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Author:  mojopin [ Sun Oct 10, 2010 5:03 am ]
Post subject:  Fundamental questions about pickup
Hey,

I a massive newbie; only just started sarging a few weeks ago. Before these past 2 few weeks the only time i would get anywhere with a girl was when she showed very obvious interest. Assuming i liked her, I would then try and make her my gf, which usually worked as she already liked me enough to make it obvious enough for me to notice. As a result, I have only ever had one girl at a time that I was looking to date etc.


Now that I am getting numbers of multiple girls I am unsure of how to proceed. Having read and watched some of the pu stuff I understand that you should ring as many numbers as you can and try to get as far with each girl as possible for the practice. But, coming from my background of only one girl at a time, I am wondering what do girls think if you do this. I have always thought that when you like a girl you and are pursuing her, as it were, then you shouldn't be trying to get with other girls at the same time. Of course I realise that this thinking is not at all conducive to pu, but what do girls think about this? When a girl meets a guy and they kiss, exchange numbers, go on a date or two, would she be pissed off if she knew the guy was doing the same thing with multiple girls? Or, is there a period at the beginning of the relationship where both guy and girl are not expected to be exclusive? If this is the case, when does this change so it becomes out of order to carry on getting other girls numbers, kissing, dating etc?

Thanks for any input.
Author:  Viktimize [ Sun Oct 10, 2010 12:03 pm ]
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is this a serious question?? of course girls will get mad if they find out youre working multiple other women. thats why you dont tell them.

once you get your game to a certain point, youll learn how to pick up girls without making them think its an exclusive relationship. at that point, they will probably know youre macking other girls, but as long as they dont hear about it, theyll just pretend it doesnt happen.
Author:  Hawkin [ Sun Oct 10, 2010 2:36 pm ]
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Of course its a serious question :D
Girls will subconsciously love you for dating other girls. It raises your value meeting many different girls. At the same time you will not become dependant.

You have to differ between 'meeting (or dating) several women' and 'being in a relationship with a woman'. As long as you are only dating women, you are totally fine. If you proceed to start a relationship with one, you should talk about your both preferences, because women tend to think of an 'exclusive relationship' as soon as you call each other girlfriend and boyfriend. You can read up more with the terms 'open relationship' and 'mltr'.
Author:  mojopin [ Tue Oct 12, 2010 4:04 am ]
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Haha, yeah it definately is a serious question. Seriously, dating/meeting more than one woman at a time is a completely alien situation to me.

So, if you are meeting several women at once, by this i mean day 2s, k closing, n closing most girls will be ok with this? I not saying if you told them they would be pleased, but they might not be surprised that you were doing this.

Once sex is involved, does this not become a different matter (unless you have specifically agreed to be in an open relationship)? Like, should you tell a girl at some point before sex that you are not necessarily looking for anything serious? This way she will hopefully not be so upset if you are/intend to sleep with a different girl too? OR is this a terrible idea?
Author:  Solteris [ Tue Oct 12, 2010 4:21 am ]
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Yeah, this is actually a pretty valid question.

For one...it's none of the girls BUSINESS to know about any of this unless you two are exclusive. The only thing I'd refrain absolutely from telling a girl is that you go sarging. You want the impression women just naturally want you. Not that you hunt for booty in your free time.

Normally, a girl would only expect an attractive man to be in the mix with multiple women. It's her job to work to make you two exclusive, not yours. Because you have options, who is she compared to the others?

Dont feel ashamed for seeing multiple women if you have no verbal agreement with a woman to go steady. Infact, it's perfectly natural. It's called being a man.

The disney bullshit in society about only being with one girl and living happily ever after with rainbows and unicorns can go fuck itself. It wont happen. By getting numbers and seeing girls, your naturally selected with women, in turn making you more attracted to them. Women ALWAYS WANT WHAT ISNT THEIRS :)

But...dont tell her you sarge.

Edit: Well, by your actions I think it should display that you're not looking for anything serious. If you just want sex with a woman, it can either happen right away or can take a long time to wear her down to the idea of just having casual sex. There's obvious behavior patterns between someone that wants a relationship and one that wants sex. Be sexy and funny and kind, but dont be clingy, get weird on her and try to connect on that "deeper" level like lovers do. Let her know you're interested but dont rush it.

Good luck my man :)
Author:  mojopin [ Tue Oct 12, 2010 6:26 am ]
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Hey, thanks for the advice. So if you happen to be in the situation where you have more than one girl that you could sleep with, then providing you have given no indication that you are looking for anything serious it should be ok to sleep with both?

How can you give the impression that you are not looking for anything serious, without actually saying it? If you have a f close then this is probably not to hard, but what about when you only have a no close or kiss close and have to arrange a day 2? Wouldnt alot of girls think if a guy is trying to arrange a day 2, then he is investing in the relationship to some extent, and therefore might be looking for something more than casual fun?
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