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Author:  P11 [ Sat Oct 02, 2010 9:51 pm ]
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So recently I talked to this one girl I see her everyday at school I had asked her out and she responded with a "I'll think about it" which we all know is generally no.

She is most likely going to approach me on Tuesday with the answer "No". And my response was going to be well maybe next time or something?

How should I go about for a second shot at her, any way to change her mind.
Author:  twisted66 [ Sat Oct 02, 2010 11:34 pm ]
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You need to act indifferent to her response; just say: alright, il see you around. And for getting her back if you are in school you need to demonstrate high value; AKA be the cool kid
Author:  Vitamin-J [ Sat Oct 02, 2010 11:41 pm ]
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ok, first why do you think she's going to say no? how long have you been talking to her before asking her out? and as a rule of thumb, yes I would ask her out a second time, do it with some tact, start every convo with a purpose, know in advance what she likes to do, I would start in with, something like "big plans this weekend?" this is going to tell you if she's free or not, continue conversation as normal, then drop something you know she likes but don't ask her to go do it with you, You: "hey there's this new sushi place I've bee wanting to try out" Her: "oh, I love sushi!" continue the convo don't ask her out, then a few minutes later You: "you know what? I've been wanting to try this new sushi place, you like sushi, you said you don't have any big plans this weekend, come try it with me"

building a little tension goes a long way, try not to just come out with "will you go out with me?" it's boring, make you seem boring and most likely if there's something better to do she'll do it.
Author:  fox_theone [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 12:32 am ]
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I hate oneitis. Usually when I see the tell tale signs in me I run screaming :D nah I'm kidding I learn to deal with it and keep playing the game.

One of the aspects of oneitis that really kills your chances is that you start thinking about this girl all the time. And you actually pay attention and probably even remember every word of your conversations. That's bad. You've got to initially show less interest than her. Then you push-pull and seduce her.

So if you aren't confident she'll accept your invitation out don't bring it up. Have a normal conversation with her and if she brings it up I'd act nonchalant and tell her it's too bad because you're heading there with a bunch of friends and were gonna have a ton of fun. This does two things. It makes her realise you don't give a shit whether she says yes or not because you're gonna be having fun anyway. And it puts her in the pseudo 'friend zone' aka a false disqualification and that's one of the most powerful things you can do.

Some guys are going to have a problem with the last thing I said but 'friend zone' works differently when a male does it and when a female does it. Women aren't usually friend zoned by a guy. It blows their minds. It creates a oneitis effect on them. Be careful though because she has to have at least some attraction for you. You can take her out of friend zone anytime you want with a little push pull but you've got to keep the friendly relationship teasing.

Good luck bro.
Author:  P11 [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 12:57 am ]
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ok, first why do you think she's going to say no? how long have you been talking to her before asking her out? and as a rule of thumb, yes I would ask her out a second time, do it with some tact, start every convo with a purpose, know in advance what she likes to do, I would start in with, something like "big plans this weekend?" this is going to tell you if she's free or not, continue conversation as normal, then drop something you know she likes but don't ask her to go do it with you, You: "hey there's this new sushi place I've bee wanting to try out" Her: "oh, I love sushi!" continue the convo don't ask her out, then a few minutes later You: "you know what? I've been wanting to try this new sushi place, you like sushi, you said you don't have any big plans this weekend, come try it with me"

building a little tension goes a long way, try not to just come out with "will you go out with me?" it's boring, make you seem boring and most likely if there's something better to do she'll do it.
Because my friend has fifth period class with her and she was talking to him about it and she said "I didn't want to be mean". I talked to her in total before asking her out...0 times.

@Fox_theone I am constantly thinking about her, and out of all the girls in my classes it seems that none can compare to her. Yeah I'll definitely try that homecoming as a single guy can't be too bad.

@twisted66 No point in acting like somebody I'm not. Although I appreciate the advice.
Author:  ImNaShitFool [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 1:07 am ]
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dont..

and deff dont say "maybe some other time" shes gonna be in her head like "yeaaaaaa prolly not"

dont even ask her, pretend u forgot about it.. & when ur with her in social situations, neg the shit out of her & DHV all the slightly less attractive girls & get them flirting with u..

Seriously? the nerve of this bitch? "I'll think about it?" yeah u will.. while I fuck all your friends...

^ keep that attitude..
Author:  Shyler [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 10:24 am ]
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here is a topic about oneitis, with facts a bout why you can't get a girl when you have oneitis, and how to cure it. I highly advice you to read it: big-topic-about-curing-oneitis-vt74280.html?highlight=
Author:  Vitamin-J [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 10:15 pm ]
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If she already told your friend that she's gonna say no ("I don't want to be mean") I would break it off, I would walk up to her and say something like "hey, I just got a minute but about friday, something came up, I cant make it." or what ever fits in the convo, try to persevere your value and if possible use the next few days/weeks to build report and attraction, look for IOI's and when/if she's giving them, go ahead and try again.
Author:  Vitamin-J [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 10:24 pm ]
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dont..

and deff dont say "maybe some other time" shes gonna be in her head like "yeaaaaaa prolly not"

dont even ask her, pretend u forgot about it.. & when ur with her in social situations, neg the shit out of her & DHV all the slightly less attractive girls & get them flirting with u..

Seriously? the nerve of this bitch? "I'll think about it?" yeah u will.. while I fuck all your friends...

^ keep that attitude..
I like this too, most defiantly don't say another time. there's a good chance you just asked premature with out building enough or even any attraction.
Author:  AFC Royal [ Mon Oct 04, 2010 12:04 am ]
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Read Shyler's link.

You're wasting time with her. Don't.
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