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Author:  kopimi [ Tue Jun 22, 2010 7:22 am ]
Post subject:  Shy girl, too intrusive?
Hey guys, a bit of a newbie here looking for some advice. My texting game with women has been alright for the past coupe of years, but i recently decided to change it up a bit (i feel my older texts were too revealing and left little mystery about my life, and i would unintentionally send dlv in my messages). I met this girl in a exam-prep course and got her number. I talked to her for maybe 10 minutes before I got it, and when I texted her the next day, we talked about exams we were currently writing (it wasn't going anywhere, she was trying to stick with the bare bones discussion) It was going great, was making her qualify herself ("your response time isn't impressive. i don't know if this is going to work") she went for it hard, apologizing (alot!)

from there, our discussion went to graduation, and the end went a bit like this


me: didn't [your school]*(i am graduating high school, as is she)* already have their grad?
her: yeah but i went shopping with my friend who has his grad on the 30th
me: sounds like you get to cruise all the grads you want
her: not really, he just asked me to be his date haha
me: who am i competing with?



and she didn't reply lol. i have some friends who know her, and they say she is shy, but always hangs around with her girlfriends. Apparently she is the type of girl who has thousands of pics on facebook, but they are all of her and her friends, no guys. I'm sure you know the type.

Anyway, i'm obviously looking for a bit of your guys' insight. Did I play it too heavy? She is shy, so she is probably not used to the forward approach/alpha-malism i was projecting. I appreciate your advice, should I wait a week and hope for a text or am i burnt?
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:24 am ]
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no replies? i could really use some advice here guys

thinking about texting her tonight, asking how her exam went and 'apologizing' for the teasing--without saying i'm sorry directly
Author:  Herne [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:29 am ]
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very few of them are genuinely shy,most of em are well able to talk when they want too,dont handle her with cotton gloves,dont apologise
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:33 am ]
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very few of them are genuinely shy,most of em are well able to talk when they want too,dont handle her with cotton gloves,dont apologise
well i obviously crossed her line with that comment, i don't want her to be creeped out by me. i'd rather apologise and recover than lose her interest
Author:  Herne [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:39 am ]
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maybe she didnt reply because she didnt wanna say ---''there is no competition,no one else is interested in me''

yeah maybe your right about the apology but maybe dont do it in first text--exam an stuff for a while then a soft apology nuttin ott
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:49 am ]
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maybe she didnt reply because she didnt wanna say ---''there is no competition,no one else is interested in me''

yeah maybe your right about the apology but maybe dont do it in first text--exam an stuff for a while then a soft apology nuttin ott
thanks for the advice

lol she was already invited to another friends grad, so i know i've got competition -- in reality this was probably a bad text to send, especially since i just met her and she's shy
Author:  Herne [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 12:59 am ]
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hey brother it aint the end of the world we all make big mistakes with chicks.

my opinion of shy girls has been biased for some time i should have warned you.

had oneitis for this really cute hot angelic looking hb9--she appeared shy. i didnt know her

a discussion on horror films came about--she said she was so timid that her mother had to sit with her while watching Buffy the vampire slayer she got scared and paranoid so easily

found out that the same girl was a moll for a major drug dealer,has a child with him,hes up to his teeth in a drug gang feud and is suspect in more murders than billy the kid and his house has been shot up several times--where she lives

but she looks sooo cute lol--shes afraid to watch buffy on her own lol

Im sorry ill call a spade a spade i have some trust issues :lol:
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 1:20 am ]
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haha damn that's fucked up

my chick fits the same angelic-looking description, but as I mentioned she's still in high school so hopefully no psyco-bf :D
Author:  Herne [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 1:29 am ]
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yeah you should be ok.
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 3:55 am ]
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ahhh fuck

me - good luck on your exam tomorrow :)
her - thanks :)
me- i'd take your test over mine any day. nervous?


and no reply
slight possibility she was studying / couldn't reply but i'm not counting on it
Author:  SomeBoodee [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 4:29 am ]
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wow , you came off as boring.

Seriously that game was SHIT.


I would have texted her

"Seriously, I hope you fail your exam"

She would be alot more curious on my intentions than just a simple good luck.

But if she says only thanks
tell her:
"actually nvm, i changed my mind, i`ll pray you`ll fail tommorow, you dident prove worth of my lucky charms"


this girl thinks you`re in her pocket lmao. I`d slap a chick like that.
Author:  SomeBoodee [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 4:30 am ]
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btw after analyzation, shes into bad boys.
Be mean with her, good guy game wont work with her, she already has maybe 100 guys like that at her feet.

also talking only about exams and graduations?! Dude fuck off the whole school conversations.
talk about fame, talk about dreams and aspirations....
NEVER COME TO GIRLS WITH SCHOOL/WORK/FAMILY discussion, she has friends for that.
Author:  kopimi [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 5:51 am ]
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btw after analyzation, shes into bad boys.
Be mean with her, good guy game wont work with her, she already has maybe 100 guys like that at her feet.

also talking only about exams and graduations?! Dude fuck off the whole school conversations.
talk about fame, talk about dreams and aspirations....
NEVER COME TO GIRLS WITH SCHOOL/WORK/FAMILY discussion, she has friends for that.
fair enough with the topic ( i was trying to move the conversation along with that last text )
i'm just finding something in common with her to get the conversation going...which isn't happening

and this is a chick who has maybe hooked up with 3 other guys before, she's just a shy chick who's always seen with her friends. the bad-boy not giving a fuck hasn't worked in previous texts. like i said, i've negged her and gotten her to qualify (worked nicely) and she was trying like mad to keep the convo going, but i fucked her up with the competing comment, which obviously scared her off.

lesson learned, i won't be talking boring shit in texts anymore,

and i won't text her if i don't hear back first. she's just a cute face with a number attatched.

the one thing i am curious about is speeding up the conversation into your 'big dreams' style...how are you doing it? a sudden change of topic feels weird and unresourceful, makes you look lazy imo
Author:  SomeBoodee [ Thu Jun 24, 2010 7:19 am ]
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btw after analyzation, shes into bad boys.
Be mean with her, good guy game wont work with her, she already has maybe 100 guys like that at her feet.

also talking only about exams and graduations?! Dude fuck off the whole school conversations.
talk about fame, talk about dreams and aspirations....
NEVER COME TO GIRLS WITH SCHOOL/WORK/FAMILY discussion, she has friends for that.
fair enough with the topic ( i was trying to move the conversation along with that last text )
i'm just finding something in common with her to get the conversation going...which isn't happening

and this is a chick who has maybe hooked up with 3 other guys before, she's just a shy chick who's always seen with her friends. the bad-boy not giving a fuck hasn't worked in previous texts. like i said, i've negged her and gotten her to qualify (worked nicely) and she was trying like mad to keep the convo going, but i fucked her up with the competing comment, which obviously scared her off.

lesson learned, i won't be talking boring shit in texts anymore,

and i won't text her if i don't hear back first. she's just a cute face with a number attatched.

the one thing i am curious about is speeding up the conversation into your 'big dreams' style...how are you doing it? a sudden change of topic feels weird and unresourceful, makes you look lazy imo
Transition

Her: Yeah i think i should do that in the exam... but no 1 and 2 look so hard

Me: Lmao, can you get more boring then this? haahaa :)

Her: What do you mean?

Me: What are your dreams?


Clow clear transition, continue from there . Show that you are not just a friend and you want more tahn the play friends shit
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