Hey guys,
recently I'm turning kind of into a female player and since I came out of a long, monogamous relationship and never really did the whole dating thing (number---> call/text ---> Dinner etc, just feels forced, I always met men in more natural settings).
I have a kind-of long term relationship (we havn't defined our realtionship and don't want to, but it's definately more than casual, non-committed. we're making a lot of plans and it's very emotional) and we both 100% agree that it's totally non-exclusive (he's had open relationships before and is open to polyamory).
Now I have a date, where I'm still not sure it's a date, tonight with a very cute guy I've been into for a while (wrote about him on the forum) and a definately date with a professional athlete on thursday.
The guy I'm seeing today I really like and I don't want him being hurt if I seduce him and then he finds out I already have someone else in my life, someone who has kind-of a boyfriend status. On the other hand I need him to finally get that I'm attracted to him without him thinking it's just physical.
The guy I'm seeing thursday is really eager to date me on a regular basis (a little too eager^^) and I don't want him getting false expectations, thinking he can make me his girlfriend.
oh and the perhaps biggist issue is that I know all three guys via the same organisation, even though they don't know each other, word might get around and there's always the chance things could get ugly if one of them is upset ...
So yeah, any experience when/how to explain that you won't be exclusive, without it being too early so they don't even want to get to know you any more or too late so they feel you set them up? :S
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well I've had a man refuse to kiss me unless I tell him, I'd be monogamous