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| Author: | Red.Ink [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 12:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | CALLING ALL PUA'S how to be the LEADER out of your freinds |
how do you be the main guy out of your freinds in general. Is there any stragergy to it like walking slightly in front of the group saying statements rather than asking questions? any thoughts??? |
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| Author: | Chukz15 [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 5:30 am ] |
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I have no idea, I barely have any friends. |
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| Author: | Gifted1ne [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 5:39 am ] |
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The only way you can be a leader of your friends is if you were the one who created the social circle. Being a leader is to lead by example and not to doing what everyone else is doing. Consider change as a part of leadership, changing to better yourself, physically, mentally,spiritually or financially to that matter. |
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| Author: | Tundra [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 6:57 am ] |
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This is a good question, I haven't really thought about it much but its very important. I think the way to become a leader in general is to be a leader of something. Be an authority on something. Find things about people, your friends in particular, that interest you. There's always something to talk about. When you sound like you know what you're talking about, they will respect you for it, you will have some value to them. And for christ sake, have confidence when you speak on the things that interest you. Once you've established your ability to lead and your ability to hold a circle together through your own abilities (authority), you will have some pull. How much pull? Can't say, it all depends. Yes, bringing people together is kind of a cheat code to being a leader, but it doesn't make you the leader or even a good one. How is this true? If you've gone to a party and gotten more attention than the host, that's one way of knowing. Repeating it is another. And finally getting laid by a friend of the host ("creator" of the social circle) should be the best indicator. Yeah, I think there's other small cues, like being in front etc. but they are all based on the idea that you are an authority. The only way you're really going to be able to pull that off consistently without thinking about it is to believe you are an authority. It sounds like a snake eating its tail sort of thing but I think the starting point is where you act on your interests and let others know that you know wtf you're talking about. |
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