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Author:  lefthook [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 1:41 pm ]
Post subject:  did i mess up?
So i been seeing this girl and one day i decided to text her friend just to ask her something about a cell phone she was selling. Mind you I hung out with this girl before (like twice) but only when the Hb is around. This is how the conversation went:

Me: Yeah anyways I just wanted to know what phone you were selling...what you up too anyways?
Hb's friend: Just leaving the mall been there 3 times this week hehe
Me: Wow lucky, first thing im gonna do once i get my cheque is go shopping.
Hb's friend: haha no pay bills
Me: Lol they'll have to wait a bit longer, oh btw you wanna do something this coming week? (when i asked this i thought it was understood that we were just friend and if we were to do anything the hb would also be there. I'm an outgoing person and there was no other motive behind it except to get to know the hb's friend a bit better)

Hb's friend: what do you have in mind friend? (i thought it was funny that she had to put friend in there...)

Me: I dont know movies or something, bring someone along I'll ask Hb if she wants to go.
Hb's friend: hehe ok sounds good :)

So I text the hb after:

Me: Oh we're gonna watch a movie or something with " " sometimes this week sounds good?
Hb: Sure thing.

Ever since that day the Hb has been acting...different. Now every time I ask her if she wants to do something she always seem to have plans. I dont know. I might just be over thinking things but I know something is not right, just call it intuition...This is what I think were my 2 biggest mistake when I texted her friend:

#1 "oh btw you wanna do something is coming week?" (I guess because this girl is not really my "friend" i should have never even asked that question. If I wanted to know her better I should have done it through the Hb.)

#2 "I dont know movies or something, bring someone along I'll ask Hb if she wants to go." (I made plans with the hb's friend then included the Hb)

Maybe I'm just being stupid but I have this gut feeling something is wrong. What do you guys think? How should I proceed? I'm thinking of just being forward with it and asking the Hb if anything is wrong.
Author:  Lucky D [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 3:36 pm ]
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Sounds like Hb is being jealous or playing some type of game. If so, it shouldnt last too long. Let her calm down lol then when her jealousy fit is over, things should come back to normal
Author:  Lips_and_Hips [ Fri Jun 25, 2010 5:31 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
This is what I think were my 2 biggest mistake when I texted her friend:

#1 "oh btw you wanna do something is coming week?" (I guess because this girl is not really my "friend" i should have never even asked that question. If I wanted to know her better I should have done it through the Hb.)

#2 "I dont know movies or something, bring someone along I'll ask Hb if she wants to go." (I made plans with the hb's friend then included the Hb)
You are correct in thinking something has gone wrong. You are also correct in the above quote.

I don't know how long you have been seeing HB but whether it has been a short time or a while, it doesn't make it right that you had a message conversation with her friend. I understand messaging her about the phone, but why did you have to keep messaging her and make a date with her? Why didn't you go through HB and tell her she could bring this friend or whatever friend she wanted?

If my boyfriend did to me what you have done to your girl, I would be SO pissed off. I would wonder why he was messaging my friend and telling her they should do something together and then as an afterthought pull me into the conversation. SERIOUSLY!

What if the roles were reversed? And you found out your girl was messaging one of your friends who she hardly knows and telling him they should hang out together. Would it bother you a bit?

I can completely understand where she is coming from and I agree with why she is pissed off.

Ask HB if anything is wrong - tell her she can be open with you. If she says nothing is wrong, you are in DEEP SHIT and you need to start making it up to her quick smart. You need to let her know you fucked up and that you didn't mean anything by inviting her friend out that you were just trying to be friendly with her friends but she is the one you want, etc.
Author:  lefthook [ Sat Jun 26, 2010 3:42 pm ]
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hmm yeah thanks Girlfriendofapua no doubt what you said is correct. I was talking to some of my other friends and they all agreed I messed up. Lesson learned. Now all I can do is be straight forward with her and see how it goes from there.
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