When a girl is acting up (flaking, being disrespectful etc.) some say you're supposed to call her out on her shit so that there are boundaries set and so that she knows she can't carry on disrespecting you. I don't know how to do it though?

At first I used to lose my temper, and I would just scare girls away. I don't think it is that they're not attracted to me. I talked to this girl last week who had flaked on me twice ages ago and I'd lost my temper and had a go at her, she said she would have loved to have met up with me and she really wanted to but it all changed when I did what I did, so obviously she was attracted in the first place, it must be all about how I handled it wrong. I talked to another girl yesterday who said the exact same thing, I can't remember what she'd done now, but I'd called her out on her shit in a pretty nasty way.

Realising I was going wrong losing my temper I tried a different approach with my ex girlfriend. She would ignore texts, not pick up the phone, she flaked once, she would sometimes deliberately ignore me. I decided to tell her this was getting really annoying, but I did it in a calm way. She just found it funny and carried on even more, so I finished her.

I dunno, like how are you supposed to set boundaries and show her that she has to respect you? Without doing it in a nasty way and also without her laughing at you and carrying on? Lol.

Great. How do I become that guy then? When a girl is acting disrespectful towards me how should I handle it?

I thought it must have been something to do with my game, but then I got confused when I started talking to these girls again and they were saying how much they missed me and that they really wanted to see me up until I called them out on their shit.

Thanks foor the advice Fin