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Author:  UK Buddha [ Thu Jun 17, 2010 10:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Mixed signals to the max, need help!
Hey guys, my first post in a while. I've been quite distant from pick up, getting the rest of my shit in order.

OK, so where I work, we have a staff canteen. There's this girl who works there and she's been friendly and a bit flirty with me since day one. She's very reserved with the other guys there.

She always comes up to me to start conversation and has very open body language towards me too. She introduced herself to me at the start and told me she saw me at college, then she told me she went through a mutual friend's Facebook to find mine. She recently turned single and on the same day, she text me saying she got my number off that same friend.

Needless to say, I organised a date between us. On said date, it went well, but...
She constantly mentioned this guy at work, who she used to like.

Now, the AFC in me is starting to think that she's just been friendly all along, but, the PUA in me is saying that she's been giving me IOI's for a while.

I purposely avoided her at work today (a bit of cat string theory) and she text me straight after work asking why I wasn't there and to organise another meet up.

I text her back saying "Why, did you miss me?" and her response was "Well you know your a mate :) x"

This threw me off totally, I have no idea what to think. Was she just being friendly? Is the last text just a test? Any help would be appreciated!
Author:  Chelios [ Thu Jun 17, 2010 10:58 pm ]
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Sometimes when you have known of someone for a while and been around them a situation like this can be difficult to judge. My advice would be to try set another meet of just you two, do you DHV yourself to her?

If you can set a meet up, you can use kino, have fun, then see where it leads. Directness is the way to go here.
Author:  UK Buddha [ Thu Jun 17, 2010 11:22 pm ]
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We've only really known each other roughly 2 months, so not that long really.

I don't DHV with her, I never feel the need because she's constantly chasing for my attention (or so it seems).

It's mainly the last text she sent me that's the head scratcher.

We're meeting up again on Wednesday, I don't think I'm going to question her on what the text meant or what her intentions are. I'll just escalate kino and have a good time.
Author:  Chelios [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 7:28 am ]
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First impressions are key with a woman, you can either be fun and be someone she's interested in, or fall into the LJBF zone. Don't over do things before your meet, you want something to talk about. Don't over think either, enjoy the ocassion.
Author:  quickdrawyall [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 1:45 pm ]
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I would say she's talking about another guy from work because she wanted to see how you would react. Probably some sort of shit test in my opinion.
Author:  UK Buddha [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 4:18 pm ]
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I would say she's talking about another guy from work because she wanted to see how you would react. Probably some sort of shit test in my opinion.
This was what I thought, but it was done so casually, I couldn't tell. If it was, she's damn good at hiding it.

Any good ways to combat that?
Author:  Chelios [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 9:08 pm ]
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I would say she's talking about another guy from work because she wanted to see how you would react. Probably some sort of shit test in my opinion.
This was what I thought, but it was done so casually, I couldn't tell. If it was, she's damn good at hiding it.

Any good ways to combat that?
Yep. act like it's no bother, don't throw a bitch fit.
Author:  amit482001 [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 11:27 pm ]
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Hi,

there is this girl I have been chasing for a year and a half and we go on dates on and off. We dated a bit last month and hooked up, but after that everything took a backseat. So now after school shut down for the summer and I didn't text her for liek a couple of days, she sent me a text saying " I miss seeing you all the time,I never thought I would say that". And she's also like, " Ohh now i love how you the busiest person on this earth now that you have 9-5 job"
So we met up again earlier this week for a brief moment and it was pretty good. Later that night I sent her a text, " We always have fun, wonder what happens the minute we start dating" for which she replied," have more fun?", which in my mind is a good response.
Now I was to meet her on Thursday and when i tried to schedule something, she cancelled saying she was a bit upset and had to head home after work to do stuff.
I really duno how to react to this inconsistent behavior of hers.
Author:  AFC Royal [ Sat Jun 19, 2010 5:24 am ]
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It doesn't seem like her behavior is inconsistent. That's not a flake, that's a valid excuse.

Sarge on, sir.
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