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Author:  p0d [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 11:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Advice on one girl I've been seeing
I need advice on a girl I'm currently dating.


We've seen for a couple of months.


So I've seen this girl for a couple of months and at first she was ( playing ) really hard to get saying stuff in the lines of blah blah I don't want a relationship. So one night she sends me a txt saying that she doesn't know what she feels towards me and that she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. I played it smart, so I waited thinking of what to text back. During this time she sent me another two text messages begging me to answer something. I decided to send her something along the lines of: "It's okay if ya just want to be friends. you're the sweetest girl I know and I really didn't expect anything out of this :wink:. I proceed to use a couple of tricks on her, like the cube test and some other random stuff.


This is what made her really interested in me and soon after we start dating. Fast forward two weeks and all is going fairly well, except for the fact that this girl is really, really insecure ( constant fear that I will leave her ).

Fast forward one week and she suddenly turns really cold. This has been going on for two weeks now. She hardly wants to see me, maybe once a week, if I'm lucky. She told me that she doesn't know what she feels towards me anymore so I ask whether she wants to be with me and we have a discussion:


Girl says:
She doesn't want a relationship, or that she's not ready for it ( she's 19 ).
She doesn't want to continue because it wouldn't last ( the relationship )
She doesn't want to break-up, because if I'm the right guy, but she just hasn't realized it yet. ( riiiiight :roll: )
She doesn't want to break-up with me, because she doesn't want to see me with another girl

Basically her emotions are a roller-coaster, she's insecure and doesn't know what she wants.


So my options:

1. Break it off with her, by saying she's really sweet and all, but we're just too different.

2. Wait and *hope* she starts being nice again :roll:

3. Other? Any Ideas how to play it smoothly?




pros for staying with her:
-She's really interesting and hot, social proof.

cons:
-Constantly makes me feel shitty.
-Not getting any sex either ( yeah she's a virgin, we were about to, but then she went cold on me again. Don't see myself getting her anywhere in the near future )
-Oneitis
-Not being able to see other girls ( although I wouldn't even want to at this point, see above )



Before her, I was seeing this other girl too, but I had to break it off, after I started dating the current girl. Now I have 0 potential girls to play.
Author:  lostbutnotfound [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:09 am ]
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i have ony had one GF that i have gotten with PUA tech. she was also the i dont want relationship girl, all blablabla... but how it started was that i used her as a test dummy(she didnt know that:D) for my PUA stuff, we were very good friends so it was natural to flirt with her, kino etc.
we made a lot out, had sex, but all the way i was saying, that there was no strings attached and that she could do whatever she wanted like, it went on this way for som months, running my PUA rutines on her, lot of negs, kino, but always saying that it was just fun. and boom! on day it changed, cant quite remember how, but one day there was emotions...
not so well writen but hope you catch my drift!
Author:  lostbutnotfound [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:11 am ]
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what i was saying was: do your PUA stuff on her. when she say she dosent want a relationship, you reply: "not me either"(lie?), and continue to throw tech her way!
Author:  p0d [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:20 am ]
Post subject: 
Thanks for the advice!

In fact, that's what I probably should do. The problem, though, is that she knows that I want a relationship ( she did too, before she went cold again ).

Another problem is my oneitis. I Should really start having fun, and forget about her for a while and try some pua stuff. I just can't seem to get her out of my mind ( I wonder if it's 'cause we haven't had sex yet. )
Author:  lostbutnotfound [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:37 am ]
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ahhh, no sex.... i know from personal experience that i get much more interested in a girl if we havent had sex...
and it can be som problem if she know you want a realtionship, but a man can change his oppinion right?
here is something you can try:
next time you talk to her and the topic of what you have been doing lately comes up, tell her that you have been to the movies with a girl, that often triggers some jealusy thing in theyr head.
you: have you seen the movie blablabla
her: no......
you: me and sexy girl saw it on friday, it was fc***ng hilareaus, (afterwards we went out for some beers?)
She: WHo is SEXY girl?(with her mistrusting voice)

its worth a chance!
Author:  CroPua [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 2:41 am ]
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Tell her that you are not so sure about the relationship because she is changing her mind to much so you are not sure if it will work out, but since you liker her you are willing to w8 week or two for her to think about it... In a meanwhile you must make her see you talking to other girls having fun etc... but dont do any other girl or kiss.. just make her see you with other HB's. That will make her jealous and she will want you back and she will finally "decide" that you are her men ;).
Author:  lostbutnotfound [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 11:03 am ]
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i disagree on the deadline, dont think its a good idea to say that she got two weeks to decide. trying to pusha girl into something rarely work!
Author:  wayofthepua [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 11:14 am ]
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Dude... why are you spending months on this girl? If this girl is not showing much interest and you're not getting any action, it doesn't mean you should drop the prospect of getting with her, but you should be meeting other women instead of investing time on this.
Author:  CroPua [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 7:38 pm ]
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Dude... why are you spending months on this girl? If this girl is not showing much interest and you're not getting any action, it doesn't mean you should drop the prospect of getting with her, but you should be meeting other women instead of investing time on this.
Exactly !

That is why he have to give her limit to decide, otherway he can w8 for her for months ;). You are the boss, she likes you and its black or white... Or you will have me, or some other women. Thats how you should play it but not that directly ;).
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