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Author:  Mr. Metal [ Sun Feb 21, 2010 9:07 pm ]
Post subject:  I need to move on. Help me.
So this girl and I really clicked. She wasn't just some regular HB. I could really relate to her kind of personality. I haven't kino escalated with her to a significant degree yet...honestly got stuck in A2 with her. I talked to her twice (briefly) in real life and got her facebook and MSN. I waited a few days after adding her before talking to her so I don't come off as needy.

Now here's where I fucked up. Too much push, not enough pull. This was how I treated her in real life too. It's been a few days and I haven't seen her online (she was online everyday before I talked to her), so I investigated. Conclusion - she probably thinks I'm a cocky asshole, which is why she proceeded to block and delete me a few minutes after I told her I just wanted to say hi (I honestly could have stayed and had a longer chat, but I wanted to be in control and end the conversation first. Silly me...).

Now she pretty much hates me and no longer wants me in her life although she was spitting out IOIs like a volcano just days ago. All it took was a 15 minute online chat for every spark of attraction she's ever had for me to die.

And that's fucking killing me. All I can think about is how I fucked up. How I should have qualified her and shown some interest instead of continuing to play it indifferent and trying to be cocky/funny.

I don't want to let a woman I can no longer have bring me down for the next few days. I need to move on and forget about her. Help me out guys, I'm so fucking shocked and completely lost right now. I don't want this to happen to me again.

By the way, if you guys were in my position, and you happened to bump into her again (it will happen for sure although probably not soon, we're both members of a club), how would you rectify this? I don't want to be apologetic or desperate, but I'm definitely still interested in her and want her to know that. She hasn't deleted me on facebook (yet), but facebooking her as this point pretty much screams desperation.
Author:  Spike007 [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 2:39 am ]
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Don't facebook, don't email her, just don't contact her. If you bump into her, talk to her but don't talk about shy she blocked you. You will look Just have a normal conversation with her. Be like if you are not making a big deal of it. She may see that maybe it's her who was overreacting.

It seems to me that your online game isn't as good as your game. Don't mix both of them. In my opinion online game is good to open/meet a girl. After that it's all about real game in real life.
Author:  Mr. Metal [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 3:54 am ]
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Yeah man online game is pretty much bullshit. You can't use body language or tone of voice to create attraction. You definitely can't get any kino going lol...you can only use words, and that's bullshit boring. Honestly barely any different from talking to someone in an online game.

I just can't believe a girl would go from feeling attracted to being offended enough to want to cast a guy out of her life forever just cause he was being cocky online. Now that I got over being shocked and kind of depressed, I actually find this moderately amusing. Maybe she's got anger issues or something. Her loss anyways :) . Guess now I'll go out and try to find some equally hot chicks to make her realize what she lost. Can't wait to see her face when that happens. Wish me luck.
Author:  Mr. Metal [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 3:55 am ]
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Yeah man online game is pretty much bullshit. You can't use body language or tone of voice to create attraction. You definitely can't get any kino going lol...you can only use words, and that's bullshit boring. Honestly barely any different from talking to someone in an online game.

I just can't believe a girl would go from feeling attracted to being offended enough to want to cast a guy out of her life forever just cause he was being cocky online. Now that I got over being shocked and kind of depressed, I actually find this moderately amusing. Maybe she's got anger issues or something. Her loss anyways :) . Guess now I'll go out and try to find some equally hot chicks to make her realize what she lost. Can't wait to see her face when that happens. Wish me luck.
Author:  Herne [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 4:01 am ]
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Freeze out is the answer--when you bump into her again be in deep conversation with others--say hi to her over your shoulder but no lingering eye contact just turn back and start talking to the others
Author:  BreakingTheCurse [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 4:04 am ]
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While I don't know what you said to her, it seems she is acting very immature. So how should you react? Ignore her. She's trying to get to you, don't let it show. If you have to say something to her (like at this meeting), make it short and quick. Other than that, ignore her. If she really wants you, she'll come crawling back. Her act should not be tolerated.

As Spike suggested too, online game is not ideal. Too many things get misinterpreted.
Author:  Mr. Metal [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 6:28 am ]
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Ok guys the weirdest shit just happened. Amusing really. She's actually online...

Like I said before, she's one of those girls who are always on MSN for several hours a day. And she wasn't online for nearly a week. She's got class so she wouldn't be away or anything. And if she's got lots of work she'd just leave her status on busy. I think she blocked me.

And also, when I first posted this thread I checked the privacy thingy on MSN which shows who has you added on their contact list. Her display name wasn't there. That's why I came to the conclusion that I was blocked and deleted. When I saw her online, I thought she wanted to talk again. But I checked privacy again, her name still wasn't there. It's puzzling cause it seems like she unblocked me without adding me back (doable on MSN, even though a really dumb move).

So I'm faced with the fact that she probably just deleted me after our online conversation and happened to not be online for a few days (not very likely). Or she's probably unblocked me without adding me back and now expects me to talk to her. Either way, I feel moderately insulted by her actions. And I think that she deserves to have me follow everyone's advice so far - don't contact her. The only downside to this is that after our real life conversations, we're still at A2. Not A3 or C1. She's gonna forget and not give a shit about me in a few weeks. What do you guys think? Talk to her in the near future or move on, find some new girls, and hope she gets jealous?
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