PUA Forum :: How do I ask her to go to homecoming?

Me: Hey, I heard you don't have a date for the homecoming, what's that about?
Her: blah, blah, blah.
Me: I see, I was thinking of skipping the dance myself, but I figured It would be an excuse to go out and have some fun. What time should I pick you up?

First of all, Relax...it's not the end of the world if this doesn't happen. View this as an opportunity to sharpen your game, nothing more. This mindset will help you stay calm.

Have you talked to her yet, what has the interaction been like? Are you playful with her, challenging, fun, mysterious? In other words, are you building any rapport?

Not masturbating will increase your lust, yes. If you're really into her perhaps you should consider taking a step back and getting some perspective. Might sound like you're developing one-itis.

I can't tell if you should text her or not. Last time you texted her was Friday, and she hasn't answered yet? What you DO NOT want to do is be desperate. This is a girl, there are LOTS of other girls at your school. She isn't an angel, she doesn't have superpowers, she is just like the rest. If you're taking the approach that she is the one, you're putting her on a pedestal she can't reach. Do not do that. Calm down, breathe, realize that this is just a person.

Sending random texts should not be perceived as annoying unless you spam her or write annyoing messages. Simply sending "Hey, what's up?" is an open question that she can answer any way she wants. However it isn't very personal.

Being funny and friendly is all about how you act. Smile at her, make eye contact. Do not compliment her too much (if at all), there's a small line between complimenting just right and sounding desperate. Talk to her, listen to her.

I'm afraid you have to be the judge of that. How often have you talked face to face? How regularly have you texted? Would it seem weird if you sent her a random text? It really shouldn't, but you have to consider it.

If she randomly texted you first, there should be no problem in you initiating a text conversation. After all, she wouldn't have contacted you if she wasn't at least somewhat interested.

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 7:58 pm ]
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So I've only known this girl 5 days. Apparently(over hearing a convo between her and her friend) she doesnt want to go because she has no one to go with. Neither do I and I really would like to go with her. We only have 1 class together and we don't see eachother that much outside of class because its a big school. I have her number and I have her friends number but I'm not sure how to ask her. I need to do this quickly, strike while the iron's hot!

Author:	SiNfUl [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 8:27 pm ]
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Me: Hey, I heard you don't have a date for the homecoming, what's that about? Her: blah, blah, blah. Me: I see, I was thinking of skipping the dance myself, but I figured It would be an excuse to go out and have some fun. What time should I pick you up?

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 8:53 pm ]
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Quote: Me: Hey, I heard you don't have a date for the homecoming, what's that about? Her: blah, blah, blah. Me: I see, I was thinking of skipping the dance myself, but I figured It would be an excuse to go out and have some fun. What time should I pick you up? How can I get her alone?!

Author:	SiNfUl [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 9:32 pm ]
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First of all, Relax...it's not the end of the world if this doesn't happen. View this as an opportunity to sharpen your game, nothing more. This mindset will help you stay calm. Have you talked to her yet, what has the interaction been like? Are you playful with her, challenging, fun, mysterious? In other words, are you building any rapport?

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:41 pm ]
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Quote: First of all, Relax...it's not the end of the world if this doesn't happen. View this as an opportunity to sharpen your game, nothing more. This mindset will help you stay calm. Have you talked to her yet, what has the interaction been like? Are you playful with her, challenging, fun, mysterious? In other words, are you building any rapport? She texted me first 2 days she got my number. I think she thinks im funny, friendly, but shy. Which is true. I texted her on friday and she never replied. My plan is. I'm going to wear a white shirt and write "Homecoming?" on it. Then I will put a button up jacket over it. She sits diagnolly facing me in class. I'm going to unbutton the jacket and call her name. Show her my shirt. What do you think? Keep in mind I'm not trying to 1 night stand her. I'd like something long term.

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Author:	Sarph [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:46 pm ]
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Apologizing in advance, but to me that sounds a bit cheesy. It's original though, and it would make her smile/laugh, but if it is because you don't have the guts to ask her face to face then perhaps it's not the best solution. However if you're doing it simply to be creative, then go for it. Worst case scenario, she says no. If that's the case, too bad for her, she's the one missing out. If she says yes, great, you just found a creative way to ask that works. I think your facial expression and your mindset is important for doing it right though. A nervous smile or not being able to withhold eye contact might make her turn you down.

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:52 pm ]
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I hear not masturbating builds up a sex drive making you more eager to get women. Is this true? I've been stopping so I can do this! I really want to get her man!!! I really do! I'm afraid to text her right now because I don't want to come across as annoying. Tomorrow I want to try and be really funny and friendly. How can I do this?

Author:	Sarph [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:04 pm ]
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Not masturbating will increase your lust, yes. If you're really into her perhaps you should consider taking a step back and getting some perspective. Might sound like you're developing one-itis. I can't tell if you should text her or not. Last time you texted her was Friday, and she hasn't answered yet? What you DO NOT want to do is be desperate. This is a girl, there are LOTS of other girls at your school. She isn't an angel, she doesn't have superpowers, she is just like the rest. If you're taking the approach that she is the one, you're putting her on a pedestal she can't reach. Do not do that. Calm down, breathe, realize that this is just a person. Sending random texts should not be perceived as annoying unless you spam her or write annyoing messages. Simply sending "Hey, what's up?" is an open question that she can answer any way she wants. However it isn't very personal. Being funny and friendly is all about how you act. Smile at her, make eye contact. Do not compliment her too much (if at all), there's a small line between complimenting just right and sounding desperate. Talk to her, listen to her.

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:11 pm ]
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Quote: Not masturbating will increase your lust, yes. If you're really into her perhaps you should consider taking a step back and getting some perspective. Might sound like you're developing one-itis. I can't tell if you should text her or not. Last time you texted her was Friday, and she hasn't answered yet? What you DO NOT want to do is be desperate. This is a girl, there are LOTS of other girls at your school. She isn't an angel, she doesn't have superpowers, she is just like the rest. If you're taking the approach that she is the one, you're putting her on a pedestal she can't reach. Do not do that. Calm down, breathe, realize that this is just a person. Sending random texts should not be perceived as annoying unless you spam her or write annyoing messages. Simply sending "Hey, what's up?" is an open question that she can answer any way she wants. However it isn't very personal. Being funny and friendly is all about how you act. Smile at her, make eye contact. Do not compliment her too much (if at all), there's a small line between complimenting just right and sounding desperate. Talk to her, listen to her. Should I text her right now? With like "heyy sup?" keep in mind ive only known her for 5 days.

Author:	Sarph [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:13 pm ]
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I'm afraid you have to be the judge of that. How often have you talked face to face? How regularly have you texted? Would it seem weird if you sent her a random text? It really shouldn't, but you have to consider it.

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:16 pm ]
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Quote: I'm afraid you have to be the judge of that. How often have you talked face to face? How regularly have you texted? Would it seem weird if you sent her a random text? It really shouldn't, but you have to consider it. I opened up to her a little bit through 1 of my texts. She asked if I knew anyone that went there and I told her that her and her friend were my first friends there. Keep in mind shes randomly texted me, I never expected the first 1.

Author:	Sarph [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:18 pm ]
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If she randomly texted you first, there should be no problem in you initiating a text conversation. After all, she wouldn't have contacted you if she wasn't at least somewhat interested.

Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:20 pm ]
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Quote: If she randomly texted you first, there should be no problem in you initiating a text conversation. After all, she wouldn't have contacted you if she wasn't at least somewhat interested. Last but not least what should I say as an opener to sound "kewl".

Author:	Sarph [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:26 pm ]
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Be imaginative. I'm not a great source of information, check out the opener page from the FAQ. My advice though is act natural and be yourself, that way you can talk to her face to face the same way you text. You don't have to make that big of a deal out of it, but be sure to actually have something to talk about. Simply saying "Hey, whats up?" "Nothing much." "Ok cool." isn't really a conversation. "So hey, what do you think about this teacher? I heard bla bla.." might work. If she doesn't have the teacher you can move on to other school-related stuff, however I would suggest you try to talk about personal stuff rather than school. It might be a good subject for building comfort in the start though.

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Author:	Arch0n [ Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:44 pm ]
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I texted her this: "Hey were all those questions due 2morrow in chem?!" She said she didn't know. Shit, so this was just to test my theory that she lost her phone or something, which she didn't . I'm really paranoid about this too be honest. I had to take 0.25 mg of xanax yesterday so I could just get my mind off it.