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| Author: | close_enough [ Thu Aug 05, 2010 10:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Sarging and the LTR I want to respect. |
Hi guys, I need some men's advice on my situation. I am in a long term relationship, and we have special bond together. Actually I am engaged now and committed - I really appreciate my girl and want to spend my life with her. There is no question about it. HOWEVER, I got very interested in PU. Because of my LTR I repressed this interest but no longer do I want to, because it is real and I cant deny it. I just AM interested in other women and I do not see nothing wrong with this. However, my GF would surely do. So now I am in the classic dillema. I do not see the solution here because I really do not want to cheat her or hurt her but at the same time my PU interest and tempation to give it a try is part of me, and it is something real that I do not want to sacrify that easily... Just wanted to share...Any advice? |
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| Author: | topcat3 [ Thu Aug 05, 2010 11:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | natural |
its natural your a man! but obviously if she is the love of your life like you say you shouldn't feel like doing anything that could jeopardise that. How devastated would you be if she found out and left you? thats the question you have to answer. If you could get over her quickly then by all means go sarging |
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| Author: | close_enough [ Fri Aug 06, 2010 1:11 am ] |
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You are right Greg, I definately do not want jeopardise it, she is too special. And it is part of the reason I decided to look for advice instead of acting it out and doing something stupid. Let me guys say more about the situation: What turns me on most in the PU itself is the self-growth aspect. By learning PU I: 1. put effort to overcome my anxietes and limitations 2. i work on social skills and social ease 3. i get various new experiences in real life (it is what my life lacked recently as I am self-employed working from my home) So as you can see it is not a sexual stuff that I find most appealing in learning PU. Therefore, the one solution that comes to my mind at this moment is to learn a bit of pick-up AND honour unwritten rules of my LTR at the same time. How can this be achieved? I could open girls, according to PU rules, work on early and medium stages of the game, but decline any intimate contact with girls. Everything would be done "here and now" - without further dates, phone calls, and one-night stands. Of course, this would definately involve some sexual tension and flirting but nothing huge. The problem I see with this, it is still not ok toward my GF because if I ask myself sincerly if this are plans that should be expected of an engaged man - they are definately not. She would have full rights to be pissed off and hurt if she found out. The other problem is that it is probably easier to say than execute in action. Line between flirting and seducing is very thick, so I am not sure If i were always able to stay on track. As I am writing all of this, I realize I probably think too much - I should give it a try and see what works for me...Just some random thoughts... Still... I would appreciate some male advice a lot! Tnx. |
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| Author: | topcat3 [ Fri Aug 06, 2010 9:23 am ] |
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nothing wrong with having girls as friends, playful flirting etc. but you need to make clear you have a gf to them and to yourself I think what you want is more female company as you enjoy it and they make you feel good. also a bit of jealousy can be good in a relationship and keep your control over your gf. try it out but be warned that its very hard to resist jumping into bed then with the new girls as its in our nature. you have to be prepared for this situation. make clear whats most important in your life first |
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