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Author:  Cloudboy [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:32 am ]
Post subject:  How to respond to straightforward compliments about my body?
So just to let you know I am 20 and was hanging out at my friend's house earlier today. We were outside talking when his girlfriend pulled up with her cousin and friend. They are all Bosnian, and I'm American. His gf came up and started talking to him, and I went inside to get a soda. I was a little embarassed b/c I was wearing a wifebeater. As I came back out, his gf said, "My friend thinks you're hot."
I didn't really know what to say, so I just said in a C+F way, "she's right." Then I leaned against my truck and started drinking my Mountain Dew and her cousin (HB 8) came up and said something in Bosnian. I responded with "...what?" My friend started laughing and HB 8 asked if I was American and I said yes.
She then led me to the car where the supposed friend that likes me was. She was pretty ugly, so I just said hello as the cousin got into the car. HB 8 said "You're really cute" to which I said "thank you." I was so tired and didn't feel good, so my confidence was a little down, but it felt good to get a compliment.
I was wondering if she was looking for a compliment in return, but I didn't want to give one. (Should I have?) My friend's gf mentioned that HB 8 had a bf. Then HB 8 said I had pretty teeth, and I said thanks I had braces. (I know this is dumb, but I really wasn't trying to hit on her especially b/c she had a bf and they were giggling)
Then she said "Don't tell my bf, but would you flex your muscles?" (I work out) I said point-blank "No" She asked me again and I told her that my friend was stronger than me so he can flex. Then my friend's gf got into the car and they drove away.

I obviously wasn't concerned with picking her up, I just didn't feel like it, but I sometimes get compliments like these and I'm just wondering how I should respond in a 'real' situation? Thanks.
Author:  jurupa [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:47 am ]
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Uh say "thank you"? Don't exactly see where the problem when it comes to replying to compliments. You can also use C&F, but I tend to use that if I am going to game the girl that gave me the compliment. Cloudboy, it sounds like you have a problem being able to receiving compliments more than anything. As far as giving compliments goes, my general rule is don't give one unless you mean it. There are times when you have to give one because you have to other wise it will go against you socially, but this does not happen very much tho.
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:53 am ]
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I would suggest you acknowledge it as a girls attempt to open you, so accept it and continue the conversation. Thanking them is such an automated response and also a little weak. Ideally respond:

"Yeh so they say! Your a good looking girl too, is there more to you than just your looks?"
Author:  F_I_X_E_R [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 9:41 am ]
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Each time I get a similar compliment I just say:

"Huh, thanks. Control yourself! "
Author:  Visionxxxxxx [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 10:52 am ]
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Each time I get a similar compliment I just say:

"Huh, thanks. Control yourself! "
Best response in this thread.

or give them a taste of their own medicine...'thanks, but that doesnt mean we're having sex tonight!'
Author:  Freemind [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 11:01 am ]
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Oooor, you just say "Thanks". You acknowledge it, and you thank her for it. Then you move on in your conversation. Simple as that.
ALSO, a smile is never wrong with a thanks.
Author:  Cloudboy [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 2:21 pm ]
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Thanks yall I really like Fixer's one: thanks, Control yourself!
Author:  Visionxxxxxx [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 2:25 pm ]
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Oooor, you just say "Thanks". You acknowledge it, and you thank her for it. Then you move on in your conversation. Simple as that.
ALSO, a smile is never wrong with a thanks.
No there is nothing wrong with that you're right, you're just not using the opportunity to turn the convo sexual (which is possible in this case)
Author:  AFC Royal [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:27 pm ]
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All of these are good.

Honestly, I thought you handled it fine, because you said yourself that you get these compliments all the time.

How does it feel to get another? They just bounce right off. You thank the person, but you don't need their compliments, because everyone else already says that.

The whole C&F "She's right" may have been unnecessary, but, it's taken out of context so I can't say so for sure.

Just keep it up.
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