PUA Forum :: Need some ideas. Girlfriend can't cum through intercourse!

Some women are unable to cum through intercourse. Some women are unable to cum at all. It has a lot more to do with her own hangups than it does with anything physical that you can do.

Women do not orgasm merely through vaginal penetration, they need clitoral stimulation too. Their clit is equivalent to your c*ck... would you cum if someone didn't touch your c*ck?

Women who say they cum during intercourse are receiving some sort of indirect clitoral stimulation, either internally via the g-spot, or externally via your pubic mound pressing on the clit. Either that, or they're faking it.

You should probably read this: http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/myt ... anne-koedt

Aside from physical stimulation, which is the common cause of orgasm for most people, there is also stimulation through primarily mental processes. Some women, for example, may achieve orgasm through sexual fantasies, or through fetishes. However, while the stimulation may be psychological, the orgasm manifests itself physically. Thus, while the cause is psychological, the effect is still physical, and the orgasm necessarily takes place in the sexual organ equipped for sexual climax, the clitoris. The orgasm experience may also differ in degree of intensity - some more localized, and some more diffuse and sensitive. But they are all clitoral orgasms.

You have to be different.

You are going to be different in 2 ways:

1) You are going to perform a different type of stimulation
2) You are going to use effective mental techniques

The reason why you have to perform a different type of stimulation
is because all the previous stimulation that she has felt has been
associated with her NOT having an orgasm.

You must AVOID that.

You will use deep spot stimulation. It happens to be very effective
in giving a woman her first vaginal orgasm, and most likely no man
has ever done that to her before.

And now for the critically important mental techniques.

Remember, in order that you cause her to orgasm, you must command respect with her.
You will be giving her commands, and she must do them for this to be successful. Thus, her respect for what you say must override her own self consciousness and self limiting beliefs.

The biggest thing keeping her from having an orgasm is her belief that she can’t.
If you were to insist to her that she could have an orgasm, she will simply disagree, which will build up her resistance to having an orgasm.

If you make orgasm the goal for her, she will have performance
anxiety, which will make it even more difficult for her to have an
orgasm.

So in order that you do not stir up her objections to having an orgasm:

You must not mention anything about orgasms!

Your goal of giving her an orgasm is your little secret. But how are you going to give her an orgasm without actually mentioning anything about orgasms?

You will simply give her pleasure.
You will say to her: “Baby, I just want to give you pleasure. It excites me when you feel this pleasure that I give you.”

Women love it when they excite their man. Women love it when their man just wants to give her pleasure for no other reason than to revel in her and please her.
So she will be relaxed and receptive.

Even though a woman has not had an orgasm, she still likes sex. She likes the intimacy. It is the physical celebration of the attraction and of the emotional connection. And women love to see their man get sexually excited over her.

Even though she knows she is not going to have an orgasm, she still likes to have her clitoris rubbed and licked by her man. It feels good, and it makes her feel that she is desired.

Even though she knows she is not going to have an orgasm in intercourse, she still likes it when her man makes love to her. For her, it is the ultimate physical celebration of the relationship. And it is affirmation for her that her man is excited about her.

So you certainly have the opportunity.
Start the stimulation. But you have to give her some incentive to soak up as much pleasure input as possible. You will use emotional intimacy.

Need another helping of this boards infinite wisdom. Title pretty much says it all. We've been having some pretty hot sex the last little while; in strange places too (kitchen, closet, bathroom, tent..any other ideas welcomed!) however, I still can't make her cum through intercourse (and yes my tool is fine) She said she's never cummed during sex before. I always make her cum with my tongue. The last time we were having sex I got her to the point (with my tongue) where she was just about to cum and then I stuck in the turkey Still nothing. I try to mix up the rythm too but still no joy. She said she got to about a 6/10..closest shes got..but still no cigar.

Any ideas/stories/criticism welcomed!

Cheers

Author:	UB6IB9 [ Mon May 31, 2010 2:58 pm ]
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Need another helping of this boards infinite wisdom. Title pretty much says it all. We've been having some pretty hot sex the last little while; in strange places too (kitchen, closet, bathroom, tent..any other ideas welcomed!) however, I still can't make her cum through intercourse (and yes my tool is fine) She said she's never cummed during sex before. I always make her cum with my tongue. The last time we were having sex I got her to the point (with my tongue) where she was just about to cum and then I stuck in the turkey Still nothing. I try to mix up the rythm too but still no joy. She said she got to about a 6/10..closest shes got..but still no cigar. Any ideas/stories/criticism welcomed! Cheers

Author:	870 [ Mon May 31, 2010 3:36 pm ]
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Cumming for women is more mental than physical. You don't mention how long you've been with this girl or what the nature of your relationship is, but it might just be that she's never been comfortable enough with any of her partners to get there mentally. There are several reasons for this ranging from insecurities over her body to a fear of being judged. Ultimately, steady persistence and a kind, caring nature will likely overcome this hurdle, assuming you guys stay together long enough. Your boy, 870

Author:	Shyler [ Mon May 31, 2010 3:42 pm ]
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or maybe let your girlfriend watch porn before having sex so that she is already very horny. this might help cuz sometimes, watching porn makes you a lot more horny then doing the deed self because you need to focus sometimes and at the moment self it looks so normal. I also second what 870 says tough

Author:	Onoma [ Mon May 31, 2010 4:07 pm ]
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Some women are unable to cum through intercourse. Some women are unable to cum at all. It has a lot more to do with her own hangups than it does with anything physical that you can do.

Author:	cerebralassassin [ Mon May 31, 2010 4:10 pm ]
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some girls dont cum through intercourse!!! there are ways to help things along, play with her clit whilst having intercourse, doggy position is more likely to acheive orgasm then missionary (because your more likely to hit her g-spot, because its more fun and because once again its easier to play with her clit either by smoothly playing with it with your fingers or by rubbing your cock against her clit before penetration) vary between hard and soft and fast and slow! do it in more fun places not just in the bed! hope this helps!

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Author:	Chercheur [ Mon May 31, 2010 10:02 pm ]
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Quote: Some women are unable to cum through intercourse. Some women are unable to cum at all. It has a lot more to do with her own hangups than it does with anything physical that you can do. Correct. We go around so hung up about our own supposed inadequacies that we forget that most women are total sexual fuck ups. Women have to give themselves permission to cum. It has to be "OK" for them to lose it. Only when they have given themselves this inward permission ( nothing to do with you ) will they relax enough to let go. Don't fret. Frankly she is responsible for whether she cums or not.

Author:	JDTanner1 [ Tue Jun 01, 2010 1:40 am ]
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She needs to feel sexy;

Author:	zendelo [ Tue Jun 01, 2010 6:04 am ]
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Many girls have not experienced an orgasm trough intercourse. The sobering truth is that 30% of women have never had an orgasm. 70% of women have never had an orgasm in intercourse. Over half of all women have faked an orgasm. So many women tell themselfs that they can't have orgasms trough intercourse, that it becomes a selffulfilling prophecy. You have got to break it. If everyone for fuck sake would read some David Shade, the world of intercourse and sex would be alot better. I'm throwing you a pm with more information and some reading material, because there is so much to talk about on this topic! [/img]

Author:	Sambuca [ Tue Jun 01, 2010 11:52 am ]
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Women do not orgasm merely through vaginal penetration, they need clitoral stimulation too. Their clit is equivalent to your cck... would you cum if someone didn't touch your cck? Women who say they cum during intercourse are receiving some sort of indirect clitoral stimulation, either internally via the g-spot, or externally via your pubic mound pressing on the clit. Either that, or they're faking it. You should probably read this: http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/myt ... anne-koedt

Author:	zendelo [ Tue Jun 01, 2010 12:16 pm ]
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Quote: Women do not orgasm merely through vaginal penetration, they need clitoral stimulation too. Their clit is equivalent to your cck... would you cum if someone didn't touch your cck? Women who say they cum during intercourse are receiving some sort of indirect clitoral stimulation, either internally via the g-spot, or externally via your pubic mound pressing on the clit. Either that, or they're faking it. You should probably read this: http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/myt ... anne-koedt You should read it again. Because it might all be a clitoral orgasm, but you dont have to specificly stimulate it. I quote Quote: Aside from physical stimulation, which is the common cause of orgasm for most people, there is also stimulation through primarily mental processes. Some women, for example, may achieve orgasm through sexual fantasies, or through fetishes. However, while the stimulation may be psychological, the orgasm manifests itself physically. Thus, while the cause is psychological, the effect is still physical, and the orgasm necessarily takes place in the sexual organ equipped for sexual climax, the clitoris. The orgasm experience may also differ in degree of intensity - some more localized, and some more diffuse and sensitive. But they are all clitoral orgasms. It doesn't matter where the origin comes from, women are able to come in many ways. You can make women come by just touching her nipples or lips or not touching at all, just by talking. Women can come clitoral, vaginal, anal. Men can also come in different ways, but let's not go into that. The clitoris is sort of V shaped and you can stimulatie the clitoris in the vagina, wich is a good thing to do, cause I bet you no man ever did that to her. Now I'm just gonna quote some stuff here, since noone is checking david shade out. Quote: You have to be different. You are going to be different in 2 ways: 1) You are going to perform a different type of stimulation 2) You are going to use effective mental techniques The reason why you have to perform a different type of stimulation is because all the previous stimulation that she has felt has been associated with her NOT having an orgasm. You must AVOID that. You will use deep spot stimulation. It happens to be very effective in giving a woman her first vaginal orgasm, and most likely no man has ever done that to her before. And now for the critically important mental techniques. Remember, in order that you cause her to orgasm, you must command respect with her. You will be giving her commands, and she must do them for this to be successful. Thus, her respect for what you say must override her own self consciousness and self limiting beliefs. The biggest thing keeping her from having an orgasm is her belief that she can’t. If you were to insist to her that she could have an orgasm, she will simply disagree, which will build up her resistance to having an orgasm. If you make orgasm the goal for her, she will have performance anxiety, which will make it even more difficult for her to have an orgasm. So in order that you do not stir up her objections to having an orgasm: You must not mention anything about orgasms! Your goal of giving her an orgasm is your little secret. But how are you going to give her an orgasm without actually mentioning anything about orgasms? You will simply give her pleasure. You will say to her: “Baby, I just want to give you pleasure. It excites me when you feel this pleasure that I give you.” Women love it when they excite their man. Women love it when their man just wants to give her pleasure for no other reason than to revel in her and please her. So she will be relaxed and receptive. Even though a woman has not had an orgasm, she still likes sex. She likes the intimacy. It is the physical celebration of the attraction and of the emotional connection. And women love to see their man get sexually excited over her. Even though she knows she is not going to have an orgasm, she still likes to have her clitoris rubbed and licked by her man. It feels good, and it makes her feel that she is desired. Even though she knows she is not going to have an orgasm in intercourse, she still likes it when her man makes love to her. For her, it is the ultimate physical celebration of the relationship. And it is affirmation for her that her man is excited about her. So you certainly have the opportunity. Start the stimulation. But you have to give her some incentive to soak up as much pleasure input as possible. You will use emotional intimacy. It is actually too much to be posting here, but I hope I'm creating some interest here. If you want to get more info or some ebooks feel free to pm me

Author:	Jinkus [ Tue Jun 01, 2010 12:49 pm ]
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Zendelo if you could pm me with what to read up on it would be greatly appreciated, this really interests me. lol thanks in advance.

Author:	UB6IB9 [ Wed Jun 02, 2010 2:13 am ]
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Excellent excellent excellent thread guys. Thanks for all the input so far. Keep it coming. Update: We have only been sexually active with each other for 3 months. I don't think she's all that insecure. She seems pretty solid in that department. She really does want to have an orgasm during intercourse and she says the closest she's come has been with me. I think her ex's just plowed away and really didn't pay any attention to her pleasure. Anyways, she says she's going to try and focus more. I'll keep you boys posted!

Author:	naniekso [ Wed Jun 02, 2010 6:28 am ]
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some advice; 1.lots of foreplay. even before intercourse you have to play with their genitals or else intercoures won't even feel good. crazy huh? 2.1 thing i like to do is to make your lips like your going to kiss and put it around her vag. then suck, this will bring the walls of the vag closer and toward you, then insert your tongue. she will think your tongue is 5 inches long if you do this. then go mad with it. works great and can make a girl cum. 3. G spot simulation via fingers. Insert fingers two inches in and up, its rough liek a sponge. rub like crazy. up and down left and right. 4. the skin around her clit, rub it. spell your name or the alphabet, drives them wild. girls want ur dick at the letter m lol. 5.butterfly position, it simulates the g spot through vag intercourse. the only position we should have to do last you don't need a table or what not, its her vag exactly parallel with your dick. your dick shouldn't go in too deep, its not the point. its the angle that shoots straight for the g spot. side note some say pubic hair is also good for grinding against the clit while having sex. IF YOU FOLLOW THESE IT WILL HAPPEN! also squirting causes u to get super horny and lots of wetnes everywhere. bring a towel. no joke lol

Author:	Sharplin [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 12:39 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Need some ideas. Girlfriend can't cum through intercours
Quote: Need another helping of this boards infinite wisdom. Title pretty much says it all. We've been having some pretty hot sex the last little while; in strange places too (kitchen, closet, bathroom, tent..any other ideas welcomed!) however, I still can't make her cum through intercourse (and yes my tool is fine) She said she's never cummed during sex before. I always make her cum with my tongue. The last time we were having sex I got her to the point (with my tongue) where she was just about to cum and then I stuck in the turkey Still nothing. I try to mix up the rythm too but still no joy. She said she got to about a 6/10..closest shes got..but still no cigar. Any ideas/stories/criticism welcomed! Cheers Try stimulating her while you are in her, with your finger, or a vibrator. This will probably help. I would suggest finding her g-spot, but there's not too much you can do with a g-spot using your dick, that's more of a hand job. OH! Good luck man!

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