Unfortunately, sometimes all it takes is one simple act of being needy to destroy all of a chick's attraction for you. Here are some examples.
This past weekend, I tried isolating this hot foreign chick from a 4-set. I was talking to the alpha female of the group, and the target was sitting down while we were standing. I talked a little to the target too. And after a few minutes, I did a compliance test by tugging on her her jacket sleeve and saying to her "I want to talk to you for a bit". She didn't pull away, but she didn't budge. And in her native country, touching is just as casual as it is here. I kept tugging (holy shit needy). She looked uncomfortable and then agreed to leave with me but asked her friend to tag along. I don't know what the PUA thing to do in this case (to un-fuck up the damage) would be so I went along with it. Needless to say, I didn't get anywhere with this one.
A couple days ago there was this hot chick at my gym's sign in desk. The initial conversation went well, and I knew she was gonna be there later so I decided go work my body first before working her. While I was working on one of the machines close to the desk, I casually struck up a conversation with the dude working beside her. She noticed and started stroking her hair like mad while constantly looking at me (IOI). She joined the conversation a couple times. I responded and pretended to not care. So after my workout. I go up to this chick, ready to ask her out. I do a little small talk, to establish comfort. Then the same guy I was talking to earlier basically AMOGs the shit outta me. I think my mistake was just standing there helplessly like a needy AFC while this guy is making himself look more alpha than me. I was honestly there for nearly 10 minutes after the guy chimed in and screwed me over.
And earlier tonight, on MSN, I fucked up again with a different girl that I met a month ago. I did my usual teasing routine. It was working until I started saying needy things like hinting that I miss seeing her in real life and why it's been so long since I last saw her. I knew I was fucking up while I was doing it, but somehow my fingers still found their way to the enter button. The consequences were immediate. Her IOIs that I was enjoying turned into IODs. Her response time suddenly went from very quick to forever, her responses were pretty much single lines and unenthusiastic, and she stopped asking questions or trying to keep the conversation alive. I still kept going though, since I really do miss her and wanted to ask her out so I can talk to her in real life again. Her response times were getting worse and worse. I knew I had to do something. So I said something like "I have to go soon" and also something rather bold. About five minutes later (just that is a clear IOD) she says something which is a clear IOD and then says good night to me.
Three girls. All of them hot. All of them with good personalities. All of them were attracted to me at some point. One single act of being needy drove them all away.
And why was I needy? I felt like I had to ask them out.
Training hard at the gym and refraining from masturbating until I do something to deserve it has put me in a confident and energetic state compared to, say, a month ago. But Mystery emphasized competence over confidence. I've got the confidence down. And that's why I'm able to open chicks and get IOIs. I definitely don't have the competence down. That's why I do or say or even type
things that cause them to no longer be interested. One of these things is being needy.I will see all of these girls in the future. The foreign chick is part of this club I'm kind of in. Same with the girl from MSN. And I will obviously see the girl who works at the gym again. I want to un-fuck up the damage I did. Opening a chick and not getting any IOIs out of her is fine. I won't want what I never had. But to open a chick and get lots of IOIs, kind of get to know her, then shoot yourself in the foot by being needy is different. I definitely want back something I lost.
I'm gonna continue to practice on random HB6+ chicks until I "get it", then keep going. And as a side note, I wish there were more hot chicks that were actually single. Holy fuck it's annoying to have to bail when you find out she has a boyfriend, especially if you're doing well and getting solid IOIs. Anyways, please share your thoughts, comments and ideas concerning my fail report.
