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| Author: | Jimmie [ Thu Mar 25, 2010 3:21 pm ] |
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So long story short, just because I've read a lot of long ass stories on here lately. Me and this girl dated for a year, it was good but we did hit a few snags along the way. I'm a pretty jealous guy which I'm working on, not so much because I don't trust her more because I know a guy with the right moves can sneak in without her even knowing. Anyways so we broke up a little while ago I asked her if she was sure she said yes. So I went onto feezing her out. A couple weeks later she calls me and says she misses me and hopes I'm doing okay. I tell her stuffs going good, she made contact because she heard I went on a couple dates is my guess. So we hang out an end up having sex. I'm not saying having a FB isn't awesome but I do know that there is still a deeper connection there too. She let it slip that she still loves me but she's afraid of getting our relationship going again because she doesn't want to end up getting hurt again. She's been feeling pretty alone and her making a decision to give it another shot while vulnerable I think might be a bad choice so we're just going to keep hanging out. She called me every day since and I've taken running game on her lightly. She has her workout today and than she's chillin with a friend, tomorrow she's going out with a bunch of co-workers to a restaurant as it's her last day. We worked at the same place, I was there part time while in school. And Saturday she's going to the bar with a friend who hasn't had a chance to go to the bar since her 18 birthday. The reason I'm giving the places for the next few days is in case I should take the opportunity to show up there and work off that as they're public places. She has also said she wants it to be exclusive no more dates with girls and she won't see any guys. But she doesn't want all her friends to get on her case about her "seeing me". Should I run some of Gamblers stuff on her kind of let the game on but in a way no one else can see? Haha sorry if that went a little long but I know that the more core details you guys have the easier it'll be to help with a game plan. Thanks for any info guys. |
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| Author: | NaturalPUA [ Thu Mar 25, 2010 3:42 pm ] |
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Do you want to get involved with her again? I understand that there may still be an emotional connection between the 2 of you but honestly. If you now use your logical brain not the female emotional brain. If it didn't work the first time round, why would the relationship work now? My advice, keep her as a FB... She is just not used to you seeing other people and therefore she is trying to win your affection again. Once she has all your attention she is going to break it off again. I've been there and done that, back in my AFC days, now, I would just use her as a FB. But that is my opinion. Others might tell you something different. We all have our own views and this is what makes this NG so awesome. We all give you advice and you do what you believe serves your purpose best |
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| Author: | Jimmie [ Thu Mar 25, 2010 11:31 pm ] |
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Yeah I understand what you're saying. I dunno it might just be the AFC kicking in but even when we broke up it didn't really seem to be the right way to go. Should I be doing the exclusive thing. I do like the relationship we had and I would like to give it another shot. But like you said it might just be the afc part of my head thinking that too. Also it was me who broke it off with her. We had a bad day and I called it off. Regretted it and she wanted to stick by it. I think I'm willing to give it at least one more shot because I enjoyed the company. By the feel of things I can pretty much tell I wanna give it a go. Worst case scenario doesn't work out and I move on again. Any ideas on how to get this moving in the right direction? Or way to lay down some gay to get her wanting more than just the physical. haha Wow never thought I'd find myself saying something like that. Also thanks for the last bit of info it definitely helps to rethink these situations. |
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| Author: | NaturalPUA [ Fri Mar 26, 2010 10:09 am ] |
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Jimmie, I am not one for relationships. This is again only what I would have done and how I feel. Thing is, I went through a breakup, I also broke it off, but I never really had closure. When she begged me to take her back I did and you know what? It didn't last long but after I had the closure I needed and realized that people never change. You need to make the decision and decide if this is what YOU want. If it is, I'll be the first to tell you to go get her, it's just not what I would have done. I know now that if it didn't work the first time round, it wont the second and third time either. When I was an AFC I used to go back to the same girls and try to work things out. Now that I am a PUA, and realized that people stay the same, I have realized that it's better/easier to just move on and find someone else. But again, these are lessons you have to learn for yourself and let no one hold you back. Keep it real!!! |
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