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Author:  igetit [ Tue Jun 29, 2010 4:48 am ]
Post subject:  I might have fudged up. What do I do?

I met this girl online through a friend, we hit it off and talked for days. We were sexual, bantering, close, etc.. As if we had been fucking for years.

I met up with her tonight for a short while and were supposed to hang out tomorrow too.

What happened is this...we were just riding in the car and I feel I might have over negged or made her qualify herself too much. Nothing I said was really hurtful/mean to her, it was just a challenge. I feel like I challenged every single thing she said.

I got a bit of kino in and everything too, and she seemed to be enjoying the banter. I just feel guilty, and like I was too harsh on her.

Like I said were supposed to hang out tomorrow, and we texted for a short-while after and she didn't seem like anything was up, but I just have a bad gut feeling for some reason.

Were still on to hang out tomorrow and everything, but I was just wondering what you guys think I should do? I feel bad. haha

Thanks for any advice on the situation. Maybe some pointers on how to not be so challenging too? Or do girls like that?

Author:  jazestix [ Tue Jun 29, 2010 7:22 pm ]
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aren't negs supposed to be used to attack bitch shields, disarm obstacles, and punishment for bad behavior.

at this point in ur relationship with this chick, it seems ur past all that with her. instead of focusing on negs, try focusing on comfort/rapport building (c-phase). and try not being head on disagreebale, just for the sake of being disagreeable.

HB: i think sex on the first date is slutty
YOU: i can see why someone migh think that way, but....


stop with the negs for now. she seems to be attracted already. build comfort/rapport now. find commonalities, not points of arguments.

my 2 cents

Author:  SiNfUl [ Tue Jun 29, 2010 7:32 pm ]
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Challenge does to a girl what big boobs do to a guy. I read that somewhere.

There is nothing wrong with being a challenging guy, but you can over do the c&f routine if you're not careful. It's a delicate balance that shifts from girl to girl. It takes practice.

Personally, I would rather be to challenging than to nice.

Author:  LaStarz [ Wed Jun 30, 2010 1:25 pm ]
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Yea, may be go easy on the negs, but a challenge now and then should be OK, and playful/funny teasing is good. I was still teasing my GF after 6 years of being together lol.
Hope 2nd day goes well.

Author:  jazestix [ Wed Jun 30, 2010 2:20 pm ]
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good luck, brotha. let us know how it goes!

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