girl set up a d2 of her own accord. on the day of, during lunch, i txted: "you can pick me up at 5." no reply. around 7pm i called and left a msg: "at such&such place, tag along." no callback. she flaked, giving no notice. N-E-X-T.
2 days later, she txted: "you missed me
" i didnt reply for a few hours, but when i did i txted her that i wouldn't be talking to her anymore unless she calls me. i left it at that. thoughts?i also have an opportunity to bring a hired gun to the restaurant this girl works at.
should i?"At the first sign of disrespect to you OR passing up an opportunity to spend time with you, you dump her. When she calls you wanting to go out or something, you tell her that her behaviour was unacceptable and that the only way you are going to let her hang out with you again is if she (make up whatever shit you want her to do because she broke the rules, fuck, suck, whatever). If all you want from her is a kiss, get that. If all you want is for her to dress sexily, make her do that. If she doesn't agree to your terms tell her don't call you again until you are ready to meet my demands and HANG UP. The point of returning fox is that she is crawling back to you so you have the POWER in the relationship.
Ross Jeffries suggests issuing a warning at first, which is pretty much the same thing - you have to show that you're serious about it: Don't be afraid to call her on bullshit she might pull. Girls will always test your limits so the first time they do, call them on it. Tell her that you won't put up with that shit and not to do it again. NEVER forget you were born without her. And that there are a hundreds more like her and a thousands more that are even better than her.
Disrespecting you can also be a form of testing you if the chick likes you at first but wants to determine your worthiness or lack of worthiness - she will be testing you in order to find out whether you are a supplicating taking-all-her-shit pussyboy or a man with self-control and the ability to take charge.
In order to pass such a test (an example of which is cancelling a date), you must:
1. Show that you don't lose your temper over it.
2. Show that you don't whine like a baby over it.
3. Show that it doesn't really phase you.
4. Show that you DO find it disrespectful and that you don't tolerate that.
(4. is the most important point, but you MUST do it in such a way that (1,2,3. are true."