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Author:  puadoog [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 1:45 am ]
Post subject:  Ever wonder why some are lead to puaing while others...
Before I offend anyone note that I'm also in a way insulting myself.

Basically I caught myself in a melancholy and reflective moment and I can't help wondering if there is something wrong me that I suck so much at the whole meeting women and getting laid thing that I ended up googling my problems to death until I came across the whole PUA community.

It seems like MOST guys don't need this stuff to get laid ,etc.. I guess I just feel bad sometimes about being a 22 year old virgin .

And I'm not particularly unattractive, I'm athletic, and I think I am a genuinely interesting person yet I seem to have waay less experience than everyone else (I've only ever made out with three girls and I have had one hookup).

Since I'm anonymous I guess I can say things that I normally not say to people; I am a really really smart (maybe not a genius but that's not the point) person yet I utterly and completely fail with women. And I DO know the typical pitfalls of being too intellectual etc.. I purposely make lots of jokes and little observations although I think I take the C in C&F a little too far sometimes...

What do you guys think ? Is there any hope? ( I guess I am looking for an actual testimony here as opposed to cliche stuff that might be true but will fail in giving me any actual hope.. )

What am I doing wrong?
Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 2:28 am ]
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There will be a lot of answers telling you to read X books ect. I will give you my peace of advice because I was(still...but not really, I will explain) like you.

I don't call myself a PUA, I am able to open but I find hard to create sexual tension. Anyway what I did it's to work on my Inner game. Even if you read the best openers, you will need the guts of doing it. If you finally find the courage of going opening a set, if you are nervous it will fails for sure. So work on your inner game, in my opinion it's the most important thing. It's not only good for picking up women, but also in your life, your job ect. When you feel in security doing something, you will give the vibe that you are confident and strong. I can't continu this post for the moment because I am going out. ;)

Good luck.
Author:  leftytheking [ Sat Feb 13, 2010 5:03 am ]
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Basically your problem is that right now you do not have an ability to do something that you would like to do.

Some people are natural musicians. They pick up an instrument and almost immediately know how to play it. Many people learn an instrument, then stop practicing once they have no need for it. Some people don't take the time to learn an instrument at all. Some try for a bit, then give it up. Some people are naturally terrible but work at it until they are good.

Which of those people could eventually play in an orchestra? All of them.

No matter where on the road to learning you start, no matter how fast you travel that road, there is no reason you should be forced *off* that road. You have just as much claim to it than anyone else. You may start in different places. You may travel at different speeds. But as long as you are still walking that road you WILL go somewhere.

It doesn't really matter where we started compared to you. I'm learning, same as you. Nothing is broken, or beyond fixing, or whatever. Just like an instrument- put in the time, put in the attention, don't throw it away and complain that it's too hard- eventually, you will have symphonies at your fingertips.
Author:  Chief [ Sat Feb 13, 2010 1:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever wonder why some are lead to puaing while others...
Quote:
What am I doing wrong?
The most common problem that guys face in the community is that they follow Mystery Method.

lol

Have you solely done Mystery Method and MM-related stuff, or have you tried other methods that look at attraction from a sexualization perspective rather than a value perspective?
Author:  The_Enforcer [ Sun Feb 14, 2010 3:26 am ]
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Can you elaborate on why you think following only the Mystery Method is a problem?

I am not accusing you of anything or suggesting you are wrong, but I would honestly like to know what though process went into this comment.
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