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| Author: | Charade [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 4:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Building comfort |
I follow the process of attract, build comfort, and seduce (in that order) I understand building comfort with a women is very important with a successful seduction, however, how much comfort should you really build? I would assuming having a women feel 'too much' comfort with you would eventually trap you in the friend zone. What is the best way to build comfort and how far should it go to keep the attraction going? |
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| Author: | openMinded [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 4:56 am ] |
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too much comfort leads to friend zone is actually a half-truth. the truth that leads to a friend zone is rather (not enough attraction) is built. hence the "i don't feel that way towards you" . i think . |
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| Author: | JOHNNYBOY29 [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 1:13 pm ] |
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How could you retrieve a situation where you built up alot of comfort but then it gets destroyed? I.e. Is there any chance of rebuilding that comfort and if so, how? As I think it becomes more difficult. |
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| Author: | openMinded [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 1:19 pm ] |
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Quote: How could you retrieve a situation where you built up alot of comfort but then it gets destroyed?
I think it is a lot more difficult. Trust. You start out with a clean paper. But once the paper is wrinkled, it is wrinkled, and no matter what you do to make it clean again, it just won't happen. I.e. Is there any chance of rebuilding that comfort and if so, how? As I think it becomes more difficult. As a result of broken trust, you can only reassure her of your trust. So instead of trying to make the paper unwrinkled again, you start coloring it. Recreating a new form of trust. |
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| Author: | Melissa [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 1:25 pm ] |
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How much comfort you need to build before the seduction process depends on the individual; some women are quite happy to jump into bed with guys they've just met and are reasonably comfortable with, while others require a far higher level of comfort before getting to the final bedroom stages. In terms of re-establishing comfort after you've unwittingly destroyed it, it depends upon both the individuals in question and how badly the comfort level that you'd attained was destroyed, as well as the actual process by which this destruction occurred. I wouldn't say the that the situation is inherently irredeemable, but I'd need to know more before being able to provide more useful advice. Start at the beginning again, and go as slowly as you need to in order to re-establish the rapport/comfort. Pushing would likely be a bad idea at this point in time. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Thu Aug 26, 2010 1:26 pm ] |
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There's no such thing as too much comfort - don't even worry about it. Combining any level of comfort together with sexual escalation creates a lethal weapon. |
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