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Author:  P_Bateman [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 1:35 pm ]
Post subject:  She's got a boyfriend
I was at an 'older' party a few weeks back and I got chatting to this girl there. We basically spoke for around 4 hours and got on really well. She added me on facebook the next day, we got talking again and it turned out we were both going to a bbq that night.

After a while at the bbq she took me into another room and said lets talk. We ended up talking about relationships but I never asked her if she was in one. We exchanged numbers and I left. The next day we were texting and she said shes seeing someone, but she likes me. Oh fucker.

Through the week we text each other, and she ended up asking me to come out with her just to sort some stuff out. We actually ended up going out for a meal. Last night we exchange some sexual texts ;) so Im almost certain she wants to hook up with me but I dont think she wants to leave her boyfriend.

I want a relationship with her, simple as. My plan is to get in contact with her as much as possible, meet up often but let her know if shes not with me I'm seeing other people.

I know theres not really a question there but I am looking for advice, anyone been in this situation? Anyone got any tips for me?

Cheers
Author:  Reckless Casanova [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 1:40 pm ]
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Mate that sounds fucking great. She seems really into you. She is saying she is seeing someone else. That does not me that it is a "boyfriend". Maybe just someone she is seeing. And what it seems to me is that she is into you. So just keep it up, it seems it's going well mate :D
Author:  P_Bateman [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 1:55 pm ]
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Nah she did say she'd been with him for 8 months, BUT she also said she started seeing him while with her ex.

I know that makes her sound like a cheating slut but shes not, the only reason it wernt over was because they decided to stay together over xmas.
Author:  Reckless Casanova [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 2:06 pm ]
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Nah she did say she'd been with him for 8 months, BUT she also said she started seeing him while with her ex.

I know that makes her sound like a cheating slut but shes not, the only reason it wernt over was because they decided to stay together over xmas
Ahh okay, so what is there situation know. Are they about to go from each other or what?. If she is unsure about there relationship, then she is probably out hunting for some fresh meat ;).

So I will say mate, see how it goes. And keep us updated!.
Author:  P_Bateman [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 3:19 pm ]
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I dont think its really serious as they only see each other twice a week max. From what she told me about him, he seems quite stubborn so I'm going to be working that angle.

If I can see her more than she see's him, it should bring up some questions in her mind aswell.

:twisted:
Author:  Tundra [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 7:37 pm ]
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Not sure why you would want a relationship with this woman. Do you really think you're that special that she won't pull the same crap on you? Fine, hit it, but you're asking for trouble if you want more. My 2 cents.
Author:  Reckless Casanova [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 7:53 pm ]
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Not sure why you would want a relationship with this woman. Do you really think you're that special that she won't pull the same crap on you? Fine, hit it, but you're asking for trouble if you want more. My 2 cents.
Yeah I will agree on that point. But see what happens, too soon to draw conclusions :)
Author:  Zephyrine [ Tue Jul 27, 2010 10:32 pm ]
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This girl is a serial cheater. If you are looking for a serious, committed relationship, look elsewhere.

That being said, hanging around, texting all the time, and seeing her more than she sees Mr. Twice-A-Week will not work. She is obviously an independent woman, who does what she wants. Don't smother her. Be aloof and demanding. If you don't challenge her then she will move on to the next guy.
Author:  P_Bateman [ Wed Jul 28, 2010 9:27 am ]
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Yes I am that special guy.

The thing is I know this ain't oneitis, with that I go with another girl and its over. Ive been with another girl this week, but I cant get over her and I know why.

She's such a strong women, opinionated, driven (she's setting up her own business), she's different to any other girl Ive met and I really want to be with her. I think its the challenge she poses and the fact that we get on like a house on fire. I will be with her!!

Cheers for your input guys, I'll keep you updated 8)
Author:  ~Finesse [ Wed Jul 28, 2010 2:41 pm ]
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This girl is a serial cheater. If you are looking for a serious, committed relationship, look elsewhere.

That being said, hanging around, texting all the time, and seeing her more than she sees Mr. Twice-A-Week will not work. She is obviously an independent woman, who does what she wants. Don't smother her. Be aloof and demanding. If you don't challenge her then she will move on to the next guy.


+1


Amazing, a woman who actually knows what she is talking about! (That was a compliment btw, if not a little chauvenistic :wink:)



To add to this, yeah, bro. You've really got it twisted there. You already sound wayyy too needy. What this will achieve is her having two guys overly into her(depending how much her boy is into her), and she will go for the next man who is interested, but is very detached(Sp?).


You need to ease up. You're wayyy too into her and, sheesh. You're gonna seem so fucking needy.



In regards to letting her know you're seeing other girls. Be careful with how you do that, you sound like a bit of a cowboy, you're going crazy with all these silly ideas that are just going to mess things up for you.



Telling girls that other girls are into you, or, you're seeing other girls, or you're good with girls. It never comes off right, even if it's entirely true. She has to see it for herself. And especially with all the time you planned on devoting to her, all that effort, just gonna sound like you're chatting breeze.


The whole 'I'll be seeing other girls' and wanting to let her know, will sound like a silly pathetic ultimatum or attempt to make her jealous. Either way, it's showing that you're trying to get a reaction from her, or care too much about what she thinks.



I apologise if this sounds very ranty, but your original post made me facepalm way too hard.



good luck with it, let us know how it goes.

And listen to Zephyrine, she's smart.
Author:  P_Bateman [ Wed Jul 28, 2010 4:32 pm ]
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Facepalm LOL

I may sound like Im being needy but Im not, Im keeping my distance a fair bit but still maintaining enough contact. It seems to have worked aswell, we're going for a romantic meal followed by the cinema tomorrow night.

Wish me luck haha
Author:  ~Finesse [ Wed Jul 28, 2010 9:09 pm ]
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Facepalm LOL

I may sound like Im being needy but Im not, Im keeping my distance a fair bit but still maintaining enough contact. It seems to have worked aswell, we're going for a romantic meal followed by the cinema tomorrow night.

Wish me luck haha

Good luck, bro!


Let us know how it goes. And I notice you're in the uk... where abouts you located?
Author:  P_Bateman [ Wed Jul 28, 2010 9:41 pm ]
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Cheers pal.

Im normally around Swansea or Cardiff, but I've got mates all over the UK so I do travel about.

Where do you live then??
Author:  P_Bateman [ Fri Jul 30, 2010 10:10 am ]
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Well that was fucking brutal.

Last night I came across as a whipped AFC bitch. As soon as we were together I felt awkward, I was annalyzing everything I was going to say, which made me look like a retard but the worst was when she told me your like a brother to me. I felt SICK when she told me that. Im not just in her friend zone, Im in her comfort friend zone - she was telling me shitty things about her bf/ex bf's.

A few good things came out of it though. She told me what she looks for in a guy - Confident, Tall, Bit Older, Dark Hair and Arrogant. Well, I thought, shes describing me except we're the same age. She doesnt think Im confident or arrogant, she thinks Im a good looking, nice, friendly guy. Why didnt she just kick me in my balls ffs. Im convince if she was single she'd have sex with me but never a relationship.

Or well fuck it onwards and upwards.
Author:  JOHNNYBOY29 [ Fri Jul 30, 2010 12:56 pm ]
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Mate, i feel for you

im a firm believer that things can always be turned around no matter what

perseverence
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