 year+), and also she really doesn't have anything of worth to give to me. I would really love the opportunity to "win her back", by perhaps seeing the new me. Do you have any strategies as to how to approach this.? Any responses would be SUPER appreciated. Thanks!

Author:	Shinigaml [ Thu Oct 14, 2010 1:06 am ]
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Quote: Hey Guys, Thought it might be a good time to start up and make a post on here. About 3 weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, essentially what happened to me was that I started off as a "good PUA", delivering negs, dhv etc (this was for about 8 months) - I played the game well with her, real well... and somewhere along the line in the relationship, I became the worlds #1 wuss/chump. Excessive compliments, being needy and insecure. This was a product of course with being comfortable with her, but I now know that it isn't really realistic for someone to become like that in a relationship. It became pretty bad to the point where she lost all respect for me, sex life - dead (Most PUA at this point are probably shuddering... lol). Anyways, I have learned so much in the past 3 weeks, and grown my balls back. I feel a new sense of confidence, and devoted myself to the teachings of Style, Mystery, Shlade, DD etc and picked up so much valuable information! I still think about my ex a fair bit, and would love to have the option to "hang-out" with her again, she was a really cool chick, which was really a great friend to me. I have been really good about not contacting her since the breakup, and today, I get this message out of the blue "I have some stuff of yours to give back to you, and I would like to have my jacket back, can we swap on the weekend". I responded back saying "Sure, how about sunday" - Giving the impression I am busy all weekend. Now, I am trying hard not to read too much into this message, but really she mentioned to me that this jacket didn't really matter too much to her (I have had it for 1 year+), and that she really doesn't have anything of worth to give to me. I would really love the opportunity to "win her back", by perhaps seeing the new me. Do you have any strategies as to how to approach this.? Any responses would be SUPER appreciated. Thanks! The odds are stacked against you. She is coming to your house with the mindset of forever closing ties with you. Cutting the bond. I suggest you act like the best YOU you can. The YOU who she fell in love with. She may still have those feelings for you and just want to finally end it you know? Seeing as how shes taking back her stuff, she is obviously still thinking about you in one way or another. Really talk to her and see what she has to say.

Author:	Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Oct 14, 2010 9:10 am ]
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Sounds like the classic rAFC story where you patch up your façade just enough to get a girl in the door, but underneath you're still the same AFC and in a relationship this shows. She loses interest. My best advice is to stop caring about her, move on and game other women. You know what mistakes NOT to make now, so your future relationships will be better and they won't have any of the history that this one would if you continued it. Even if you do win this one back, the memories of how you fucked up and the first breakup will not disappear for either of you - do you really want that colouring your future together? However, since you're going to try anyway regardless of what we say, I might as well give you some advice on how to do it. Your strategy is to re-spike her attraction for you and present an image of such a raw, sexual, magnetic player that she will forget her AFC view of you. When she arrives, you basically want to re-game her from step 1. As soon as she gets in the door, be warm and greet her with a smile. Kino escalate from shoulder touching upwards, tell DHV stories that flip her attraction switches about what's been going on in your life since you last saw each other, neg her a bit, etc. The final piece in the puzzle is when you go to give her the clothes, have some OTHER women's clothes that are NOT hers and be like "oh I found these lying around, they're yours too right?" This will create jelousy, show preselection, and spike her attraction for you further. Whatever she says about it just shrug it off and change the subject. Have more of a fun chat afterwards and when the conversation is going as well as possible and you guys are, for example, comfortably chilling on the couch with some touching going on (not necessarily sexual). Tell her it was great hanging out again, you should meet up for a drink soon, but you got shit to do and she's gotta go. If you try and push for anything like sex that first time you're likely to fail, but if she's receptive to that second meetup, chances are you've got a shot. I would highly recommend meeting her that second time in the company of other women, somewhere fun, to keep the player vibe and jealousy thing going.

Author:	Tundra [ Fri Oct 15, 2010 3:19 am ]
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If you want advice on how to get her back, don't read this. Let her go. Even if you try to pick her up its going to be instant weaksauce because she doesn't want it. In fact, she is probably seeing/fucking somebody else right as we speak, and its going to put you in the awkward situation, not her. Its harsh, its cold, but women are women. If she wants you she will come. If she doesn't want you, there isn't much you can say or do, even with "pickup", to change that. Pickup is not mind control. Part of pickup is to bring a woman's defenses down, and if you even manage to do that, she will never trust you again when she discovers your intention. Clearly she is the one who let you go, only sick people crawl back to people who don't want them. Use your time more productively and look for someone new.

Author:	Houseonthehill [ Mon Oct 25, 2010 4:17 pm ]
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Hey Guys, So first and formost, thank you all for the responses I really carefully went over them. I met up with my Ex last week Sunday, pretty informal in a parking lot to exchange back our things. I felt it went pretty well, we were chatting, but she truthfully looked sad (Sad eyes never lie). It was fine, I chatted about myself and her for a bit. Later that night I texted her saying "Hey XX, it was nice chatting with you today - Good luck on your midterm - not that you need it!". Response "I think you misunderstood our meeting today, we are not friends, we will never be friends, we don't tell stories to each other", So I got a bit upset, but at the end of it I felt like I kind of came to terms with it. Sunday night I was pretty bummed out, I still wanted this person in my life and it appeared that it was something that would not become a reality. Monday I started David Deangelos Man Transformation (20 DVD set), within the day, I felt myself getting better, and by friday after completing the program I feel like a new man, feel like I have fresh perspectives, and so ELATED that I Did this. I realize that being with her was a great thing in my life and breaking up with her was a great thing in my life - I would have never attempted this program if this course of events didn't occor. I am so excited, to start working on my inner game, it really spoke to me as a guy who used to use canned lines (My buddys girlfriend keeps photos of blah blah blah), and living in the moment, living life to its fullest, Removing those creative blocks, succeeding in your goals, and attracting your perfect 10. I notice the difference already and it excites me, people react differently to me. Body language has been amazing and I just love where this is going. Now starts the first day of my life, I am happy that I am young and can get the most out of the things I have learned. Looking forward to becoming a frequent poster.

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Author:	Sean E. Sexton [ Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:29 pm ]
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There is a guru who's not well known in seduction community because he takes pride in being a relationship expert, his name is Doc Love. He's interesting because his beliefs are all the same as a Pick Up Artist even though he's a relationship coach. He believes if a woman's interest level is even at 40% you are dead under water. In other words, she'll stay with you, but she's looking for a replacement. But he believes once it's below 50% you are at the point of no return, and he says that's forever. Doc Love interestingly states that some women will stay in a relationship with a guy for the rest of her life between 40% to 50% interest level, but she will never ever ever ever love him even if they were the last two people on earth. She will prove that hate by treating him like crap until he either leaves her, or punishes her by staying with her. (yes, staying with a woman who doesn't want you is punishing her) David Deangelo also says alot that once you lose, you lose forever, it means for the rest of your life. He says there is nothing you can do. Now you tell us that she once had 0% interest level? That's alot less than 40% my friend.

Author:	Jelly [ Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:48 pm ]
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Doc love's stuff is sad to read. I read it before I came to pickup, its a dumbed down version of PU I thought. was like amateur advice on this forum. be confident, dont be a pussy, have control, and be a challenge. he doesnt really tell much on how to do these things. Is interest level stuff is cute to say the least, its great for AFC's who never actually want to learn PU, all it was saying was be less of a pussy then her, like her just a little less than u like her

Author:	cerebralassassin [ Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:52 pm ]
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question is why is she an ex? and more importantly why do you want her back?? do you want her back because you havent got anything else going on (eg no other girl in your life at the moment) or is it oneitis or do you simply see this as a challenge. think about why you want her back before you do it, i once got back with an ex and it was a mistake the only reason i did was i didnt have anything else going on.

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