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Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:50 am ]
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I'm dating an HB9, man they're weird! We had our first serious conversation, she's telling me the following stuff, with really negative body language. (We're dating, n she wouldn't even let me put her arm around her)

HB9 - You act so weird, so immature. Ugh I don't like it, etc etc.

Me - That's just who I am. Why are you so moody?

We went back n forth. I do act weird/immature around her though, but most of the times she laughs, n then she says she doesn't like it... like wtf.

Anyways, I'm just tryna figure this girl out. Should I drop the playful - Weird/immature act now that we are already dating, or keep it up?

Btw, she tells her friends I'm an asshole, etc. I don't pay for her lunch n stuff, should I start doing that? (She was telling me how her other guy friend bought her all this food. But she's dating me, so I'm thinking no)

EDIT: Oh yeah one more thing. What do you guys think about telling this girl to do something. I told her to do something a few moments ago, (when we were fighting) she was all "No!". I snapped my fingers and was like "Get Up" and she was like "No, don't snap your fingers at me! I'm not your bitch!".... Maybe the snapping of the fingers was too much lol, but I'm a man. I'm not going to say please n shit everytime i ask her to do something. Am I doing this right?
Author:  KristallNachte [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 6:49 am ]
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we can't really tell anything about the dynamic you two have...so any advice we have would be from our own personal experience and interpretation and would most likely not apply well to your situation.
Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:01 pm ]
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Hmm well... as a boyfriend, should I pay for her n stuff? I just don't want to be labelled as the nice guy.
Author:  F_I_X_E_R [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:13 pm ]
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If ever I'm accused of something by a girl I'd say something like:

- " Teo, you're a moron/idiot/weird/fag/communist/nazi/lol/etc/etc/etc"
- "Yep, and I'm also funny!" or "Yep, and you love it!"

It's a shit test, chill. Just go along with it and don't let her catch you on the defensive. She may not even mean what she's saying, she just wants to see your response.

I hope this helps.

" Why are you so moody? "

It's not a very good idea to fire back on her tough... It's enough to stay unaffected.

You may also react Han Solo style for shits and giggles :D

"Something tells me that there aren't enough weird guys in your life."
Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:30 pm ]
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Fixer - Man, that's what I've been doing. I laugh at everything she says, when she gives me thsoe shit test, n I tell her I'm a weird ass individual. When she is in a good mood, she laughs at the weird things I do and asks me why I do it. Like last night, she was all serious/bitchy about it, and was telling me, "why do you act so weird, like who does that" blablabla. N she looked pretty serious. I caught her smiling when I did one of those weird things, but then she gets mad n tries to be serious again. That's one hell of a shit test, but I'ma take your advice bro. We're still together so I must be doing something right. Thanks.

Also, she's my g/f. Should I pay for her lunch n stuff, or will that shoot me in the nice guy zone? (Apparently, she tells her other friends how I'm such an asshole)

Also, how should I keep this girl in check. She told me to pour her some soda at MickyD's, I shouldn't do this right? Is their any circumstances where I should do something she tells/asks?
Author:  GKS [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:36 pm ]
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You can pay for her lunch but make her win it, play a little game with her, 5 lies game is good enough or bet something with her. The key is make her feel that she earns it , not you trying to kiss her ass and buy her stuffs.
Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 4:40 pm ]
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Ahh thanks Tao. That answers my question about her asking me to do stuff as well.
Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 11:02 pm ]
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Update - Ok, so she did something that kinda pissed me off. I acted like I was really pissed, and just ignored her. She started walking in front of me, tryna hold me back from walking to my house. Giving me hugs like no other. (I didn't hug back) N for the first time, when she left, she says "I love you MyNameHere". What the hell is up with this girl lol? When I'm the aggressor, even if I put my hand around her to pull her in to me, she's like, "Omg stop stop". Then when I give her an IOD for that, she chases me. So am I going to have to purposely try to IOI her, get rejected, then IOD her back, then we can start getting closer? Or is their an easier way around this chick?

EDIT: She blowing up my phone, via text. :D Asking if I'm mad at her. Hmm what's a good way to respond?
Author:  vibe112 [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 11:11 pm ]
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I think she she's got this attitude you need to give her a good freeze out. No text, no calls or anything. If she doesn't fall back down to earth let it go and don't sweat it.

I do have a theory as to why she's acting like this though. Your first interaction you might have portrayed yourself too over the top. Now she's got this image of you that you can't live up to and she's dissapointed.

Another reason might be that you hit on some other girl the night you met her and she found out about this. She might still like you, but she is pissed off about this.
Author:  Puaking [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 11:16 pm ]
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I think she she's got this attitude you need to give her a good freeze out. No text, no calls or anything. If she doesn't fall back down to earth let it go and don't sweat it.

I do have a theory as to why she's acting like this though. Your first interaction you might have portrayed yourself too over the top. Now she's got this image of you that you can't live up to and she's dissapointed.

Another reason might be that you hit on some other girl the night you met her and she found out about this. She might still like you, but she is pissed off about this.
Brotha you are psychic! We all went out to the movies, I guess she thought I wanted to take strictly her. And I brang this other ger along n we were holding hands, sitting on my lap, etc... I looked her way, n she was pissed lol. So a freeze out for like 2-3 days? Then she will be a normal chick, or do i still have to play these games?
Author:  BrianNPUA [ Sun Sep 26, 2010 11:16 pm ]
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I don't know your whole situation, how hold you are, or exactly what you are doing, but sounds like you should drop the Weird/immature act. And not because she says but because maybe you should act like a man. an alpha male. not the Weird/immature dude. don't be that guy imo
Author:  Puaking [ Mon Sep 27, 2010 12:19 am ]
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I don't know your whole situation, how hold you are, or exactly what you are doing, but sounds like you should drop the Weird/immature act. And not because she says but because maybe you should act like a man. an alpha male. not the Weird/immature dude. don't be that guy imo
I've noticed I only whip out the weird/immature act if I'm not getting much out of females. The convo started dying, n she n her friend we're talking to my other male friend... so I whipped out my lil bro's bike n started riding it around lol. They we're smiling n laughing, so I think it was good... (I heard being easily amused is good. Taking any situation and making it fun)

But anyways, after this few day freeze-out, what should I tell her. I don't want my gf to be talking to my guy friends, sitting next to each other... or hugging them. Gotta keep this girl in check. After the freeze-out, do I just have a serious 1-1 talk and say she can't do this n that?

Update - She's txting me about how she's such a horrible person and she loves me so much that I should txt her. (Shit test?)

Update2 - Her g/f is txting me, tryna get me jealous. I'm msging back while freezing out.l
Author:  Puaking [ Mon Sep 27, 2010 3:01 pm ]
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Sorry to bother you guys again, but I wanna know how long I should do a freeze out. 24-48 hours coo?
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Sep 27, 2010 4:15 pm ]
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There are a few things going on here.

First off, you are at that level of rAFC -> PUA transition where you get results in field using a bag of loosely assembled tricks that work. Unfortunately, you have not absorbed the lessons into your personality and mindset completely yet. This make you act in an INCONGRUENT manner. The longer the relationship lasts, the less sure you are of yourself and more inconsistencies start to emerge. Women spot this because they are far more emotionally advanced at spotting bullshitters. She is constantly testing your frame to see if the guy that picked her up is just a facade or really you.

Secondly, she is doing a normal female thing of being hot and cold, playing hard to get and generally trying to manipulate your emotions so that you invest in her and want to chase her and win her over. If you push to hard, she turns cold. If you pull away then she turns warm again.

The solution to both of these problems is relatively straightforward. Simply DO NOT REACT to her shit. Stop being a dancing monkey when shit turns awkward because that is validation seeking behaviour. She may laugh at it but she's probably laughing AT you, not WITH you. If she tells you you're weird, say "yeah I know!" with a smile or don't say anything at all, but don't justify yourself or get all whiney and start asking her why she's being mean to you.

It's NOT a shit test for her to apologise for being mean and then say she loves you, you fucking moron. If she apologises and says she loves you, then for god sake REWARD her positive behaviour towards you by saying cool don't worry about it and fucking go hang out with her.

Oh and the buying stuff thing, offer to split the bill. Give her a little present once in a while when she's been good or something. Don't just flat out refuse to get her anything. The point about not paying is that it should be done in validation seeking way like you're buying her time because you're lower value than her. Once you're in an actual relationship then you can buy her shit if you want man. Flowers for no reason cuz you like her are great. A diamond necklace to apologise for cheating on her, not so much.
Author:  hex [ Mon Sep 27, 2010 4:44 pm ]
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LOL. I couldn't have said it better myself. No offense, but I cringe whenever I read posts like this. She's your girlfriend and you won't pay for anything? She says she loves you and you wonder if it's a shit test? Honestly, I don't think you are ready to have a girlfriend and should probably date a few more women. You sound like you're in that initial phase of PU where you're pretty damn weird because you are trying out things that are totally not you and (hopefully) trying to determine which behaviors suit your personality so that you can act congruently.

Right now, you have incongruent written all of you bro. This relationship will probably fizzle out soon.
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