A woman's primary emotional need is security. All other needs (trust, communication, affection, commitment) are spin-offs of the most basic female desire - to feel safe from abandonment.

This is particularly important when a woman is sleeping with a man as, subconciously and biologically, she wants to feel that the man will stick around in the event that she gets pregnant.

Then why do women detest needy/clingy guys so much? They are exactly the kinds that would never leave a woman. Instead women go for the guy with the most options, meaning he's much more likely to choose someone else.

Then why do women detest needy/clingy guys so much? They are exactly the kinds that would never leave a woman. Instead women go for the guy with the most options, meaning he's much more likely to choose someone else.

Because emotional needs are only one portion of the pie. Clingy and needy guys are probably failing to satisfy her intellectual, sexual, and shared interest needs.

Because emotional needs are only one portion of the pie. Clingy and needy guys are probably failing to satisfy her intellectual, sexual, and shared interest needs.

I agree with Zephyrine's statement about woman valuing security (knowing that the man won't leave them) in a relationship, and I see how that is true, but how do we show that we are not needy without "showing that we are willing to leave them" without damaging the woman's feeling of security?

One of the basic technique a guy uses to show a girl that they are not needy is by "showing that they are willing to leave them" well atleast that is what I thought is the best way to go at "eliminating the needy persona", so now I am starting to question this...

hopefully what i said made some sense.