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I wouldnt even call this a pick-up, lol, but I am happy & upset at the same time. I know what I need to do and I totally understand all the stuff, but I'm still lacking the kick in the ass.
So I went to Khols today, got a new outfit. Saw a cashier I was very attracted to so i waited in her line. The eye contact was great, she was very chatty & friendly with me. She asked if i wanted to sign up for the Kohls credit card, and I ended up holding the line up for 20 minutes because the computer froze up on her in the process, and it all fucked up...but I look back now and realize that happened for a reason! No Im not saying some MAGICAL FORCE did that so we could chat longer, but it was just a wierd-good moment,lol.
The manager then came and rebooted her computer and gave me 15% off for my patience, but I didnt wanna leave!LOL I was so much in my own monkey chatter towards the end though. While she waiting for the computer to reboot (5 min) the manager left and she looks at me and says "so besides this..how is your day going so far? I am SOOO sorry! But while its rebooting, I guess Ill just chat with you!" (very freindly funny voice) that to me was a BIG IOI?? But stupid me resorted to the damn weather and small talk.
Then I saw that she was about to ask me something while I said something esle..like she was ready to ask a question personally but It got sidetracked in the process. She was going through the receipts with her pen circling my savings, and I noticed she kinda paused as she turned it over for a split second ( my first thought was ask her to write her number down....like she wanted me to ask her you know?) I know...Im making a big deal, but this is huge progress in my world! Plus my honest GUT INSTINCT is telling me to just fucking go back there and fucking talk to her!!
Not sure if she had a bf...but there were litte clues Im looking back on that I should have got deeper with her. My fear was my own insecurity of the 10 fucking ppl waiting in line behind me in this long process and I felt I just needed to get out of the way as we said bye to each other. She said she works tomorrow (sun 3-10) I am thinking about just going back in there like i forgot to buy a belt or some shit and chat her up again?
Like "hey..rachel right? Im back..I promise I wont mess up your register today!" The playfully asking her where the belts are at...or whatever, something to maybe get her to walk and show me. Advice please!! I know not to get hooked on one girl, but My Gut is telling me to take action
Dude, drop WHATEVER you learned up to this point and realize these things. I myself was successful at "picking up" a cashier and now she's my loving girlfriend.So I went to Khols today, got a new outfit. Saw a cashier I was very attracted to so i waited in her line. The eye contact was great, she was very chatty & friendly with me. She asked if i wanted to sign up for the Kohls credit card, and I ended up holding the line up for 20 minutes because the computer froze up on her in the process, and it all fucked up...but I look back now and realize that happened for a reason! No Im not saying some MAGICAL FORCE did that so we could chat longer, but it was just a wierd-good moment,lol.
The manager then came and rebooted her computer and gave me 15% off for my patience, but I didnt wanna leave!LOL I was so much in my own monkey chatter towards the end though. While she waiting for the computer to reboot (5 min) the manager left and she looks at me and says "so besides this..how is your day going so far? I am SOOO sorry! But while its rebooting, I guess Ill just chat with you!" (very freindly funny voice) that to me was a BIG IOI?? But stupid me resorted to the damn weather and small talk.
Then I saw that she was about to ask me something while I said something esle..like she was ready to ask a question personally but It got sidetracked in the process. She was going through the receipts with her pen circling my savings, and I noticed she kinda paused as she turned it over for a split second ( my first thought was ask her to write her number down....like she wanted me to ask her you know?) I know...Im making a big deal, but this is huge progress in my world! Plus my honest GUT INSTINCT is telling me to just fucking go back there and fucking talk to her!!
Not sure if she had a bf...but there were litte clues Im looking back on that I should have got deeper with her. My fear was my own insecurity of the 10 fucking ppl waiting in line behind me in this long process and I felt I just needed to get out of the way as we said bye to each other. She said she works tomorrow (sun 3-10) I am thinking about just going back in there like i forgot to buy a belt or some shit and chat her up again?
Like "hey..rachel right? Im back..I promise I wont mess up your register today!" The playfully asking her where the belts are at...or whatever, something to maybe get her to walk and show me. Advice please!! I know not to get hooked on one girl, but My Gut is telling me to take action
Now how did I do this? Despite her being the hottest one there, and probably gets hit on my guys like me 10 times a day? On top of that, I bet you the cashier you talked to also gets hit on by guys like you, 10 or more times a day, EASILY. Cashiers are similar to bartenders in way. And by that, I mean that they'll get approached A LOT. Remember, it is THEIR JOB to make you happy, to make you COME BACK to the store and buy their products, to make you laugh and smile. They NEED social skills. It is not just about counting numbers and punching buttons in a machine... So please do not get overly excited that she "seemed" to be nice to you and chat with you. That is HER JOB.
Now I will tell you this right now. You try to approach her anytime soon in hopes of getting her # or inviting her somewhere, she'll straight up reject you. Why is that? You are not the only guy that has done this. For one, it creeps the FUCK out of her. She hardly knows you, so you're not much different from any other customer. And she expects you to be nice to her, since she's also being nice to you. Everyone is nice to each other, so she will be confused at why you are asking her out or whatever, when you do.
And remember, asking her out when she's at work puts pressure on her. It stacks the odds against you. And she can be fired for "flirting" with customers so that's another no no. You can do one of two ways.
1. Ask her when she's on her break and then meet her then.
2. I perfer this one. Give her a note when you are paying for your items that involves an invitation and your number. Not only does this generate a more positive response, you'll also have a better outcome. She won't be pressured to respond so quickly as work and other customers + employees will be pressuring her negatively. You should add some humor in the note as well. Something like this. "Hi Amy, this is a hold up. I request that you hand over all your belongings from your purse, counter, and the cash register and put it in my pillow case that I so kindly provided. If you fail to comply, I will have to do something neither of us wants. Option B is, you have dinner with me and we can laugh this matter off like it never happened
". Now, you might say to yourself, "Wow this all sounds great, when should I make my move?"
Well this question differs. I found my girlfriend working at a supermarket. It was her part-time job and I mainly saw her at night. This sets a "better" mood and usually has less customers at this time. Not only that but, I also went to the supermarket frequently since it was right around the corner from my house. It wasn't creepy to see her many times in a month. Your case may be different unless you're a Khols addict. Also, I was very confident and whenever I approached her, I didn't let her start the conversation because I was the one who engaged first. This gives the plausible deniability that she doesn't really need to "act" nice, which is apart of her job. And whenever I saw her, I would set the same "mood/SPAM" that I gave her last time. I BROUGHT her moods up from working all night, seeing as she is probably tired and needed some sort of positive stimulation. I would also point out things from her body language which to many girls, you will get major points. For example, if a girl gives this guy a weird look, you can be like "Yeah I know right? What's his problem". Reading a girls body language, any girl will like this. Also, I'd actually be the one who made her happy, and made her laugh. It was kind of reverse psychology. She is so used to treating customers nice first, but it was the opposite for me. That separated me from the rest.
So I just wrote a shit load and you might still be lost in your situation so here is what I do.
1. DO NOT let her suck you into her reality. Change the frame around her. You should be the one who acts like the cashier, making her day better. Remember, it is hard being nice all fuking day, especially when you'll meet a dozen or so prick customers during work. Give her a break and show her that you don't want her fake "nice" attitude. Don't tell her that directly but show her... maybe that you can relate to her. She will be nice to you, but just don't take it the wrong way and let it suck you into her world. Invite her to your reality, take control.
2. I'm not saying you should start being a Khols addict but more "frequent" visits will surely help your chances. This can also backfire in a way, if you are seen as a creep. So always smile and "cheer" her up. She needs that, as it is very hard to put up a fake "happy" identity for 8 hours every fucking day. Make her let her guard down with you. You got to figure this one out yourself. Also, don't prolong it too much, you goto calibrate for yourself.
3. Show her that you can be more than cashier-customer relationship. Because that is all it might ever be. You should talk about things that don't really relate to the store itself, or 'work' in general
4. Once you feel like she's comfortable with you (you must gauge this yourself) and vise versa, then make your move. The only reason most cashiers say no is because it is creepy when she doesn't even know the guy. And usually, the guy does it in a stupid way, by asking her direct during work. Get to know her more.
Wish the best of luck to you. And don't get too excited about this. I didn't get her to be my girlfriend in one day. It took at least a month before I could see that she's comfortable with me and might have a thing for me. With that being said, don't let her be the primary focus. Aka oneitis. She should be a girl you would want to go for as backup. This way, you won't seem needy and desparate, which girls can sense from a mile away.
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