I remeber hearing Adam Lyons explain attraction, he explained it in a story, yes....its story time
Imagine your dream car, lets say you save up to buy it, you take on an extra job, and spend 20 years saving up that extra money, imagine all the stuff you had to do, cut down on so many luxuries you wanted, all thoses exra hours of work, but after all this you finaly have the money and can buy the car.
Now, on the same day you won the exact same car in a raffle, now you cant keep both cars, which one are you more likley to sell?....thats right the one you spent all the time saving up for....why?
To any1 else the two cars are the same, if they had to choose one it would just be a 50/50 choice, but for you, you see all the effort you put into getting the car, you could even say your more ATTRACTED to the car you work for.
Attraction is the investment of time and effort, the more time and effort you spend on something/someone, the more attracted you are to it/them, because you had to wok for it it has more value to you.
You say this girl has been investing in your mate since she was 14, she is now 20, dude thats 6 years, imagine you had been investing in somthing for 6 years! If i had been saving for a car for 6 years id treat it like fucking gold.