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| Author: | Cardog14 [ Sat May 01, 2010 12:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Advice Needed |
I just got out of a 6 year relationship. One of my co-workers HB7 was very attracted to me while I had a gf. Actually got an agreement to go hang out one weekend after I broke up. It took slightly longer then it should have for me to separate. I broke up with my ex for reasons other then her but I waited just a little too late. About 4 weeks before I came free she found out information on a guy she had always had a crush on who is in prison and started writing him. Her infatuation is with him now but he doesn't get out for another year and 1/2. She would not admit to writing him. She actually said he was just randomly writing her lol. I tried to get her to hang out with me but I get the lines I don't want to date right now, I can't handle getting hurt etc. This is where I got too needy and applied to much pressure. I thought it was a done deal to move forward with her but I have corrected that now. Also, I think there is a lot of social pressure in that she doesn't want everyone around us to think she's a whore and that she is the reason I broke up with my ex. The other girl in my office already told her it would be stupid of her to date me and be the rebound girl. I started being more unpredictable and seeing other women here and there which has been bothering her. I got her to commit to hang out at one point but then she flaked back out on me again. She called with some bs about a family thing. I told her it was not cool to wait until an hour before to say she didn't want to hang out with me. This pissed her off and she wrote back saying she didn't want to date anyone right now. Then I just told her we're just friends not to worry about it. She's never agreed whenever I've said we're just friends a few times now. She calls and texts me quite a bit. She will playfully touch me, flirt with me, hold great eye contact and is totally comfortable with me touching her on her arms, back, shoulders, thigh. I made it known that I'm going out of town this weekend to hang with one of my other friends. I'm playing a game of not telling her where I'm going which was obviously bothering her and had her curious. The girl I'm hanging out with is excited to see me and I told her to post on my facebook but leave out where I'm going so she did. HB7 then immediately after seeing that post makes a page for her guy in prison and puts herself in a relationship with him. First time she openly admits to feeling this way towards this guy to me or anyone in public to anyone besides her close friends. She then texts me and says look at what she did to her page and that her ex will be really upset. I can tell she was fishing to see if I was upset. I just told her do her thing and whatever makes her happy not to worry about her ex. She is attracted to me but I'm second to this guy in prison which really just makes me an orbiter to her. I think overexposure because of working together is the biggest problem. I see no way to break the fantasy loop of her writing and receiving letters with this guy particularly if she won't commit to hang out with me outside of work. I know there are plenty of women. It has been six years since I was active so I'm not exactly on top of my game so I'm working on improving. This situation is different with the other guy being 3 states away with no contact other then letters and this is a challenge so I was curious what you guys thought? Its not the end of my world if I can't have her. Just curious how you would approach the situation? |
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| Author: | Jav [ Sat May 01, 2010 1:46 pm ] |
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Who cares if she writes some dude. |
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