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Author:  Mbay876 [ Tue Jul 13, 2010 9:31 am ]
Post subject:  Getting her back.
Recently a girl I've been dating and I got into an argument (over her ex), and we stopped talking for a few days. After things cooled down a little we started talking again(for about 2 weeks), and I've been trying to get her to hang out with me. If I ask her "When are we gonna hang out?" she usually replies with "I don't know.", so I was wondering if you guys had any ideas on how I can get her to go out on a little date with me? Any help is appreciated.

Thanks.
Author:  sacredstoryteller [ Tue Jul 13, 2010 1:51 pm ]
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she probably doesn't wanna see you again.
i might be wrong.

you kinda have to start over again. like, re-intrigue her.

getting in arguments over ex's is a bad thing and seeing as you havent seen her in two weeks is not a good thing either.
Author:  Mbay876 [ Wed Jul 14, 2010 8:43 pm ]
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Yeah, I get what you mean. We text each other just about everyday, so that shows she still has interest in me. I'll see what I can do. Thanks.
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jul 14, 2010 10:07 pm ]
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If you text each other everyday, try a different approach, don't text her for a day, let her wonder what your up to. If she texts you, IOI right there my friend.

Make out you were busy, DHV, but be friendly. That's my suggestion. Also sometimes you've gotta just crack on and forget about some chicks.
Author:  Mbay876 [ Thu Jul 15, 2010 12:35 am ]
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Sounds good, I won't text her tomorrow and see how she reacts to it.
Author:  Mbay876 [ Sat Jul 17, 2010 1:26 am ]
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So, nothing yet. I guess its time to move on.
Author:  Chelios [ Sat Jul 17, 2010 7:38 am ]
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So, nothing yet. I guess its time to move on.
Expect the unexpected, whilst you get on with your life. There will come a time where she will think " why hasn't he text me" and she will text you, 9/10 times this happens, so just move on to better things and if anything let her lick your ass to get back in if that's what you really want. Personally if she gets back in touch weeks down the line, I'd treat her like she's been friendzoned.
Author:  londoncharm [ Sat Jul 17, 2010 8:18 am ]
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Yeah I agree with the above comments mate, let her chase you for the time being. Let her put the work in. It's a huge IOI and with the recommendations gives (been busy etc) it will DHV.

If she does call you up or whatever, use your original arguement as a learning curve with this girl. Dont bring her ex up and if she brings up your original arguement again, just explain to her that it was a heat of the moment thing and you werent thinking rationally. Explain that you cant see why you two would not talk or fall out or whatever over something so trivial. This would DHV a bit as well as it will show your a better perosn than to stay caught up on it because your ready to move on from it.

Believe me, i've been in this position and I know that if it was an arguement you feel strongly over, it's hard to ignore, but then if thats the case the chick probably isnt for you...
Author:  Embrace1 [ Sat Jul 17, 2010 5:19 pm ]
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Give it time mate. I recently got a text from a chick about 10 days after the previous one. I took it as an IOI, but of course played cool with my response (which was in the form of a joke / challenge). My main mistake in the past has been to act like an AFC. Through learning the game, I no longer act this way. Not because I have suddenly got will power or shit like that, but because my new knowledge tells me that I maximise chances by doing the exact opposite of what I used to do as an AFC. The above girl I like a lot, but I'm trying not to stake all on her. I'm currently making progress with 5 (yes 5) birds. One I left my number on her windshield saying call me - she did and we are meeting this week. Suggest you off-focus this girl, and she will most likely get back to you. And if not, you will simply then enjoy the fruits of your other pursuits. Either way, you win.
Embrace
Author:  Mbay876 [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 4:15 am ]
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Thanks alot guys. I took everything in like a sponge, and btw i'm already talking to two other girls. Both HB8's!
Author:  Embrace1 [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 8:14 pm ]
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Congratulations mate. Stay the course and reap the benefits.
Embrace
Author:  Chelios [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 10:16 pm ]
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Well done mate, let us know how you progress, and if you need any advice, just holla in the thread. We're here to help :)
Author:  Mbay876 [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 11:54 pm ]
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Another quick question. If I ever do get a text/call from her, should I not answer and wait a day or two before replying back?
Author:  londoncharm [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 12:23 am ]
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Congrats mate.

If you hear from her, i'd get back to her when I see fit. Depends on how long you want to leave her hanging. Personally I would get back to her several hours later when your not doing anything (early evening). Straight away would, in a way, be a bit rewarding for her. leaving it too long may well give her the impression that eventually you always end up thinking of her.
Regardless of when you answer make sure your convo/text doesnt give too much away about what your doing and drop the hints that you have been busy and haven't really been hung up on her.

Ultimately it depends on what you still want from the girl. If you dont even see her as a mate, i wouldnt even bother getting back to her. Maybe even play hard to get and wait for a further text.

I think I heard the line in The Pick-Up Artist but is very true here, 'make her feel that your the prize, have her put the effort in for a change'.
Author:  Mbay876 [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 3:37 am ]
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Exactly what I was looking for! Thanks again!
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